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Topic: I'm In Love!!!
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SunChild Moderator Posts: 2096 From: Australia Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 18, 2006 09:59 AM
OMG! Okay, as some of you know I have been with my guy for over 5 years and well, we sort have lost that spark we initially had, but we are still living together. And I'm not sure if I want to marry him because I keep thinking about his other guy I worked with once 2 years ago. I thought it was just a silly crush because he is so cute!! But ever since I left that job I have had dreams about him, I think of him often and I almost cry at the thought of not being intouch with him. It's weird.So anyway, I found his email address in my book, I totally forgot I had it, I was extatic and emailed him right away. He was so happy to hear from me and I told how much I had been thinking about him. I felt bad about doing it because I didn't tell my partner. (he later found the emails anyway - I can't hide anything!!!) I'm confused about Love now. I don't know whether I want to meet this guy because I want to get physical, or because he is truly my soul mate. My dreams indicate he is the latter. But I still don't truly know. The guy I'm currently with I love to the core but it's a different love. And I've found out that my crush lives in London now!!!! NOOOOOOO! What do I do? So anyway, he sent me his picture tonight. I want to share his cuteness with you all! What do you think of him? He's sexy right? Lol [edited to remove his pic. ]
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Girl of the Water unregistered
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posted May 18, 2006 11:07 AM
Wow five years? You sound really optimistic, but it's going to be tough to really let go. This is something that needs to be thought out thoroughly- just don't make the decision because he's cute or because you have a hunch he's your soulmate. The dreams you are having can be just your mind compensating for something you desire, it doesn't mean you're meant to be with this guy.If I were you, I would tell the guy you're already with that a break is needed. Just tell him the truth- that you're confused and that there's a few things you need to figure out. He's been with you for five years, so you've probably been through a lot together. He'll be really hurt at first, but I'm sure he will understand. Then go out and visit this guy to see if there really could be something between you, but whatever you do, DON'T get physical. There is a difference between true love and a strong attraction, and having sex will just make things more confused. See what happens, and follow your heart, but be careful. There are many ways you can get hurt. IP: Logged |
paras unregistered
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posted May 18, 2006 01:15 PM
I have a question: how long since you felt you've "lost that spark" with the guy you're currently living with?IP: Logged |
pixelpixie Knowflake Posts: 40 From: ON Canada Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 18, 2006 03:55 PM
I trust in you. Whatever you need to do.Ps.... yeah, he's cute! Do you guys communicate well? IP: Logged |
GeminiLover75 unregistered
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posted May 18, 2006 05:31 PM
I've been there and I sympathise with you! Your story is so familiar. After five years it's hard to let go even if you think you *are* letting go... cos the emotional connection is still there. I guess the "spark" went out of that relationship for me a long time before the five years was up, but instead we evolved it into something else... but then I was getting unhappy because things weren't progressing or evolving anymore - then after I met with a crush I fell completely in love and it was then that I knew my relationship would never be the same. Things with my crush weren't destined to work out and I knew it was impossible, but with having that feeling of romantic love ignited in me, I could never go back again... It ended up that within two months I found what I was looking for in someone else altogether. (btw I still have a soft spot for my crush but I know it's an impossibility, so there is no point in harbouring too many feelings... and I think the reality of him would eventually be different than any romantic fantasies anyway). Good luck!!! IP: Logged |
sue g unregistered
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posted May 18, 2006 05:51 PM
He is very cute....hard for you to resist I would say....You will do the thing you need to..... I trust in you tooooo.... What sign is he btw? love xxxx IP: Logged |
lovely* unregistered
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posted May 18, 2006 06:15 PM
is he a cancer or virgo?you seem over the moon for him. cool IP: Logged |
double trouble gemini unregistered
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posted May 18, 2006 06:55 PM
hi sunchild, wow same story here...while i was reading i thought ur writting abt me! my 5 yrs relation lost the spark plus had many craks in the relationship,....2 yrs ago met this guy,worked with him for 1 month....had a massive massive crush on him....cried ever night after that,..couldnt get him off my mind 24/7.finally got his number but i didnt go ahead with my crush cause i didnt want to hurt my 5 yrs relation partner but at the same time i didnt want to continue with him.....so i set the score even and got rid of both of them ...it wasnt so easy ...if u like to share my story im sure u will find urself feeling some what the same.. http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/008008.html my crush for this guy gave me the most miserable 2 years of my life.....thank God i m much better now sunchild i would say u can think better if u give urself more time...dont rush just play it steady, be a good friend to both the guys and then see whos worth being 'ur man' best of luck (this is a very tricky situation..not easy at all )
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shop22much Newflake Posts: 0 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted May 18, 2006 09:28 PM
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GeminiLover75 unregistered
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posted May 19, 2006 12:20 AM
I agree with that, follow your heart... I did! Actually, truth be told, I was pretty reckless about it and people got hurt (which I still regret) - but throwing Taurean caution to the wind was something I finally needed to do for myself... thinking straight and taking my time wasn't an option as far as I was concerned! It's weird how things work out. So be as careful as you can with your five-year man's heart but do think of yourself too. IP: Logged |
paras unregistered
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posted May 19, 2006 03:29 PM
I really want to know, SunChild. I have something I want to say, that isn't one of the run-of-the-mill patent responses, nor wishy-washy and overly open to interpretation, but it depends a lot on your answer.IP: Logged |
SunChild Moderator Posts: 2096 From: Australia Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 25, 2006 09:38 PM
Hey thanks for replying everyone- I'm online for only 5 minutes because my connection died and is very unstable right now, I left a note in FFA about this.I haven't had any internet for days, last time I spoke with B I sent him my latest picture and I just checked my mail and there's no reply from him yet. Can you imagine all the thoughts going through my head? I'm sure he's just busy, anyway, I spoke to my partner Darren about everything!!! We had an honest and open discussion. It's all good. He's very high minded, supportive and loving, he wants me to explore my inner feelings so I can make the right choices for myself. Only a true soul-mate would offer such support. I love him. So anyway, Girl of the water, thanks, and I think it's good he lives in Londond because it prevents me from rushing into anything. Paras, we lost that 'spark'...for about a year I think. I would LOVE to hear what your reply will be. Pixie, I know.... And yes we have always communicated well. I reply more indepth later, I can see my DSL light flashing, not a good sign, I better hit reply now. IP: Logged |
Mystic Gemini unregistered
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posted May 26, 2006 02:39 PM
Do what makes you happy. If you feel you need to see him just to see how your feelings are then do it.
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