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Topic: How to attract a libra man???
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ScarlettSoul
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posted May 20, 2006 06:14 AM
 
I've had an attraction to a Libra man for a couple of months now, he's a friend of friends so I only see him maybe on weekends... but the attraction is always strong and seems to be mutual from what I can gather. He is a very friendly person, not super attractive, but the type many are drawn to... and he and I share many serendipidous coincidences that are UNCANNY... you woiuldn't believe them if I shared them... they are just unbelievable, and each time I see him we discover more... Anyhow, tonight we were out in a group setting and I felt his eyes on me for a while at one point. I look up, he smiles, and mouths, "I like you". He'd had a couple drinks and instantly looked a little embarrassed. Then, later this evening, I felt like he was flirting with a friend of mine. Not in the same way though. I feel there is some connection with us - like he's the male version of me... but still I wonder if I am reading in too much to his libra flirtation. I'm aries, he's libra so I'm wondering if the "opposite" thing is bringing on the attraction??? However, we are not opposites in personality, we are strikingly similar with similar backgrounds. I know Libras are notorious flirts... but does anyone have any thoughts on how I might see if there's more??? I REALLY like this guy and don't want to blow this. The sticky part is that I MUST tread carefully... one of my acquaintances in my circle of friends has been madly in love with him for 9 months. He's told her many times he has no feelings for her, but she continues to go after him. She is a very close friend of MY very close friend, so that's why I must have a certain respect for her feelings, as I have known about this libra man thru my friends months before I ever met him. What's a girl ram to do??? IP: Logged |
paras
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posted May 20, 2006 11:31 AM
Speaking as a Libra male...1.) GO FOR IT. He won't be put off by your directness, no worries there. He may want to make a move himself, and if he does but hasn't yet, that means he's suffering TWICE the agony of indecision you are. 2.) Libras are suckers for romantic guestures. Get gushy and mushy and sentimental on him, he'll swallow it whole, mop the plate with a slice of bread, and ask for seconds. 3.) Want to turn him on? Take some advice from Linda Goodman, wear anything that looks like it can easily be removed or pushed up or aside -- it'll drive him crackers, even if it's subconscious and he doesn't quite realize what it is. Skirts are a personal weakness of mine. Button shirts work for this, too, just leave the top few buttons open. Maybe the bottom few also.  And the more feminine you look, the better. Hope you don't have a "butch" haircut... 4.) Ignore the girl that wants him and won't take no for an answer. She's not your responsibility. Just my advice, for whatever it's worth!
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shop22much
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posted May 20, 2006 04:41 PM
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boo
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posted May 20, 2006 07:10 PM
I dated a Libra for a few years and I thought he was perfect. Though not for me.He wasnt fickle. He was very monogamous and when I brought up (merely hinted) at the suggestion of having an open relationship, he freaked out. He knew how to love you. He was so caring and put me on a pedestal, telling me to trust in us, and trust in him to take care of us. He never had a bad word to say about anybody. And was so calm and peaceful and creative to boot. Perfect. So why did we split up, right?
Well, for one thing, he was very indecisive. And the more decisions I had to make, the more I felt like I was the man in the relationship. (I am Cancerian woman. I want a quintessential man) There are other things too, but Im remembering this post is about you  So he may just be indecisive. He does like you but does he like you enough to want to date you? Do you like him for sure? These are questions he may be asking himself. My ex did like me, but the more I liked him the more he backed away. Then when I decided I had had enough and would just embrace him as a friend, he feel hard for me. Its the usual dance at the beginning of a relationship.
So ask him out for a drink.
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ScarlettSoul
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posted May 20, 2006 09:03 PM
Paras - Thanks for the libra man insight!! Now let me ask you this- do I worry about the fact that he seems to flirt with another friend of mine? Like, the way he talks to her is a different way than how he talks to me - more overt flirting that men do in bars all the time. The way we relate to one another seems more personal - like he remembers random things I said I liked that even I forgot. Last night I also heard hiim telling his friend I was pretty - and I'm pretty sure he purposely said I could hear it - but I pretended not to. Is this kind of thing real? Do all libra men need to have all the women's attention? How do I know if it's real interest or meaningless flirting with me?Also - I DO want to be direct - but there is this whole weird thing with our circle of friends and this other girl. If either one of us made a move, my girlfriends would be all be up in it before we could get it off the ground. How can I show him I like him in a private way?? What if he doesn't like me back - and I look like a giant tool to all of my friends for going for the guy she's been pining over for months??? Shop - You're scaring me! I would like to fall in love someday - not sure if he's the one yet - but I am all about following an attraction to see where it goes, as it happens so infrequently to me. I have been burned by Libra men in the past - they have a way of turning my knees to butter - so I will definitely heed your advice and be cautious with my heart!  Boo - Thanks for sharing your story with me! You said some things that give me a lot to think about with this one - I'll keep you posted if there are any new developments... I may see him again tonight... Thanks to Paras... I will be decked out in the most feminine get-up possible... no butch haircut here...
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Lauren
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posted May 21, 2006 08:21 PM
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shop22much
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posted May 21, 2006 10:27 PM
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posted May 21, 2006 11:00 PM
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shop22much
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posted May 21, 2006 11:12 PM
Hmm...I guess that makes sense, I do understand Libras on some level because of my 7th house placement, but I know I'd never just date anyone, I'm extremely picky...Anyways, the thing that gets to me, and always will is the indecisive Libra male, THEY CANNOT MAKE A DECISION TO SAVE THEIR LIVES...IF you said I will jump off a cliff in 2 mins if you dont make a decision, their heads would probably explode coz they wouldnt know what answer to say....even if you asked them a billion times before, THEY CANT MAKE A FREAKIN DECISION! Yuck.... They always think even in a serious commited relationship, its greener on the other side, theyre always looking for the one, even if they found the one, always searching..... coz Libra's mentality is...what if I didnt make the right decision? what woman wants to live with that? to know, the man you love is constantly thinking you might not be the one he loves? I cant imagine...
But your relationship doesnt sound like that, you are probably one of the rare few who has found a Libra that sits still..(knocks on wood)...
They just **** me the hell off....
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Mama Mia
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posted May 22, 2006 10:02 AM
Libra gus to me once in a relationship are the most stable of the 12 signs. Actually I love Libra men. Make your own decision. Fill him out first thats all don't jump in there head first make sure. As far as your friend goes she is your friend don't let anything like that come between you guys. Talk to her first. She is your responsibility she is your friends and friends look out for each others well being.. A man would say something Dumb as she is not your responsibility...Women NEED to stick together.. It will all work out. I know a few Libra and Aries couples.. IP: Logged |
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posted May 22, 2006 11:37 AM
Well, I see I have some very opinionated women here disagreeing with my advice! And that's perfectly okay. But I'm going to respond to it anyway, because I feel like it. shop22much: Don't you think you're stereotyping a bit much? Do you really know enough Libra men to speak for all of them? And you are quite harsh in your assessments. Sorry it didn't work out for you with a LIbra, or that we don't suit your impulsive Aries tastes, but that doesn't mean we aren't for anybody. Mama Mia: you are right in what you say about friends, but I meant "you aren't responsible for her" in the sense that, from a cosmic perspective, no person is responsible for another -- we each have to be responsible for ourself. And I think it would be a terrible waste of Love if an opportunity for it was lost due to fear of hurting someone else's feelings, when that someone else should understand and accept that she isn't going to get what she wants.  Glad to hear you have some hair, ScarlettSoul. Butchy haircuts are so... YUCK! Why would a woman want to look masculine? I've never understood it. Good luck! I hope he isn't one of the fickle ones. Men, I mean, not Libras. IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted May 22, 2006 12:22 PM
Yeah well inspite of how you meant it, it came out sounding nasty and you have to keep in mind that however you start out a relationship is how it ends. If you start it out being dishonest and cut throat non caring it will come back to get you. Ok he is not interested in her friend she should sit down and tell her friend how she feels and if her friend has a hard time excepting that then that is something else atleast she was up front with her. Don't just brush it under the carpet like her friend does not matter. Yes what it meant to be will be but,but if it isn't she still needs to keep her friendship with her girl...Friends are forever or can be bfriends come and go.. IP: Logged |
ScarlettSoul
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posted May 22, 2006 03:03 PM
Mama Mia - I totally hear you, and women DO need to stick together. But... I also get where Paras is coming from. Without boring you with too many details - this girl has been after him for more than 9 months, and at one time (like last fall) they were spending some time together... I don't think they ever slept together though (but not for lack of her trying). It was never serious, and now when she sees him, she ALWAYS tries to get him to come home. He's very kind but always declines. He cares for her, I can tell, just not that way. She is NOT a close friend of mine, more of an acquaintance, but she's very close to my best friend. So it's my relationship with my best friend that I'm most worried about damaging, as she would feel very trapped in the middle I'm sure. Anyway... no, I am not responsible for this girl's happiness, and I can tell you this is the desperate type of woman that believes you TAKE love wherever you find it... meaning she'd steal someone's husband (and has in the past) if it benefits her... she'd have no shame in her game being with a friend's boyfriend if she felt "love" was there. I would never do those things. This man was never her boyfriend, and he's been telling her for months that "there's no spark" and "I'm not looking for a serious relationship, and if I were, it would not be with you". OUCH. Take a hint. How many times must she hear that??? Paras - I feel like I'm in such an awkward spot - I want him to ask for my # or ask to spend time with me alone, and I don't know if he ever will. I think we both have the same problem - our friends would be upset at us if we got involved. Keep in mind, when I see him, the friends are ALWAYS around... very few moments of privacy... and "the girl" watches me like a hawk when I talk to the libra. Are most libras agressive if they are interested in a woman? Or will I have to make all the moves??? (sooo not me) Can you think of a subtle way I can let him know I LIKE HIM TOO and that I WANT him to MAKE A MOVE???
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posted May 22, 2006 03:20 PM
Can I think of a subtle way? LOL, as you have seen, I'm not big on subtlety (I blame my Sagittarius Moon ). Also, subtleties seem to be your problem here. All the friends around, neither of you wanting to offend their desires... wait, what have their desires to do with your relationship to this man? Or his relationship to you? Sorry to say, no, I recommend against subtlety. I don't know him, so I can't say whether or not he's the sheep type who'll always want you to take the lead. You'll have to determine that yourself. If your friends really are friends, they would want to see you happily mated. Follow your heart. And as for "the girl"... the last thing that will nurture her spiritual growth is having her sicknesses catered to.  IP: Logged |
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posted May 23, 2006 12:54 AM
Scarlett...I just wanted to mention one thing and it's about your concern over Mr. Libra flirting with another female. Remember: he's single. single men will flirt with (and practice on) just about any woman who is young enough to appreciate the opposite sex. As long as he's unattached, he's going to flirt a little, regardless of how he feels. So...you may need to take the bull by the horns in this one. He's already told you he likes you. IP: Logged |
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posted May 23, 2006 03:38 AM
Paras - I am afraid to say, I think you're right about the subtlety... I am embarrassed to say I have NEVER made the first move with a man... every relationship I have been in, it's been the man that has come after me. I feel like I have been doing my fair share of flirting, I'm sure he knows there is interest on my part, but I guess I need to step it up a notch... Blue Topaz - Thanks for reminding me about the flirting thing. I know better than this - that's what men do I suppose! I'll try not to worry about it from now on... Thank you for all your generous advice, I REALLY appreciate it! I didn't get a chance to see him Saturday, but hopefully this weekend... will let you know if your tactics worked! In gratitude,
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posted May 23, 2006 04:10 AM
I have to agree with the advice that Paras gave. I was married to a Libra, have a Libra son and is now again involved with a Libra. I'm a Capricorn and have always wondered why I attract libras then discovered I have a 7th house stellium and Venus is my chart ruler. Anyway ScarlettSoul, Libras are lovely people but you have to accept that they will never stop flirting so if you're the jealous type forget about it. They love beautiful women or anything beautiful and it's in their nature to flirt or use their charm.
As for the other girl, forget about feeling guilty even for your best friend. Surely they can see that this guy is not into her. She should move on instead of wasting her time waiting on this guy.
As for libras making decisions or the first move, they have trouble doing that so a subtle move on your side to let him know you're interested should do, nothing too pushy.
Good luck!
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posted May 23, 2006 09:16 PM
Its all up to you girlfriend. I, peronally, do not have good experiences with libra-influenced people. But I have cancer sun and mercury and water-influenced energy. Theyre logical, I'm moody. Apples and oranges-you know? One of my ex's was a libra and I hated it when he would try to "figure me out". (Why do you do this? Why that?) He got fed up with my moods. One of the other differences was when I wanted to be alone and he wanted to spend more time together-he took it kind of personally. I don't think either of us were wrong for what we wanted, I guess we just didn't mix well together.But if you like the guy then go for it. The fire-air exchange is always interesting. Lauren had alot to say, and she's an aries.
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posted June 02, 2006 02:36 PM
Libra men are wonderful, I am married to one, and he is the most easy going, tolerant, cooperative, committed man. He is also a happy, positive, loyal person, he is just lovely. He has Cappy ascendant, so is increadibly hard-working and ambitious as well, so a nice mixture of decisiveness (Cappy) and charm and easy going nature (Libra).
I recommend Libra men for marriage, as they really make an effort, know that small (and big) attentions are very important, and are sensitive to their partner's feelings. They are just lovely. Not shovinistic or controlling at all, just on the contrary.
How to attract them? Well, they do like a pretty face and a beautiul smile will really work for them. Be feminine, show that you are intelligent, don't be too intense, at least in the beginning and everything will be fine.
Also, be their friend first and foremost, they really appreciate that. I did notice that Libra men, and also Libra moon-ers really like feminine, sofisticated women, but the ones who know what they want.
They need a bit of time to make up their mind, you know the scale balancing, but once they are committed, they really are wonderful and always think of their partners. Good luck! IP: Logged |
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posted June 02, 2006 03:22 PM
So, how's everything working out with that situation, ScarlettSoul?IP: Logged |
ScarlettSoul
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posted June 03, 2006 05:40 AM
Selena - thanks for your thoughts!! I love your take on the libra male... I can only hope to be so lucky!! Paras - Thanks for asking!! I wish I had something great to report, but unfortunately I have not seen him since the last time I wrote about him and he said "I like you"... a couple of weeks ago I think. It's been torture... As you know, I am pretty much at the whims of our friends to get something going, and that is sometimes difficult to do since I can't be honest with any of them about my feelings yet. Last weekend I had to go out of town, and everyone got together...He asked where I was, but that's all the info I have. Then tonight, we went out to celebrate my bon voyage (I'm heading to Europe on Sunday for a whole month) and HE was out of town. I was told "he really wanted to be there". Hmm. Well, I do want to be straightforward about the fact that I am into him when I see him next, but that won't be for a good long while now. July! Sheesh. I was really hoping to see him tonight - but obviously it was not meant to be right now... It's so frustrating... it's VERY rare for me to feel chemistry like this with someone, and when it does finally happen, it seems like nothing is aligned properly...  IP: Logged |
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posted June 03, 2006 04:19 PM
Hey, Scarlett, Don't be sad! If it is meant to be, it will be, just take one day (or month, in your case!) at the time.
I noticed that Libras like to have a bit of space at the beginning, they don't like to be called 20 times a day, demanded upon and pushed, and so on, however, once they are hooked, they are the picture of togetherness. They like to go out for nice meals, movies, galleries, walks in the park and so on. They also seek and respect their partner's opinions, which is a nice thing.
My Libra is not flirty, he is very stable and committed, perhaps it is his Cappy rising, I don't know, but he is very loyal. Still, he is charming and great conversationalist, everyone loves to invite him to their parties, dinners, etc, which is nice, as I am not as communicative
Honestly, if you find a nice Libra man, don't let go of him. They really are lovely people, very partnership oriented, and nothing seems to be too much trouble for them to do for their loved ones.
Of course, not all Libras are like that, but most of the ones I know are reasonable, cooperative people, who do care about others, and most of them have excellent, refined taste!
So good luck, just be nice, easygoing and relaxed around him, have fun, and things will happen. Ciao. IP: Logged |
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posted June 04, 2006 04:40 PM
My ex libra was very faithful due to his Saturn trine Sun, but liked beauty in all things. Intensity was not his style.I did have a huge influence on his life so it was worthwhile and he loves to travel, and have fun-he is great to talk to still on a superficial level, very much like the Aqua men I know-confused by intensity into thinking it's romantic, and both like to work with their hands, fix things, be practical, be needed. As for decisions Libras like air men are great at travel arrangements but not with money or career. I would need two men. Natasha
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posted June 05, 2006 07:04 AM
A libra woman here and I guess I can read them.Don't swear very much (of course I do swear in private, but only when guys insult me)
Be clean and pretty (beautiful things always attract us)
Be very feminine and also very efficient (We do know our indecesiveness, so we expect our partner to give quick solutions (only when asked ))
Don't ***** about the other gal (that is not justice)
Dont question or suspect us (trust is the basis of any relationship)
Be with us in times of adversity These are my perceptions. BTW I never dated a Libra man IP: Logged |
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posted June 06, 2006 11:32 AM
Hey sweetlibra, Libra-Libra couples are by far the most common of same sign couples that I know or have heard of.
And they usually last forever, very happy together, I can just imagine Libra-Libra bliss : a wonderful, stylish home, beautiful clothes, harmonious atmosphere, wonderful!
You Libras have so much natural style and grace, you rock! IP: Logged | |
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