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posted June 02, 2006 12:35 AM         

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# I wonder if I should post my reply? What the heck, you are all my friends#

I love this man that I have known for two years now, but ,due to unfortunate things, we can never be together. I know that, deep in my heart, we are soul mates. He is the first person I truly love and imagine spending my life with.
Nobody will ever be him, and I will always compare future lovers to him ( to what might have been).

This may come as a shock to some of you guys

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posted June 02, 2006 10:34 AM         

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I am so proud of you!

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~I intend to continue learning forever~"Fayte"
~I am still learning~ Michangelo
The Door to Gnosis is never permanently locked...one only needs the correct keys and passwords.
The pious man with closed eyes can often hold more ego than a proud man with open eyes.
Out of the mouth of babes commeth wisdom that can rival that of sages.
In the rough, or cut and polished..a diamond is still a precious gem.
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posted June 02, 2006 02:19 PM         

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thats great, but why doom yourself by saying you'll never be together?
do you really have any idea whats going to happen in the future?
ope springs eternal and love with find a way
if you still believe

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posted June 02, 2006 10:06 PM         

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Yang
13anshee is right on in this!
Who knows what the future will bring!
But I feel you do have a dear friend in him. No matter what.

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~I intend to continue learning forever~"Fayte"
~I am still learning~ Michangelo
The Door to Gnosis is never permanently locked...one only needs the correct keys and passwords.
The pious man with closed eyes can often hold more ego than a proud man with open eyes.
Out of the mouth of babes commeth wisdom that can rival that of sages.
In the rough, or cut and polished..a diamond is still a precious gem.
-NEXUS-

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posted June 02, 2006 11:12 PM         

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Thank you Fayte and 13.

I feel that if anything does happen, it wouldn't last long. He will reach old age far quicker than I will. He is thirty years older than I am!

But, despite that, I still wish something will happen to bring us closer!

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posted June 03, 2006 05:13 AM         

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Yang~

I hear ya with the age thing. If you don't mind my asking, how old are you? (don't feel like you have to answer).

Mutable~

Thanks for checking in. I am doing OK. What about yourself?

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posted June 03, 2006 06:22 AM         

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I am in my early twenties....

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posted June 03, 2006 09:08 AM         

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My grandfather was some 50 years OLDER than my grandmother.
Yet they had seven children together in 17 years together before he passed on.
So age is not a factor unless you or he let it be one.

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~I intend to continue learning forever~"Fayte"
~I am still learning~ Michangelo
The Door to Gnosis is never permanently locked...one only needs the correct keys and passwords.
The pious man with closed eyes can often hold more ego than a proud man with open eyes.
Out of the mouth of babes commeth wisdom that can rival that of sages.
In the rough, or cut and polished..a diamond is still a precious gem.
-NEXUS-

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posted June 03, 2006 09:39 AM         

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i can second the age thing, i used to be negative about that
but my sister is married to a man older than my dad!
he's like a good 30 years older than her and they get along just fine
always remember, if your willing to lay down fear and face whatever comes in the name of love, the universe will reward your courage

and thats something i see comming true more and more every day

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posted June 03, 2006 10:44 AM         

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Yang- Hiya... I just want to get this clear... so the 'shocking thing' is you're gay? Okay, just checking in case you're actually a woman and I've forgotten!
Sorry about your soulmate, but hey at least (from what I can tell) you got a brief relationship? If not, have you told this guy how you feel, or is that not a good idea..?

GLLF- Hey, yeah. I suppose my mind's getting used to disappointment and stuff now. More like a constant numbing pain than a stab each day. Is it like that with you?

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posted June 03, 2006 10:57 AM         

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To be honest with you, the age thing really DOESN'T bother me. If we did get involve, it my be a factor on his side-however I doubt that!

TMNF- I am actually bisexual-I still love women.

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posted June 03, 2006 10:59 AM         

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and that's something...everyday

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13- Are you talking about me, or in general?

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posted June 03, 2006 12:14 PM         

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Age differences definitely do not need to be a problem!
My father-in-law is handsome! Age 70.
I am married to his equally handsome son! age 36.
Both my Father-in-law's wife(he divorced my husband's mother and remarried decades ago)and I are about the same age!
Me 51, her 54!
SO son and father are married to us women about the same age!

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~I intend to continue learning forever~"Fayte"
~I am still learning~ Michangelo
The Door to Gnosis is never permanently locked...one only needs the correct keys and passwords.
The pious man with closed eyes can often hold more ego than a proud man with open eyes.
Out of the mouth of babes commeth wisdom that can rival that of sages.
In the rough, or cut and polished..a diamond is still a precious gem.
-NEXUS-

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posted June 03, 2006 09:47 PM         

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Mutable~ Yes.

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posted June 04, 2006 04:54 AM         

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My sister is 8 years older than her husband and they have the most stable, loving, committed relationship (marriage) of all the couples I know.
They have been married for 12 years and have 9 year old son.

She is a Leo, he Taurus.

As for falling in love
I was in love a few times (maybe 3), but only once overwhelmingly, madly, deeply, unforgettably.
I don't think I could experience that kind of intensity again, I don't know if I want to, it is too much...

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posted June 04, 2006 04:54 AM         

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Double post, sorry

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posted June 04, 2006 08:35 AM         

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yang, i was refering to my life and my personal battles

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posted June 04, 2006 02:28 PM         

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GLLF, I don't put soppy hearts for everyone, but establishing an affinity here- aww.

Yang- Hey, I hear ya... with the age thing. I mean I well document this around here but I also have a passion for older men. It just got me in a lot of s*** and caused me unimaginable pain. So yeah... haha! But lucky for you, you're over consent which makes this practically a non-dilema. What is the main issue? He knows you like him right? Is it that he is with someone?

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posted June 04, 2006 04:42 PM         

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One thing I am sure of, is that if you feel negatively about something it's not love.

What you felt is not love but regret,
looking ahead if something or someone makes you feel good positive about living then you are in love again and that's what's important.

If someone makes you cry, it's really true it's not love.

Nothing negative is loving. Even though it feels like my heart is being ripped out I break it off with a man I am in love with if he is negative enough to make me cry more than three times. I can't handle the sadness.

Natasha
Taurus/Cancer Moon

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posted June 04, 2006 08:58 PM         

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13- Ok , cool

Everything was perfect in the sense that he was divorced and single (still is). The only snags are: he is straight as an arrow, he is not interested in a gay relationship ( I find out this by asking him what he would do if a gay guy asked him out ( at this time I kept my feelings to myself) and he is back in my home country, whereas I am here in England.
But before, everything was perfect except his orientation.

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posted June 04, 2006 10:08 PM         

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Natasha~

I disagree. Love is hard because it must be....because true love is priceless. And I think only very special people find that kind of love. But who ever said it should be easy? And without a little heartache?

My parents went through ten years of enormous heartache and ups and downs before walking down the aisle. Their romance was like a Russian novel. But they have been happily married for about 25 years now -- they say theior marriage gets better every year. All the heartache and tears and breakups were worth it for them.

Crying to me is not "negative." I laugh a lot and I cry a lot. For many different reasons. I wouldn't have it any other way.

To me, that is what is beautiful about being a human being. The capacity to feel. Deeply.

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posted June 05, 2006 07:12 AM         

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Natasha, I couldn't agree more with GLLF post. True love is priceless and not easy. Being in a not so usual love relationship about 10 years, I can tell.

If my hubby only made me laugh I would think he hasn't a personality of his own at all. That he is trying to adapt him to myself.Or worst, I would think he is always compromising to see me happy. I wouldn't be flattered by this.

The kind of overly romantic, sugar-sticky love relationship its not down to earth and can't last for long. Its tiresome and clash with day to day reality.

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posted June 05, 2006 07:48 AM         

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Aquarius_Lover & GLLF
Excellent observations on true love and being real people in love not a fantasy sugar coated never a rainy day hollow illusion.
Anger is not the only reason for tears. Joy, pain, grief and more are, and being able to share feelings with each other is wonderful!
True love will weather the storms of life.
True love accepts us each our peccadilloes and even finds them endearing.
To real people and real love!

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~I intend to continue learning forever~"Fayte"
~I am still learning~ Michangelo
The Door to Gnosis is never permanently locked...one only needs the correct keys and passwords.
The pious man with closed eyes can often hold more ego than a proud man with open eyes.
Out of the mouth of babes commeth wisdom that can rival that of sages.
In the rough, or cut and polished..a diamond is still a precious gem.
-NEXUS-

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posted June 05, 2006 10:13 AM         

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WOW Fayte.M!

Thats it! I couldn't say better. Beautiful post. You just wrote down my thoughts

English is not my born language so I have lots of limitations to express myself. Do you read minds? LOL

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posted June 06, 2006 08:46 PM         

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Aquarius_Lover- LOVE your username.

BTW-This man I have been talking about, is an Aquarius...

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