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Topic: Oh no!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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cappy
Knowflake Posts: 53
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Registered: Dec 2004
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posted June 15, 2006 10:44 AM
 
That's what I'm talking about Lulu!!!!! IP: Logged |
Swerve
Knowflake Posts: 785
From: London
Registered: Nov 2002
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posted June 15, 2006 11:24 AM
Lulu- I've only read a little, but I really don't understand what makes some men think they can act like this. They are nothing but animalistic losers. Unfortunately, there may be some women who make them feel justified by not calling them on their **** and just dumping them cold on the spot.I have this horrible habit of chasing women who could be deemed as having been disrespectful. Sometimes drama is exciting, sometimes its damaging. Its not always easy or obvious to discern between the two. I sincerely wish you the best. Swerve IP: Logged |
LuLu
Knowflake Posts: 102
From: Louisville, Kentucky, USA
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted June 15, 2006 11:53 PM
Thank you Cappy!!!! It's hard at the moment, but I know his tricks too well by now. He is trying to "freeze" me out by acting like I don't exist. It's immature really to delete e-mails before reading them ( I am talking about large group e-mails that I have to send out as part of my job. Our e-mail system lets you know when they are opened and when they are deleted). He won't even respond to work e-mails from my sales partner. It's a good thing though. It gives me a break from his crap for awhile. I know him well enough to know that he will be really sh***y with me for awhile and then he will be begging me to talk to him again. Right around the time he hasn't slept for a week straight will be when he tries to talk to me. Sorry buddy, it's your conscience keeping you awake at night. Not my fault at all. My strength should be good and tough enough by then though to once again tell him to buzz off.IP: Logged |
Stargazer
Knowflake Posts: 501
From: Columbus OH USA
Registered: Aug 2005
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posted June 16, 2006 01:38 PM
LuLu....
I know I'm a lil' late.. but had to comment...you said,
*******I know him well enough to know that he will be really sh***y with me for awhile and then he will be begging me to talk to him again. Right around the time he hasn't slept for a week straight will be when he tries to talk to me. Sorry buddy, it's your conscience keeping you awake at night. Not my fault at all. My strength should be good and tough enough by then though to once again tell him to buzz off.***** I have always found it true of the Scorp men I've dated... They know just when to contact you... I would get all puffy with strength and be ready to let it go... (8wks no contact) and bam! he'd call... and its so easy to get sucked back in.... I am glad to know that you are aware of this... keep up the strength... or at least appear that way for the time being.... As a fellow cappy riser, I know you can pull off appearances... and of course, you are a Taurus  Love... I also have the venus/pluto conjunction with the oh! so very Scorpio...
less than 1' in Virgo.. my Sun, Merc. and venus fall in his 1st....
He has natal pluto in Virgo in the 1st
I have natal pluto in virgo in the 8th...and natal venus in virgo in the 7th...
The obsession factor works both ways.... lioneye.. loved your post..i like and agree with your take on the lesser evolved, soul destroying Scorpio male...thanks for the reminders  IP: Logged |
cappy
Knowflake Posts: 53
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Registered: Dec 2004
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posted June 16, 2006 07:51 PM
Hi Lulu!
Sorry I'm only responding now. Got caught up....
Keep going forward and don't worry too much about his own action or reaction to you. As Stargazer said, as a cappy rising (or sun like me) you'll always look like you're in control on the outside and that's what matters. And you know what? He's doing whatever he's doing because he knows you're the one in control. Don't look back for you'll stumble. If you do stumble, just pick up again and go...It takes time
I've been following your post about this guy for awhile and I think you're doing a great job. Just keep the door tightly closed for sure...If he doesn't read your professional emails, it only shows his immaturity and definitely slacking on the job. But it's his life, not yours. If I were you, I would disable whatever it is on your email program that allows me to see when he reads/deletes my emails.
I know that I am a very sensitive, even obssessive person when it comes to love and relationship (Scorp rising, go figure!)and the slightest reminder keeps replaying things in my mind and prevents me from truly moving on and so my tricks these days is disable the reminders that I can disable: such as msn connections, emails, phone #s. As you see I'm crazy but it's the only one that works for me...see if that does the trick. But I do this really when I'm in the first moments of moving on, you're in the late stage...so that bodes well.
good luck
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LuLu
Knowflake Posts: 102
From: Louisville, Kentucky, USA
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted June 16, 2006 10:57 PM
Thank you Stargazer and Cappy. I am a good one for appearances...that much is true. And the Taurus in me doesn't like to be backed into a corner, so when the stubborn decision-making sets in, there won't be anyone who can change my mind. I thank my psychology degree for being able to see a lot of his patterns. He always hated that...the way I think everything through. He was always trying to get me to "stop overthinking everything". The comment did nothing but irritate the crap out of me. He just didn't want me to recognize and call him on his BS. And yes, Cappy, I have deleted all previous messages sent and received from him out of both my personal e-mail and work e-mail. When I send something out that involves him, I usually delete it after the majority of people have opened it so I won't fester over how long it will take him to open it. Plus...I deleted him out of my cell phone. Not to say that I don't know it's him when he calls, but I think my next move is to just not answer at all. I can delete his messages without listening to them. It still stings when I hear people say his name and talk about his girlfriend, but it's also been a little more reassuring lately to hear people who know nothing about the situation talk about how much they dislike him. I guess I was blind to it for awhile. He has become so money driven that he has lost himself. That in itself is a little bit of comfort because I can honestly say that the person I knew in the beginning is gone. I don't know this person now and I don't want to.Thank you all very much for your words of advice and your sharing of experiences. It means a lot to me and reminds me everytime someone responds that I am doing the right thing. I really need this and I again thank you all for taking the time to be here for me. It can be hard when you get caught up in what you felt for someone, even if they aren't the same person anymore. It's hard to let go, but there isn't any going back. The person I knew and cared for has been replaced with someone who seems to be missing a large part of their soul. I don't want that. IP: Logged |
Love
Knowflake Posts: 195
From: Canada
Registered: Feb 2006
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posted June 17, 2006 02:31 AM
LuLu ~ You said ***I thank my psychology degree for being able to see a lot of his patterns. He always hated that...the way I think everything through. He was always trying to get me to "stop overthinking everything". The comment did nothing but irritate the crap out of me. He just didn't want me to recognize and call him on his BS.It still stings when I hear people say his name and talk about his girlfriend, but it's also been a little more reassuring lately to hear people who know nothing about the situation talk about how much they dislike him. He has become so money driven that he has lost himself.***Holy Crap! Psychology degree - check! New girlfriend - check! Work together - check! Everything else - check! My Scorp ex literally gave me the 'overthinking it' line the last time we talked. And it annoyed me so much for the very same reason. And Cappy, you said *** He's doing whatever he's doing because he knows you're the one in control***.
That made me think a bit. In fact reading this whole thread has been really and truly helpful for me. I have had the hardest time ever letting this relationship go (not outwardly, but in my heart) but reading all of your advice and experiences has given me a better perspective on this whole thing. So even though this wasn't my thread, thanks you guys! Love  IP: Logged |
LuLu
Knowflake Posts: 102
From: Louisville, Kentucky, USA
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted June 17, 2006 03:41 PM
I was sending out congratulations on sales today and the Scorp e-mailed me to ask why I congratulated the manho. I told him it was nothing like that. I was just bored. He then asked if I wanted to talk to him on my cell phone while he went outside to smoke. I told him no, I couldn't do that. He asked if I meant talking to him. I said yes, that is what I meant. I was so proud of myself!!! Then I deleted his e-mails. I knew he would try again, I just figured I had another week or so to go.IP: Logged |
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