posted July 13, 2006 07:00 PM         

You're right about leaving him be once he's said his peace, but I may have some trouble with that. In the middle of this bout, while he was still seething, I wanted to keep talking it out and he told me he didn't want to talk about it anymore, but that just drives me crazy! Maybe it's the fire placements in me, but I'd rather have a screaming match than sit in silence. So I kept picking at him...probably not the best idea!

Well, this could get a little long winded, so I hope you don't mind reading a little...lol.

Unfortunately for me, Mr. Scorp works horrific hours, like 75-80 per week (stellium in the 6th). So, I don't get to see him but maybe twice a week. I hate it, but being a Cap I guess makes me understanding in that respect. I know that if we saw eachother more frequently I'd be up for going out more, but since we don't I get a little selfish and want him all to myself. Well, when last Friday night rolled around I was in a bit of a "cranky cappy" mood, just tired and not really feeling all that social. We already had plans to get together, and I was ready to just spend the evening with him taking it easy on the couch. He left me a voicemail saying that some of the people he worked with were going out for some drinks after work and asked if I wanted to go. I was really not in the mood, but he sounded excited about it so I didn't say anything, although he could tell I wasn't in the best mood.

Now, for a little "history" on this, the first time I met some of his co-workers I got a rather chilly reception. A couple of them were real nice but the majority didn't seem open to talking to me at all. So, I was already in a crappy mood, and having to go there knowing that I may feel uncomfortable around these people didn't help. I figured I'd call my best friend (a sunny Leo) and see if she'd want to meet me up there. I thought I'd feel more comfortable if I had someone sort of from my home court to talk to, and if he wanted to mingle with his friends I could hang with her instead of just sitting there. I hate coming off as an "ice queen bit*h," or like the girlfriend from hell that won't let him talk to his friends, but since none of them were all that friendly I didn't want to take the risk. My girlfriend had a first date that night with a new guy, but she said she'd see if he'd want to come up there for a drink.

I felt really nervous when I got to the bar and generally uncomfortable. Mr. Scorp knew it of course and kept asking me what was up. I didn't want to spill out my insecurities, so I gave the stock female answer of "nothing...just tired." No one was really making an effort to talk to me other than him.

When my girlfriend and her date arrived, I was instantly relieved and greeted her with a big hug. The two of them sat down at a table behind us. Mr. Scorp immediately picked up on my instant mood change, and commented on it. He asked why I got in such a better mood the second she walked in. I told him I'd be honest with him, and I told him exactly why I'd been acting strange earlier, and why I had invited her. He was ****** . He was furious that I hadn't just told him this on the phone before so that we could have just stayed in. He was ****** because he didn't understand why I lit up so much when she walked in but I wasn't that "elated" when I saw him. Then he said that I had been "cold" to everyone there since I had arrived and hadn't even looked anyone in the eye. This ****** me off. He has ALWAYS told me that he would be my strongest ally, and would always be loyal to me even if he thought I was dead wrong about something. So, when he said that I thought he was going against me. I explained to him that the last time we had gone out with these people, only two of them made any effort to talk to me, and that made me put my guard up this time. He knew this, because it had ****** him off before that they had all given me the cold shoulder. I told him that I guess I hadn't proved myself to him as he was showing more "loyalty" to them and acting as if I was the one who was unfriendly. That was it. That did it. That's when I got "the look." The argument escalated from there, and he got worse before he got better. My girlfriend could detect that we were fighting, so before she and her date left the bar she came up to us and tried to make some jokes and lighten up the situation (gotta love leos). That helped a little and we talked it out after that. Once we had it sorted out though, he gave me that look again, and said the last thing he was going to say about. "Don't you EVER, EVER, question my loyalty again." I could see in his eyes that he absolutely meant it, so I definitely won't! LOL...So yeah, we salvaged the night and all was well. I felt so guilty about it the next day though. He had told me he could give a sh*t about hanging out with the people from work, and all he really cared about was spending time with me, which is why he wished I would have just told him everything in the first place. It's these damn dark Cap moods I tell ya! God love him though, he actually put a positive spin on it. He said at least we know we have a healthy relationship. It's good to fight now and then.

I do have a funny story for ya though. I've been telling all the girls I know about it b/c I just think it's too damn funny. Last week was my "monthly visitor" time. I was on the phone with Mr. Scorp and told him I didn't feel well. He asked what was wrong, and I just said well, guess what happened today? Typical man it took him a minute. He was trying to be funny and started pulling things out of his ass. "Chinese Christmas?" he asked. I laughed and said no, but that's what I'm calling it from now on! I love it, and it works so well! If you're at work and you're out of supplies, you can just yell to the girl next to you, "Hey, I'm celebrating Chinese Christmas! Do you have any ornaments to spare?" It's great...and much better than any of the other terms we have to use! Sounds so festive!

posted July 14, 2006 09:22 AM         

I'm okay, just lurking... I've got a Scorpio, and Leo whom I'm talking to off the dating site. It's just so hard to get motivated to meet someone new. I wish the Cap. would've given me a rejection, an ending, which would make this easier to get over. These guys do come off as cold-hearted bas-turds to be the recipient of a love letter like the one I wrote and then never hear from him again. I'm wallowing in self-pity.

And I can't even blame it on Chinese Christmas!!?

posted July 14, 2006 11:12 AM         

LOL

posted July 14, 2006 11:32 AM         

Oh well, guess I'll just curl up in the fetal position and suck my thumb for a while.

posted July 14, 2006 04:11 PM         

I'm glad it's the weeeeeekend!

I like these little fun faces!!

I need to get some sun!

So... what's your other sign placements, Crank? (venus/mars/moon/asc) I'm Cap/Pisces/Sag./Cancer.

posted July 14, 2006 04:35 PM         

Well, here are my major placements:
asc - Leo
moon - Pis
merc - Sag
venus - Scorp
mars - Cap (conjunct Sun)

posted July 14, 2006 04:46 PM         

AG is doing this ...

posted July 17, 2006 11:14 AM         

I was off on Friday and had a pretty hectic weekend... I went to a wedding w/Cappy, one of his really good friends... it was WONDERFUL!!! We really had a great time together, nothing surprising though, we always have a good time together... I don't sign on much during the weekend so I apologize for my delayed responses. BScorp1104, just be patient but remember not to put up w/the crap... lol

CrankyCap, HILARIOUS!!! Ur Scorp sounds like ever the smartass... lol I think ill be adapting that new phrase "Chinese Christmas" Luv it... Corny but funny... thats usually a Scorp's humor anyway... lol About your fight... WOW... I know that was a interesting to say the least... lol Sounds like a typical Scorp/Cap fight... Usually about the feelings... lol Both tend to be so cautious about hurting the others feelings not realizing that we hurt eachother more when we don't talk about our feelings... especially if it has to do w/issues of security... lol But in typical Scorp/Cap fashion, you worked out your differences... Like I said, we never stay mad at eachother long... I'm just glad your sticking w/eachother... Actually I was laughing when you mentioned him saying never to question his loyalty... LOL OMG, that is rather funny he said something like that... lol I've said that before to my Cappy... We Scorp's take our loyalty very seriously... Questioning our loyalty is questioning our character, something that should never come into question.... lol

You know guys, the more I speak about these things, the more it all makes sense... It's funny how you learn to take things in stride and grow from them, just bouncing ideas and concepts back and forth can really put things into perspective...

posted July 17, 2006 12:37 PM         

Yes, I would say that's a HUGE deal. Especially for a Cap male. I think Caps in general put all of their loved ones on a pedestal (friends and family) and are fiercely loyal to those closest to them. By bringing you into his inner circle and basically showing them that you're "part of the group" it shows that he has trust in you and respects you. Big step.

posted July 17, 2006 01:03 PM         

One thing that made me smile was the groom (his friend) thanked us for showing up and made mention that he and his new wife thought I was wonderful and asked that we all hook up again once they've settled... When Cappy told me that he was smiling ear to ear and seemed a bit relieved. As always, I didn't want to read too much into it, but I realized that it made him extremely happy to hear that... lol I don't know what to think of that but it seems to me as if it put his mind at ease... As if he looks at such things as the ultimate compliment, like saying... this is right...

posted July 17, 2006 02:23 PM         

Sounds to me like the wedding was a huge success. Glad to hear that. Caps do love compliments, and if his friend complimented you (as in, "You've got a good catch there buddy.") that probably made his day, and definitely raised your worth to him as well.

posted July 17, 2006 02:47 PM         

Your in there girl... LOL If your meeting his mother for the first time, your definitely in there... Like with Cappy's, if we introduce you to family, your already a big part of his life... We won't introduce a casual acquintance to family, no matter how much we like you... I think we hold off introducing partners to family because family is a big part of our lives... So if he wants you to get to know his family, your definitely more than just a casual acquintance or even someone he's dating, it seems to me as if he is taking you rather seriously... Good for you girl, I think thats wonderful... As far as his work schedule, don't worry about it to much, things will get better. I know there are going to be times when he seems a little wrapped up in his work, but you'll never be too far from his mind, especially if he calls everyday to check in on you...

LOL... I have to laugh when you said you find yourself being more romantic around him... You like him, You like him.... lol (Just teasing) I noticed that when a Cappy likes you, there rarely seen romantic side pops up out of nowhere... Amazing to say the least... I noticed that when Cappy was beginning to really have feelings, he was alot more attentive as far as romance is concerned... lol Believe me, I was in shock... lol