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posted July 17, 2006 04:23 PM         

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LOL.... Believe me, your in there... not to worry at all... lol When he said that it is EXTREMELY rare for him to introduce someone he's dating to family, he is telling the truth... without a doubt... Honestly, in 12 years of dating, no man with the exception of Cappy has meet almost all my family members, brother, sisters, nieces and nephews, and of course MOM... lol Scorp's don't allow someone we don't care about to get close to family, let alone associate with them... lol

Just be yourself and you have nothing to worry about, of course I know you will be respectful, confident and he loves ya, ull be ok... let me know how it goes...

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posted July 17, 2006 04:27 PM         

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CapGirl, Well said... you took the words right out of my mouth... lol

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posted July 17, 2006 04:36 PM         

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This is true. I've never been this nervous about meeting someone's parents before, I think part of my nerves come from the fact that I hold him in such a high regard. You're right, Caps usually do make good first impressions, but it's probably because it's so important to us. To tell you the truth, it's not "me" that I'm really concerned about, it's the fact that I'm worried my dress will be stuck to my ass, my hair will be windblown and sweat will be pooring out of my forehead. LOL.. You know Caps - we have to at least LOOK put together. I know I'll be fine...just letting the nerves get the best of me right now.

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posted July 17, 2006 04:44 PM         

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Yes, it's hard not to worry when your meeting someone important... Don't worry so much about how you look though, of course be presentable but I'm sure she'll be forgiving due to the insatiable heat... Let us know how it goes tomorrow... I'm sure you'll be ok...

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posted July 17, 2006 04:50 PM         

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Well, I'm all about appearances so I understand that concern. And if you're not feeling like you look decent/nice, then it's hard to have the inner confidence needed to make a good impression. Maybe you should rent a car w/ A/C?? LOL Take a cab? And hey, why isn't this dude taking you there?

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posted July 18, 2006 12:13 PM         

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Hi ladies! Well once again I've managed to make a mountain out of a mole hill. Everything went well yesterday...no worries. Although I was a rather sweaty mess when I got there. I met him at his place after work and we left from there. I work nearly on the other side of town though, so I had plenty of time to sweat!

His mom was very sweet. The two of them are exactly alike - it's scary. She was very open and outgoing so that put me at ease. Overall, I think it went really well.

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posted July 18, 2006 12:16 PM         

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CrankyCap,

WOOHOO!!! I told ya u'd be in there w/no problem... have you gotten any feedback from him yet? How was his mother's mannerism's? lol Sorry, just excited for u...

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posted July 18, 2006 12:31 PM         

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Thanks SL!!! No, haven't gotten the feedback yet. I'll probably get that when I talk to him tonight. He had told me before that he and his mother were completely alike, but WOW it's uncanny! He described her as himself only a foot shorter with boobs...lol. Yeah, pretty much.

They have similar facial expressions, use the same sayings, same basic features. She has pretty eyes which he inherited although his are "naturally" more intense and suspicious. She was very nice and outgoing, so I think we'll get along well. Plus, if we do, that will give me an ally that I can team up with when he's being lazy about doing his laundry or getting his cat declawed!

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posted July 18, 2006 12:42 PM         

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LOL... CC, U got me rollin out my seat here... thats great chica... Yep, your definitely a ringer hun, he's probably assessing the situation and getting his mom's feedback now, I'm sure everything will be positive... You definitely need an ally in your upcoming battle royals... LOL... Believe me, there are more to come... Just a question, did you notice anything about his mother that you find in yourself, like facial features or just your mannerisms in general? When I meet Cappy's mom, and after speaking on the phone w/her many times, I realized that Cappy was looking for his mommy... lol It actually isn't a bad thing in this case, were as it might have freaked me out before. But myself and Cappy's mom (Also a Scorpio) have similar facial characteristics and similar mental makeup... lol

You may not have noticed it on your first meeting, but you may be surprised to find that you and his mother may be alike in many ways...

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posted July 18, 2006 02:10 PM         

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OMG SL!!! It is so strange that you mentioned that! Before I even met her, Mr. Scorp and I had a couple of conversations I think involving movies or actors or something. Anyway, twice now he has told me that after talking to me he had the EXACT same conversation with his mom...word for word. He said it kind of freaked him out actually. At one point he said he thought, "Oh my God, I'm dating my mother!" That is too weird! I know she's a Pisces and I've got the Pisces moon so that's kind of freaky.

I know a lot of girls get really weirded out by so called "mama's boys" but honestly, I kind of like it when guys love and respect their moms. I've dated a couple of guys who absolutely DESPISED their moms and that bothered me. I know my Scorp talks to his mom just about every day about everything from his job, to family, to politics, and he takes her out to dinner one night every week. During the course of dinner last night I think he said "I love you mom" probably 4 or 5 times. They seem to have a very open and friendly relationship. I think that's adorable. I'd much rather be with a guy like that.

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posted July 18, 2006 03:10 PM         

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Yep CC, that's about right... lol You will begin to notice more and more similarities as you guys become more aquinted with eachother... lol I have to agree, I prefer a man that knows how to treat his momma... I tend to be a bit of a momma's girl, so I completely understand... Like your Scorp, my Cappy speaks to his mom everyday, sometimes 3 or 4 times... He's constantly taking her out and doing things with and for her, but I don't mind, Family always comes first...

Funny thing though is that I'm beginning to notice that I am sort of taking the place of alot of things his mother would normally have done for him. For example, if he needs advice or something like that, I am the person he turns to now. Like when he got a big promotion about two years ago, I was the first person he told... I was shocked but I think it became more of the type of thing that he valued my opinion just as much as his mother, I think that was the ultimate compliment...

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posted July 18, 2006 03:18 PM         

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CC, That's also a good thing that his mom is a Pisces... Water and Earth signs get along better than most so I believe you and her should get along fine....

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posted July 18, 2006 03:22 PM         

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Email addresses... exchange...

Just being a smart ass Cap.!

But it was discussed by ya'll back on page 1 or 2?

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posted July 18, 2006 03:24 PM         

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lol... sure... ladiem01@netscape.net or if you have IM, my screenname is ladiem01... feel free to hit me up...

Whats new w/u CapGirl?

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posted July 18, 2006 03:41 PM         

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You read my mind there CG! I was just thinking how we might as well just exchange emails...lol. You can get a hold of me @ sju279@yahoo. I'd love to hear from you guys!

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posted July 18, 2006 03:44 PM         

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Oh... I'm crabby... I should be called 'crankycap'! hehe Crank, do you like San Juan? Your email is the airport code for it... SJU.

I'm just lurking for now, reading about ya'll's love lives!

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posted July 18, 2006 03:48 PM         

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Y so crabby? Life is good, no need to be too crabby...

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posted July 18, 2006 04:42 PM         

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LOL...nope, not a San Juan fan, or St. John's U either...those are actually my initials.

Sorry to hear you're feeling crabby. I know how quick those dark moods can come on. Don't worry, it will pass...they always do! In the mean time, try to cheer up...you haven't given us your address yet!

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posted July 18, 2006 06:47 PM         

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Awww... alright... I'm ashnwrig@gmail.com

I am becoming a hermit or something... have changes going on. It's weird. I'm afraid or reluctant to date and like my own company better than other people's lately. I never used to understand the shy and commitmentphobic types and I think I've turned into one.

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posted July 18, 2006 07:26 PM         

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Oh CG...I know where you're coming from. It's funny, but I've never really had a Cap girlfriend so it's kinda weird listening to someone that sounds just like yourself! That's got to be a Cap thing. I know when I'm down or depressed I become completely anti-social. My friends usually start to wonder if I've fallen off the face of the earth b/c I won't even pick up my phone for weeks sometimes.

You'll come out of it...I know you will. I've been in that mode many, many times. When I had my heart stomped on by the Taurus a few years back I thought I'd NEVER recover. I really did become committment-phobic for a while. Have you tried any of the internet dating sites? Those have really come a long way. I went on some really great dates from that and even made some new friends. What about the other two guys you were talking to? Any progress with them?

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posted July 19, 2006 09:42 AM         

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AAWWWW CG, Sweetie, it's ok... That's just your spirit saying you need a break. Whenever I take an emotional blow I recluse for weeks and sometimes months. I guess it's a way of protecting myself when I feel the most vulnerable, so it's understandable why you may feel depressed and down... Like CC, I literally fall off the face of the earth for a while, when even the things I love most just aren't appealing to me.

Take all the time you need and talk it out with whomever you feel the most comfortable with. A good friend will always give you an open ear if not an open heart. Don't let disappointment effect how you view life. God never gives you more than you can handle. Have faith in yourself and you'll get by just fine. Anyways, now that you have mine and Cranky's email, you can vent to us anytime... Believe me, we may not know but we'll try our best to listen with sincerity and without judgment....

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