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OzMeg222
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posted September 17, 2006 01:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for OzMeg222     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It only took me 6 beers to get the courage to do it, lol. He contacted me the last 3 weekends (drunk) so I thought it was really time I gave something back to him to let him know I'm still interested.

Sent him a text asking what he was doing and he replied right away asking if I wanted to see him. I was on the way home to my place so I couldn't.

I chose that time to do it because I wanted to talk to him and see where I stood without winding up in bed. We're hopeless we can't say no to each other. We've got an unbeleiveable sexual attraction flying between us!

Anyway he rang me a bit later when he was at home, he had friends over and was talking to me with them in the room which I thought was nice. None of them said anything about it either, even when he rang me another 2 times and I rang him.

We ended up talking and texting each other for 2 1/2 hours which was nice. Nothing heavy, just nice stuff.

I did ask him why he didn't just pick someone up at the pub and he seemed surprised by that and said he didn't want to, like the thought hadn't crossed his mind. I get paranoid he's only interested in sex so that was really nice to know.

He's obviously faithful to whatever it is we have going on between us.

I really didn't expect that although I haven't even looked at another guy since I met him. And I usually like to look!

Still not completely sure where I stand with him but at least I've made baby steps!

Baby steps rock!

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posted September 17, 2006 01:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for and     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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OzMeg222
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posted September 17, 2006 03:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for OzMeg222     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I wish it could be! But the truth is its better for us to go slow, make sure its what we both want before leaping into anything.

It'll cause a few dramas if we start getting serious so the last thing I'd want in the middle of all that would be for either of us to realise its not worth it.

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posted September 18, 2006 05:26 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oz - congrats on 'biting the bullet'
I'm glad I'm not the only one experiencing this type of slowly, slowly relationship *sigh*
Your guy is a Pisces right?
Maybe it's a water thing, mine is a Scorpio... Very unusual for a Scorpio to want to take things slowly (or so I've heard), but he has his issues and I can wait

Baby steps, indeed...

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...to have been loved so deeply, even though the person who loved us is gone, will give us some protection forever...

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OzMeg222
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posted September 18, 2006 08:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for OzMeg222     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks Cat!

Yeah this slow going used to frustrate me a bit but looking back I'm glad its happened that way.

Weird thing is I've been so focused on worrying about whether or not he likes me I hadn't stopped to think about anything else.

I kinda think he's pretty much the same as me in a lot of ways but when it comes to us I think he's way ahead of me.

FInally it seems like we may be getting it together and all I wanna do is back off completely! Which is what he was doing for so long. Lol.

Now I've started to think ok we could actually have something here I'm thinking about all those things I kinda dismissed when I was busy worrying about whether or not he liked me.

He's thought about them before, lots of times and came up with so many reasons we couldn't get together. He didn't tell me what and I didn't ask (maybe cos I thought it was an excuse on his part) but now I know anyway because they're probably what I'm thinking right now!

All these things I half thought about peripherally but they're seeming pretty real right now. Its scary.

But in saying that it makes me realise just how much I actually care for him. Its scary but I want to take up the challenge.

Every time I see him or talk to him I like him more and usually my little crushes only last a week or two.

I'm single, he's single (and we're somewhat commited already ie: not seeing anyone else) We're both nice people and in the end its our decision. Nobody else's opinions should really matter, we won't hurt anybody by being together.

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posted September 18, 2006 05:44 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's so nice to see it working out for you

"...But in saying that it makes me realise just how much I actually care for him. Its scary but I want to take up the challenge.

Every time I see him or talk to him I like him more and usually my little crushes only last a week or two."

- I know how you feel I think, in previous relationsips I've always felt like 'if he loves me he'll do this or that for me' but with this guy for the first time in my life I'd be ready to fit around him *sigh*

I truly hope you find happiness with this guy

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OzMeg222
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posted September 18, 2006 08:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for OzMeg222     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you so much!

I know what you mean about wanting to fit around him. I don't want to change him, or to change myself. Its the most unselfish I've ever felt about this kind of thing and the more free I let him be, the more free and joyous I feel.

Something binds us together but doesn't trap us. Nice!

Good luck with Mr Scorpio too! They can be difficult lol!

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OzMeg222
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posted September 19, 2006 08:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for OzMeg222     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
And:-

Hell yeah I know what you mean! I've been worried about that in the past. He made contact 3 weeks in a row without me saying or doing a thing. Glad I finally did it though.

Getting braver though now too, more confident and less insecure. Insecurity is my worst enemy, his too it seems.

Sent him a sober text an hour ago and he replied really positively before I even shut my phone. Nice! He wants to catch up, it seems like he doesn't want to pull away anymore although its kinda freaking me out!

Baby steps are working just nicely.

Cross fingers anyway people!

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posted September 20, 2006 09:27 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi there!

After having been away from this board for so long, I was drawn back tonight and now I know why...it was to read your post!

I'm so pleased for you that this is progressing so well and so nicely--in large part because I've been in the same boat myself for so long now I can't remember! So much of what you shared resonated with me--including your choice of words, which sound so much like my own thoughts--that reading all of your exchanges was like the perfect little "God-wink" that I really needed tonight!

Thank you so much for the lift!!

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OzMeg222
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posted September 21, 2006 03:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for OzMeg222     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This board is truly the best place to come to be uplifted and help with the positive thinking!

Its also a good place to complain and vent cos its so nice to know that there are many many others dealing with similar things.

I sometimes feel like I'm the only one going through but now I know I'm not.

I just hope I can join the ones who've gotten their happy ending, and I hope you can too!

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