posted September 21, 2006 07:20 PM              

Ahhh... memories. Sorry I indulged myself in the past.

posted September 22, 2006 06:25 AM            

I think the tough part in here, at least for me, is believe that I’m much more important for him than others even when at times it may seem that I’m just another human being, another plain drop in the vast ocean.

I’ve seen this behaviour… Something tells me deep down that he likes me much more than the average… But my Virgo mind (and Leo heart) is bewildered and (I confess) a bit hurt and disappointed when I see him so eager and fascinated, so charming towards a new girl in the office, when his attention is focused on her or that other one for a while, trying to be so nice… That for a split second I think he may not like me that much after all, that he’s just that nice to everyone…

I suppose I just need to adjust my vision. It’s a different modus operandi. I’m used to intense Scorpions who would eat you up with their piercing and completely devoted attention. Used to Aries who make you feel as the only woman on Earth, as if you were a princess among peasants. Their princess. Or to my exclusive picking of important people who I devote to…

But does it mean that he likes me less just because he is not that way? Not necessarily… I just need to be able to discern if he is really interested in me or not.

Hippi, thanks for the positive approach… Sometimes you get to think they are just spineless, insensitive and superficial b**** who don’t really care about anyone and will flick instantly no matter what.

Are they superficial? I can understand the rosy glasses of Sagittarians whose naivety makes them see only the good in everyone. I can understand the empathy and compassion of Pisceans, who suffer and feel for the world and love everyone no matter how undeserving… But, how can you consider everyone as a friend? It’s impossible to be compatible with absolutely everyone… You can’t trust everyone because some people are not that good… You can’t like everyone unless you don’t look deep into them… Is this a lack of personality? I have a similar unease with Geminis and Libras (especially with the latter, who will only look for what is pleasing for the eye and avoid confrontation at any level…).

However, what I sense when he is near me is that sweet warmth, as if I was being getting drunk with jasmine or honeysuckle. I feel that urge of cuddling him. He’s so unpretentious, so natural… So cute… Yes, BlueTopaz, so tender… He appears to be unconcerned but then he has little episodes of sweet involvement, where you feel that humanitarian current beneath… He has lost sleep because he had to give bad news to his subordinates at work… Can an Aquarian be that sensitive and sympathetic?

So, what’s the trick? Maybe that he is as emotional as a friend can be but never crosses the line to behave as a lover?

Mama, the situation you describe I have lived with a Scorp… Weird…

A Cappy? I don’t know… I know several some… They are much cooler… Stern and with that sense of inadequacy. This is a charming sweet and friendly guy… Let’s see, I only have to wait 4 months, I think I can cope. Time is not trouble for me…

Awwwww, Natural, that’s lovely… It doesn’t anything to do with many other opinions I’ve read… So, there is a glimpse of hope of facing a functional man.

posted September 22, 2006 06:49 AM              

Aaah how divine....

posted September 22, 2006 09:45 AM            

Regarding jealousy...The last Aqua man I was invloved with is married, I found out 11 months into our "relationship." We remain "friends"--distantly, and the connection is SO deep, but I have bowed out respectfully and a little angered he lied to me for so long. Anyway, true to Aquarian fashion, after he professed his love for me, he told me to pursue my life/relationships, he would never try to hold me back (like the married man could anyway!) however.....admitted that he would be jealous, but would never SHOW it. Yep, that is them, they feel do deeply and do get jealous, but refuse to display such a low/ugly/negative emotion.

posted September 22, 2006 10:04 AM            

We were having a conversation about ex's he told me about three of his ex's one of the ex's was the one he broke up with me for when we broke up the very first time. I sat and listened patiently with no interuptions and I was not jealous.

I began to tell him about a ex of mine that I dated over 10 years ago, what I was saying was relevant to what we were talking about. As I was talking he turned his head and let out this big sigh and I just looked and did not say another word.

That was jealuosy rearing its ugly head. I was like geez he is too jealous, and that was just one incident.

Aqua's can get jealous and with the right person will show it.

To me bc some of them are not intouch with their feelings that is how they know if what they feel for a lady/person. Ive seen it all with Aqua's I swear I have.

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There was too much passion. Too much physical and sexal attraction.

posted September 22, 2006 07:13 PM            

I have misinterpreted a man’s behaviour before ruining what we had or could have had. Because he didn’t act the way it was natural for me. I think there’s nothing wrong in trying to understand and try to see the world as the other person does. In fact, I think it’s a healthy exercise.

No, I’m not inviting him to anything. I know that for sure. I’m not forcing the situation with him. I have done it before with others and it wasn’t a good idea. It’s not a question of courage. I’m just not confortable with the idea. At least not now. I’m not even sure of wanting a relationship with him. I’m just studying him a bit because he fascinates me. That’s all. Plus I’m not ruining our lovely interaction, game or whatever it is out of curiosity. I prefer to have him as a friend (or friendly someone) who lifts my spirits and makes me bubble now and again than risking him disappearing. Been there before. Don’t get me wrong, I’d be probably pressurized too if he approached too directly.

I’m doing the personal thing too as far as I can, trying to be casual. He tells me at his own pace. And he has told me many things that nobody else knows. I feel proud because he does. And he does because I’m cool and don’t push him. I understand that. You need to respect other people’s space. His is just a bit bigger.

posted September 22, 2006 10:29 PM            

Just wanted to let you know that I do not think you are over-analyzing. I love astrology for analyzing the energy between individuals and an individual's own energy. I do not live by it, but it is an invaluable tool. Personally, I think more mental health professionals should use a bit of Astrology when dealing with their patients!

What was it that he said to make you question jealousy?

posted September 23, 2006 07:44 AM            

Well, the question of jealousy… Right after I was back from hols, he came back from his sick leave after a month of being in bed (I mentioned this earlier on…). He was somehow sparkling and bubling, touchy-touchy, his eyes couldn’t stop looking at me with that intense and warm look… I was startled…

He approached, straight towards me, almost ignoring the other people in my team. Apologised because he didn’t call me back or reply to my e-mail saying that he had beed feeling pretty rough, even depressed… Laid his hand on my hip and hold me there…

Then he had to go to talk to a colleague and my boss about work, a few meters away. Even then he didn’t stop looking at me furtively. When they finished, my boss was expecting him to leave the office with him and he whispered “I’m staying… to talk to her”. The only “her” there was me… My boss hid a smile and left…

He approached to talk to us and asked me directly “Well, how were your holidays? You went to Greece, didn’t you?” I mentioned it in my e-mail I sent him wishing him to recover quickly. Before I could ansewer “It was fantastic…” he went on, almost anxiously “Did you pick-up many men?” I didn’t have time to answer before a male colleague sitting next to me said “Yes, a lot of Turkish” (I had mentioned the previous day that Turkish in Athens liked me very much and chased me like mad… Not that I had anything with any…).

His face went white for a split second. I couldn’t believe what I was seeing. He repeated “Turkish?” as he couldn’t believe it. I mumbled, with no time to think “Well, not all Turkish… Greeks too”, meaning that not only Turkish had been interested in me... He was still frozen as if he could think clearly. “So you picked up?” He appeared hurt, deep down, trying hard to not show it… I said, trying to make it lighter “Well, everyone picks up in summer…”. He said then “I didn’t…” and I replied “That’s only because you were sick in bed… Otherwise, you would have” “No I wouldn’t”…

Then he turned his attention to my colleague, asking for his hols as if nothing had happened. Jolly and friendly as he always is. Still to tell me half through the conversation “So you picked up…”. And that was all. He has never mentioned it again and behaves perfectly normal, warm and charming as before.

posted September 23, 2006 10:54 AM              

Aquarian men do best probably with intuitive women who could read the more subtler signals and yet not exploit him for them.
What I mean be that, is trust and honesty is so paramount...to treat profanely any of their vulnerabilities,even the subtle ones,
is a profound betrayal to them.
It's an excruciating courage for an Aquarian man to show them in any way. The hardest thing on earth for them to do,
so if it's not treated gently and cherished quietly in return, it has a devasting effect on their ability to trust you with them again.

Past experience might make them extra gun-shy. It all depends on his individual experiences, but most often the experiences, even small ones are so profound in their memories that time only makes them more wary.
Also, they are majorly controlling themselves. They want everything on their terms, in their time,
and if you give over your power to them and let them control the relationship,
in the end it will have a reverse affect, because they admire defiance and passionate reaction and independance.
It's often a catch-22 thing. You can't win either way. The more insecure ones are easily lured by game-playing, and not as interested in honesty as long as it's a convincing performance. It depends on how self-secure he is. But don't ever rely on him for anything. You'll only set yourself up for disappointment and heartbreak.

So in the end, being yourself, true with yourself and going with your own natural feelings and responses is best. Because regardless of what happens with him, you want to keep your own self-respect in tact after it's all said and done. Most important down the line (if it goes that far, I understand right now you're just intrigued and captivated by him and haven't went that far) will be the reassurance that you've remained true to yourself.

posted September 23, 2006 11:18 AM            

Excellent post!!! I could not agree with you more--very profound!

Steel

The only thing I might have to add, is that it may not have been jelousy so much as "fishing." He may not be ready to make a move on you until he is a bit more sure that you are "available." Insecurity in a man is a dreadful thing (I dealt with it for way to long!) Insecurity in ppl in general is a bit offensive to me. But on the other hand, over-confidence and ego is even more ugly!

Lialei is correct about Aqua guys liking intuitive gals...but they are quite intuitive themselves, just do not recognize it most times.

Another thing I have noticed about Aqua guys and I might mention not Aqua women, is that energy has alot to do with the amount that they pursue. Lending to their intuition, if they feel you to begin to loose interest, slip away, here they come, give them an inkling you are still interested, it is fine and dandy for the moment, but then the dragon slayers will be off to save the kingdom and you will fell all alone. This is a hard balance to achieve in the beginnings of a relationship! Ooooo what is a girl to do?

Again I agree with Lialei, just be yourself and if it is to be it will be. Interesting creatures they are though!

Terri

posted September 23, 2006 11:22 AM            

They want everything on their terms, in their time,
and if you give over your power to them and let them control the relationship,
in the end it will have a reverse affect, because they admire defiance and passionate reaction and independance.
It's often a catch-22 thing. You can't win either way. The more insecure ones are easily lured by game-playing, and not as interested in honesty as long as it's a convincing performance. It depends on how self-secure he is. But don't ever rely on him for anything. You'll only set yourself up for disappointment and heartbreak.

Man I could have not said that better myself..

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if they feel you to begin to loose interest, slip away, here they come, give them an inkling you are still interested, it is fine and dandy for the moment, but then the dragon slayers will be off to save the kingdom and you will fell all alone. This is a hard balance to achieve in the beginnings of a relationship! Ooooo what is a girl to do?

posted September 25, 2006 11:50 AM              

By the way, He's an Aqua Sun/5th, Moon & Mars in Aries/8th, Venus in Sag/4th, and Mercury in Pisces/6th, Virgo Rising.

Taurus/Scorpio/Cancer

posted September 27, 2006 10:50 AM            

Yes that is exactly where I am with this..
You know exactly what I am feeling..

Whats it worth..

posted October 07, 2006 09:47 PM              

yes, I do understand I think.
Some days I do better with it than others.
This isn't one of those days.

The temptation is still there. The reaching.
Determination is excruciatingly difficult...
but a must.
Some things...some hurts just can't be forgotten.

It was comforting reading your post just now.
Thanks.