posted September 20, 2006 04:56 AM            

An Aquarian male is buzzing around me. The whole experience is proving so weird in itself… I couldn’t say without a margin of error of 50% of what his intentions are… He confuses me. No idea of what he wants, what he ticks for… Just no idea…

He apparently likes me. But you couldn’t say if the treatment you receive is special for you, because he likes you in a distinctive manner or he is just being nice and friendly as he would be towards any other girl… He sooooooo charming with anyone… Sometimes I tend to think that he is being “especially” nice towards me but I don’t want to delude myself.

I’m a Virgo and I have always had trouble understanding Air signs. I just don’t understand their motivation, their drive… That’s even worse with Aquarians because I haven’t come across many, and not that close… Maybe one or two, so I couldn’t analyse them closely…

However, something in me clicks with him, no idea of what… I feel comfortable with him for some uncanny reason I don’t come close to grasp. I sound really natural and feel really relaxed when he touches or holds me, which it’s not that usual… I don’t know what he gives me… a kind of spongy feeling, of freedom, of warmth and tenderness…

He’s a charmer and a teaser… But I’m more of a teaser than he is… I have strong Sagittarian influences… He could be drawn by my jolly and spontaneous appearance (Sag Asc)… Because what else in the world could interest a quick silver fast moving Aquarian in a plain and meticulous Virgin? ( *I know, I’m analysing again…* )

I’m light on Air in my chart… Only Pluto in Libra… And Uranus in the 11th house…

At the same time he’s so unpredictable… So here and there at the same time… So apparently unconcerned and detached… So “I don’t really care about anyone”… So independent… So “I do it my way”… So out of this world… I don’t really know much about his personal life, not many know a big deal… There are rumours of any nature you could think of surrounding him… He’s a kind of legend, so unreal and immaterial…

Me, in my total ignorance, I have been picking pieces of information from here and there… and after validating their sources and contents, I appear to have the clearer view of his blurred image in our workplace… I even attempt to predict his behaviour sometimes, which astounds my colleagues…

I have noticed that I turn into a sickly sweet coquettish with a touch of naivety… Sometimes I become spontaneous, as a Sagittarian, asking personal questions with an unaffectedness that may even surprise him. A couple of times I’ve acted a bit self-conscious… Or icey cold in the distance when I’m not interacting with him… Or discussing work issues with a sharp a calmed voice, my teacher-like voice, reasoning out the opposition with heavy arguments… I have noticed that he observes me in the distance when he thinks I don’t notice…

In a big room with many people, he, who wanders around constantly and gets on with almost anyone, he, who is so superficially liked by everyone, so light, warm and funny, whose company is craved, surprisingly, will choose my company… Will be drawn to me for some reason, will come and play, will fling about his wings around me…

Can anyone explain WHY? I can’t see not even remotely a common ground. Sometimes I could swear that he’s trying to seduce me, a bit harder that he does with the rest of females on the planet… Maybe because I’m harder to get? But he knows I’m available…

What’s going on??? Any possible future or is this just an absurd game?

Down to the core, I’m a Virgo, a practical, stable, sweet and insecure Virgo. No matter my apparent fireworks, my jolly appearance, my passion for travelling, my many friends. No matter my firey Leo heart or my multiple water influences… I’m an Earth creature trying to grasp a gust of wind…

posted September 20, 2006 12:41 PM              

If you continue to analyze this aqua you will go nuts
Don't waste your energy on something that isnt in your hands is my advice.
My experience is that aquas do these hot/cold confusing games of theirs, so dont give them the pleasure of being hooked in any way. Usually they will detach themselves out of fear in the end and you will be hurt.
If its meant to be then you should play hard to get and let him be hooked on YOU.

posted September 20, 2006 01:02 PM            

When I create the balance he acts stupid when I pull back and get lost he pulls and pulls and watches and swoops in on me like a eagle after some food, but as soon as I recipricate off he goes again. Oh I am hip to his stuff now..

So like Anita41 said play hard to get I have learned that now..It is not about really playing hard to get at first, I have to ignore him cause he stupid, but for you bc you just met him let him come to you..

posted September 20, 2006 01:50 PM              

I have Venus in Gemini and My Mars in Aquarius conjunct my MC.

However, I am essentially an earthy person like yourself, and this game, or whatever you might call it, is exhausting to my common sense.

posted September 20, 2006 02:49 PM            

That about sums it up..

posted September 20, 2006 03:10 PM              

Am not saying other signs are not like this, but that is my story....unfortunately......

posted September 20, 2006 03:29 PM            

he had a fantastic personality, witty, charismatic and very charming!!

Yep this is what sucks you under..My Aqua friend is so insecure it is almost unbelieveable..If I did not have the knack for reading him well, I wouldn't see it cause he tucks it all in..

posted September 20, 2006 05:00 PM            

I think you had it in the opening to your topic........"I am compleatly mystified...."

posted September 20, 2006 10:28 PM              

"They Aqua men have huge insecurity issues.. "

posted September 20, 2006 11:18 PM              

He won't be able to accept though when you want to be a couple. Virgos are sweet, and stable, but it's not exactly understood by the Aqua.

Your Aqua man is mystified by you, and how to win you over with his opinions, he's excellent to work with, but he won't accept an equal relationship. It will be hard to be at ease with him later.

To be friends with someone it's better to be a friend first, to be the outgoing one, than be the one who is buzzed around.

Natasha
Taurus/Cancer

posted September 21, 2006 04:19 AM            

But I must say I have had fear of commitment, aloofness, emotional neglect, on and off torture and a final unexplained disappearance from an Aries man and two Scorpios!!!, two of the most intense, challenge seeking and confident about feelings in the zodiac… An Aqua won’t be worse… But anyway, you are right, I need to be careful… What you are saying is very helpful when trying to understand his behaviour.

Can they fall in love truly and stay? Even when they may not show it much, when they are more close to a friend than to a torrid lover… With the right dose of trust and understanding (I’m not saying that balance is easy to get), with freedom and space, can they love you and regard you over the rest of women in the world, without cheating? Will they stay?

Can they love even if they wouldn’t be able to express it?

Actually this may be the kind of man I need right now… Who respects my space and doesn’t invade my life, who gives me room to keep my several other groups of friends who he doesn’t need to belong necessarily. I don’t want a man who invades my life, who absorbs my time, who tries to own me. I want someone who lets me breathe, who stimulates me, who takes me travelling, who opens the horizon and give me that little push of enthusiasm. I’m tired of heavy types. I want someone to make my heart feel light and free.

Obviously I need to know that he is there, even when he doesn’t appear to be. I need to know deep down that all those female friends or all those women he is charming towards mean nothing when compared to me. That he won’t cheat, that there is a line: I’m his partner and they are only friends.

Sue, I read the story about the perfume you Aqua ex-husband got for you somewhere else in this forum. It really touched me… Awwwwwwwwww

Mamma Mia, are you still with your Aqua? Are you really so unhappy?

Are they really so awful? So dysfunctional? So unable of making anyone happy?

Of course, I won’t fall in his arms with a click of his fingers…I don’t chase men, even lees the elusive types. I’m a busy girl and he knows. I have my own place, have lived on my own abroad for several years… He’s aware that I flirt with him but has also seen me charming others. He knows I’m available, but I’m not in a rush… It’s obvious… I have rejected some casual coffees and even what I think it was a feeler of an invite to one of those weird concerts he goes to…

I don’t call him or e-mail often, only when I have a work-related excuse. If he wants to see me, he has to come to my office. It’s tough to catch me casually outside and I never go to his office. He comes sometimes, at his own pace, now and again, and if I’m not there at the moment, comes back again in the same day…

He even has told me that I always get all I want out of him, as if moaning because I had a soft spot on me… He he he…

I did have a nice gesture recently thought, and he was really impressed. He may have thought I was using him before that, seducing him and playing his own game to get what I needed from him… He was really touched because I showed concern, that I truly cared for his wellbeing. He was deeply touched by it, I know… The thing was that he was really sick. Nothing serious or life-threatening, but that still sent him to hospital and kept him permanently in bed for a month. Alone in Madrid (he’s from the Canary Islands). It must have killed him, he who does never stay still and who is always with people.

When I casually found out, nobody knew exactly what had happened. It was only a rumour… I tried to call him to both numbers (switched off), texted him, I asked everybody, I even went to his office (in another building) and talked to his boss (who I hardly know) to ask what happened to him and if he was all right. Then I e-mailed him warmly wishing him to feel better soon. And then I didn’t insist anymore, I waited for him to come back.

At the moment, I’m cool with it. Maybe because it scares me too. He makes me bubble but doesn’t obsess me. I’m just curious. Pondering the chances…

Fayte, when did I meet him? Well, we were introduced a year ago in Madrid but he wasn’t working here yet. Then we started to work together in January. When I started to have to deal directly with him was around April-May…

posted September 21, 2006 10:37 AM            

Aquas are not all that bad and from your description of what you want at present from a relationship, an Aqua may be just the one for you.

Personally I love Aquarian men and have alot of Aquarian women friends.

I guess you could say takes one to know one, I am Pisces sun w/ Saturn, Jupiter, Mercury and Mars in Aqua--the 3 latter opposing Uranus-- I guess I just get them--and they get me--mostly from the expereinces that I have had with the Aquas in my life. I like the detachment, the huge amounts of space that they allow the people in their lives and need for themselves, too. Once you learn not to take it personally, that that is just they way they are, then they are quite delightful folks!

I say this after much emotional entanglements and fury over the Aquarian detachment, but after the last couple years of self study and contemplation, am finally getting them, thus understanding my Aqua side.

And if you look very closely, they are just as feeling and emotional as anyone else, they are just not as "comfortable" expressing emotions as some. I have had the blessed opportunity to see 2 grown Aqua men CRY! Now, that is a touching site!

posted September 21, 2006 10:55 AM            

And even though I have reached this place he is still trying to rock my balance.

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and the worst part is that they will not commit to saying "NO" either or leaving you alone!

Well yes that is so true. I just said here on the forum yestreday that as long as he kept his hands to himself we would be ok. Well Low and behold I see him in the gym last night and again he runs towards me like I was a magnet and he is steel I just keep walking and try to ignore him and he runs up on the bleachers and falls all you hear is boomp, boomp boomp, I show no emotion and he still manages to reach me and smacks me on the butt. I smack his hand away and he plays it off..

I leave the gym and later text him and say as friendly and nicely as I could possibly do I tell him that I would appreciate it if he would keep his hands to himself that means off my butt. I explained to him that I do not feel comfortable with that. I told him Thanks and Goodnight!

I turned my phone off and this morning I turned it back on and his reply was Lake Michigan!! His code for jump in the lake. I just laughed and replied back That would be my same suggestion to you..Oh he is going to get out of this comfort zone with me. If he thinks that he can touch on me like that and we are not seeing each other he is in a zone some kind of zone..

posted September 21, 2006 11:57 AM              

twilight...zone....maybe....haha....

Good for you girl !!!!!

posted September 21, 2006 12:23 PM            

He was raised with alot of love and knew how to give somewhat.

Then you have those Aqua's that are like that and carry around pain from past relationships and they are so fixed that they do not know how to heal change things around for the better. Most Aqua men I know lack spirituaity which = growth to me. Those are the very cpmlicated Aqua's. With those guys you have to let it be so that you are not twisted in a pretzel dealing with their baggage.

At the end of the day I don't care what sign you are if you are carrying all this baggage around and will not/ have not learned how to deal with it properly the result end is always bad for the other person.

Steelrose lets just hope that this guy be it a Cappy or Aqua is just being himself and in due time it will be ok. He may be one of the alright one's. Only time will tell. The good thing is you are suited up in amor and your ready..

I can safely say that I have never had any serious issues with Cappy men actually I love them, they have always opened up to me. I have been romatically involved with a couple one at which I still keep incontact with he and I dated about 13 years ago.