posted October 04, 2006 10:23 AM         

He met me at the train station Friday night to give me a jump bc my battery in my car was drained,, I left my lights on. Anyway it is raining cats and dogs and we are sitting inhis car. This older lady pulls up behind my car bc she see's that I will be moving soon. Anyway he could not move bc sshe was blocking him and me so we could not get out. She was worried that someone was going to get the spot so ws acting like she did not want to move.

We both are like what is her problem so I wave at her and say we are coming out but you are blocking us in. She still sits there not sure if she understood. So again I try and tell her he can't get out. So she finally moves and goes around him and she yells to him as she drives by idiot.

He yells back to her yo mama is a idot B*itch. Oh was I so ever turned off. I mean yes she called him a idiot first but he just blew up. I was so turned off. I have heard him call his ex-wife a B also. TO me he uses the word to freely and makes me think.

His mouth, quick temper and attitude blew it. We have been friends for awhile and I have seen things that I did not like but nothing to make me feel disgusted. What made me feel so bad especially is that she was a older lady old enough to be both our mom's.

I like Virgo's but the one thing that blow me about them is their mouths. They are quick to critize.

posted October 04, 2006 10:35 AM         

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posted October 04, 2006 10:44 AM         

That is so important to me. Infact how yo treat ppl period is so important to me..

I am always polite to ppl even if they are ignorant a holes. I do pull back though if they are to bad. And will check a person too. But I would never curse and older person or child regardless to the situation.

posted October 04, 2006 10:53 AM         

to my mind it was disrepectful and un called for...if he had of just called her an idiot back and left it alone I would be ok with that..

I like repectful guys that know how to handle thier temper and that don't let other ppl rock their boat..

posted October 06, 2006 06:36 AM         

He should've just been a man and ignored it. Why let the little stuff get to you? I can't stand cursing like that, I do it in context but never around people I don't know very very well. Its something that puts me off people so I'd hate my mouth to put others off.

posted October 06, 2006 11:16 AM         

I respect your views on this, like that its important to treat older people with respect. But I have to just comment a little...
I have worked with elder people my whole life, and they can be pretty wicked and viscious
If this woman was an old woman,
that is not the point in my opinion, she is the one who in the first place insulted him and took the right to do it, even when she had already made a mistake with that car thingy.
I think the virgo man reacted normal.
I would have reacted the same way, and thats why i am talking like this I guess..

I also think that people should be treated the way they treat you,
even if someone is old, you have to relate to them on a realistic basis instead of feeling sorry for them because they are old, its all just an illusion and not that real.
I have met so many older especially women, who have insulted me and thought they could treat me like they wanted to, on work..
and I cant just back off and say "ok",
"she is old, so just ignore it",
you are just as equal as them.

Also, this virgo man could perhaps feel he was under pressure or something, emotionally or in that situation, I dont know ofcourse,
but it could add some anger to his temper.

I have aries moon and can lose it bad if I lose it, even though I have gotten alot more patient, and I know with myself that when I blow up, its so very powerful, it cant be denied at all, its not an excuse
But that doesnt make me a bad person in my opinion.
So my advice to you, dont judge this guy based on that.
Anyway mama mia, you were hooked on an aqua before right? Not sure if I remember correctly
Lately I have gotten into contact with my own ex aqua, and boy its weird.
He is so shocking and mean, and then detaches himself completely.
Seems it will never change, but oh well, thats his problem

posted October 06, 2006 11:36 AM         

Anita
Those Aqua men huhn..I remember you telling me about him.
Yes I was/am hooked on him and vise versa. It has been so hard to shake him. Its like he lives inside of me or something..

posted October 09, 2006 12:29 PM         

I had a chance to talk to him Saturday night about that situation. He took a step
back and realized that he was wrong. He called me at 2:45 in the morning just to tell me how wrong he was about that..

I appreciate him looking inside himslef.but whats done is done and I am turned off now. I told him that it turned me off. I think that he realized that he blew it when he did that.

posted October 09, 2006 01:52 PM         

Im not looking for a perfect person for I am not perfect, but I have things that will work for me and things that won't..And a disrespectful man won't work.

posted October 09, 2006 05:23 PM         

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First off its not the B thing that everyone is trying to talk about here. It is the respect thing, that I have a problem

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posted October 12, 2006 05:48 PM         

Behind me was this old man yelling out the window, honking, waving his hands around (you know, the angry ******* type) So I backed up as best I could and got out of his way.

I saw him a few minutes later walking in the parking lot and confronted him. I said.. "hey, what's your problem.. this lady was trying to load her kids in the car, i backed up to get out of YOUR way. He snarled at me with hate all over.. & said as he motioned swatting me away "arrrrrhhhh get out of my face lady.

I said "ok as&hole"..

He was clearly old. But this is not disrespecting the elderly and has nothing to do with how I treat my father in law, my husband or men in general. Fair is fair, if someone is being a sh&t then they deserve to know about it.

posted October 13, 2006 09:55 AM         

But my whole thing about this is he was with a woman that he was trying to be with (ME) and in all honesty it was not that serious it was just a misunderstanding she came in on the end of him giving me a jump all she saw was his car in the opposite direction of traffic and just sitting there, Hell I would have thought he was a idiot too. I just think that he totally over reacted and he showed me no respect by calling her a B and he never ever thought how that would make me feel.

And the killing part is he never thought about it until I mentioned it to him. I guess he is use to dealing with women that can go with that. I am cut from a total different cloth..

Sthenri said it right he needed to put me first. So I just figure he may try and go there with me one time and before I let him take me there and ruin our friendship then I will just keep it friendly.

He blew it and he knows sit, so maybe after me talking to him and him realizing his actions next time he is with a real lady he will do things different..