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Topic: Cutting the ties..
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starflower
Knowflake Posts: 282
From: uk
Registered: Oct 2003
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posted December 10, 2006 10:28 AM
 
Ok, I am needing to do this right now. To keep the story short, I do NOT want to lose this person forever, but currently we cannot be together because I am not ready to be in a serious relationship right now..and actually nor is he.So, to be clear, this wont push him away completely?
And lighting a white candle..I have none but I do have some tea lights..will those help until can get out tomorrow for white candles? I cant move forward because of my ties to this guy, but nor can I be with him until I've moved forward..
Any help would be appreciated. IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 8591
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted December 10, 2006 10:51 AM
starflowerRead the descriptions in the link i put up, to put your mind at rest..... The woman I worked with this week (after cutting the ties) was with the guy for a night afterwards....she just seemed to be less enmeshed and over anxious about him. When reading the words on the thread, you will know if this feels the right time....go with your gut. I have heard a few women say that very soon after doing this the guy has rung them straight away (wasnt hippichic) one? Only you will know if its right...  I use a white household candle....there are no rules....i usually write into the candle "letting go" and let it burn through. IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 8591
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted December 10, 2006 11:03 AM
starflowerif you are a mother you will understand this analogy. When our children grow up and leave the family home we on some level have to "let go". That is why I sometimes think its good if young people want to move on from their parents....shows they have become independant. When we let go as parents, we dont push the children away but allow them their own space. Here in Ireland, there are many many men over the age of 30 who are still living with their "Mammies".....its well known that the Irish Mammy dominates the son and creates a fear which ultimately blocks the son from moving away....very sad....very unhealthy. Its the same with any relationship....we learn to let go as holding on only creates ultimately the other person becoming enmeshed and the bond then goes on to be unhealthy. Let go with trust and love and you cannot go wrong... I have done this many times and found the process agonizing, but the last two I have let go of Ive found a lot easier... And I know those people are still with me... Always... x IP: Logged |
starflower
Knowflake Posts: 282
From: uk
Registered: Oct 2003
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posted December 10, 2006 12:07 PM
Thanks so much. Will go ahead with it.
Wish me luck ! I just need to let go in my head, just for a couple of months.
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sue g
Knowflake Posts: 8591
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted December 10, 2006 12:30 PM
I will wish you luck starflowerGo gently with yourself love
Sue
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starflower
Knowflake Posts: 282
From: uk
Registered: Oct 2003
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posted November 15, 2007 04:39 PM
Wow...I searched for this thread tonight and just found it.
My cord cutting worked a year ago, when I posted here. However I am still having problems with this guy...
Very long story short for 6 years we've been involved on again off again. Sometimes I didnt want a relationship, other times he didnt.
I've been wanting to move forward with him for months now but he is inconsistent, blows hot and cold, and my heart is getting broken.
And yet I find it impossible to break free of the bond between us.
Can I do this cord cutting again? Will it cause harm to do it again?
Will it work if I try again? This time with a view to clearing the energy so that I am able to move forward into a new and healthy relationship?He is Sag Sun/Pisces Moon/Asc unkown
I am Aqua/ Cancer/Leo Any help from anyone on how to break the bond we share would be most appreciated.
It seems that we cant break away from one another. We have both tried and failed. Every tim one of us has tried to walk away the other has gotten back in touch and set the whole thing off again. I love him more than I've ever loved a man before, but this is hurting me and I know it isnt healthy
I am hurting constantly because of this. IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
Knowflake Posts: 4944
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Registered: Feb 2002
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posted November 16, 2007 12:38 AM
Please consider seeing a counselor. 6 years is a long time.IP: Logged |
starflower
Knowflake Posts: 282
From: uk
Registered: Oct 2003
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posted November 16, 2007 05:11 AM
Oh perhaps I did not make it clear - we have known each other for 6 years but I have not been trying to 'get over' this guy for 6 years. There were a lot of complications and we were not both free to pursue a relationshihp. We tried many times to stop all contact but we never succeeded. One of us would always contact the other. However now, there are no complications and we both free. But this is still not working out - he is behaving erratically, he is selfish and unreliable and I realise that he cannot give me the type of relationship that I would want with him. The point of my post was to find out if the cord cutting visualisation is ok to use again, because now I want to walk away once and for all.
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ghanima81
Knowflake Posts: 1301
From: MAINE! :)
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted November 18, 2007 09:53 AM
I'm no expert, but it did say this:"Cutting the ties to a particular person (particularly after a distressing time) can be quite difficult, and may need to be done many times before effective." If you are really needing to cut these ties, I don't think it would harm you to do it again. The pain you are being caused by keeping these ties seems too much... good luck to you! Blessings. Ghani IP: Logged |
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