posted November 27, 2006 06:42 AM         

If you read my post you'll know why xxx

posted November 27, 2006 07:01 AM         

Could not sleep cause I need to cut the ties with 3 individuals in my life at present, and have tried, even visualizing, but still feel so connected to them.....

So I got up to post a topic and this is what I found...

Blessings

posted November 27, 2006 08:04 AM         

You might want to combine it with taking some bach flower remedies, there is some info on H&H forum, and here is a link which I put up there....
http://www.bachcentre.com/centre/remedies.htm

Blessings to you both..

"What is life if we cannot help each other"

posted November 27, 2006 08:35 AM         

For Grief, Lovesickness

The Bach Flower Remedy Star of Bethlehem

If you dwell on past memories Red Chestnut

For deep despair Sweet Chestnut

Depression after grief, Gentian

Jealousy or hate Holly

Bitterness Willow

Prefer to be alone Water Violet

You can take up to 5 remedies mixed. I tend to take 3 or 4 times a days, or when needed....sometimes up to 6 times a day.

posted November 27, 2006 10:15 AM         

Never actually tried the flower remedies. Do they work for you?

posted November 27, 2006 11:39 AM         

The only problem is, remembring to take them......!

They work on a very subtle level. I have found the last couple of days, my "grief" has lessened somewhat and I feel more able to let go, than I did before...

posted November 27, 2006 01:55 PM         

I SWEAR to all goodness this IS WORKING!! I have tried many cutting ties visualizations, but not with the healing parts and the cords going back into the individual.........

<sigh>

relief.......

I do feel, though that it will take more than one session, and since I have 3...onward!!

Thanks

Terri

posted November 27, 2006 02:41 PM         

I also like to burn a white candle with the words letting go and then the person's name on it....let it burn all day if ye can...

All these things help and of course patience is the key...hahaha...having Aries rising dont help me with that, but I am learning....albeit it slowly!!

posted November 27, 2006 05:51 PM         

And for fecks sake dont get burning any RED candles....hehe....the results can be errrrr......errrrrrrr......interesting!!!!!!!!!

posted November 27, 2006 06:44 PM         

Can't thank you enough for the link Sue. I've added it to my favs since I will be needing it more than once myself.

posted November 27, 2006 07:04 PM         

Hey Terri...of course they always call.....let go and they come back....hahahahaha.....

Stay strong girl and keep posting, we need to support each other....that is why this place is so great!!!!

posted December 02, 2006 09:06 PM         

they come in liquid form in small bottles...so all you have to do is take four drops a few times a day.

I find Star of Bethlehem is helping loads with my grief issues!!

posted December 09, 2006 08:23 AM         

She was very down about a guy that was treating her badly.

After the ritual was over, I saw her with another man and suggested maybe she was about to meet him at the wedding she was due to attend.

She came to me on Thursday for another session and sure enough she had met him, the best man at the wedding. Subsequently she met up with the original guy and she expressed her surprise at the "non-attachment" she felt for him. She said he seemed surprised too.

Just one month ago she was crying, losing sleep and feeling very down on herself. After cutting the ties once, she felt very much stronger.

posted December 10, 2006 04:49 AM         

I have known people who have done the cutting of ties with parents, siblings and ex lovers and who have still go on to have fulfilling relationships with them but without the "enmeshment"

My hubbie did it with his father a few years ago, they'd had a terrible relationship before, but now its pretty good.

I think if you are not sure, dont, and maybe you will or will not decide to do this..

My intuition says, it maybe would be a good thing for your ex to do it....but then again,he isnt probably ready at the moment?

Maybe you just do what you feel is right, our intuition is never wrong, is it?

Good luck to you...

posted December 10, 2006 05:21 AM         

Am very surprised my hubbie did it tbh...but he is glad he did now...he even went to a therapist to go through it, which surprised me!!!!

Gem, you wont lose that man....its not cutting someone out of yer life that this ritual brings....just putting some space between you and therefore creating more harmony and peace...

I have done it a few times and without fail, its had very positive effects....

Wishing you well....relationships hey, so difficult at times....but necessary at some point for growth..