posted December 04, 2006 03:33 PM         

Anyway, I had been using a dating site online for a while, and I suggested that she try it...so she did. Few months went by, and then I met the pisces guy that I'm currently seeing on there. Once we started seeing eachother he actually put up a picture of both of us, and I told her about it. Since she was on the same site she asked me if she should email him just to say hi and that she was a friend of mine. Well, with my 8th house moon & venus in scorp, not to mention the fact that I don't trust her anyway, I said no.

Six weeks go by. Last Saturday one of my best friends had a Christmas party. She (a Gemini) begged me to bring the new guy, so I invited him to come. My leo friend was coming as well. This makes me leary to begin with. She has always made me uncomfortable by flirting openly with just about every boyfriend I've ever had, and with other friends of mine it NEVER bothers me as much as it does with her. I was starting to get nervous as Saturday approached and I even had a nasty nightmare about the whole thing.

When the leo arrived at the party, and I went to introduce her to mr. pisces, the second they saw eachother they instantly "knew" eachother. They both said that they recognized eachother from their "pictures." I had shown her pictures of him, but I NEVER showed him any pictures of her. So, obviously, sadly, something transpired between them. I immediately felt sick. The two of them continued flirting for a while too, which just made my blood boil, especially since I tried to warn him about the problems I have with her before hand. I didn't say anything that night, but it's eating at me now. I've been nauseated for two days.

I've really fallen hard for this guy, and so far he's proven to be true to his word...but even if a couple of emails were exchanged between them, NEITHER of them told me about it. I HATE, HATE, HATE cheaters. I loathe and detest them, no matter who's cheating with who or why. She sleeps with married and attached men all the time and always has. She slept with her old roommate's boyfriend. When we were in college, I was infatuated with one of the guys in our dorm. He and I were sleeping together but were not exclusive. She knew how I felt about him. Still, she gave him oral sex one night and told me about the next day like it was nothing! And she STILL brings it up!!!

Ok, this has gotten really long now, and you're probably wondering why I've asked for your help, but you're the closest thing to my boyfriend on here, so I thought maybe you could give me insight. I need to ask him about this and find out what happened exactly, but I don't know how to approach it and I don't want to sound accusatory because he may not have done anything wrong. I have to know exactly what happened though, and decide whether or not HE'S the right person for me. She's gone regardless...I've been looking for a reason for a long time now, and she's finally done for good.

posted December 04, 2006 06:51 PM         

Never mind...

posted December 04, 2006 07:01 PM         

The biggest thing with me is loyalty and I have a huge conscience. I will not deliberately hurt someone I care about. Period.

The problem you have with this Leo is that she is a perpetual dark horse and you never know where you stand. The shock of the revelation about the guy you liked before was the reaction to a cruel and pre-meditated attack.

I think she is jealous of you, I am in fact sure of it.

Bet you never considered that. I reckon she DOES covet your fella, but not for him, for the fact he is yours. Major major issues.

Ask him. Say it cooly and calmly and confidently and ask and explain the past (not in detail obviously).

If he is innocent he will be concerned that you may be upset and re-assure you. Any anger I would say is suspect, but remember that your friend is deliberately setting you up.

She wants a reaction. Don't give her one.

Swerve

posted December 04, 2006 09:45 PM         

I remember your first thread on your Leo “friend” and Zala has some questions.
Pisces Moon or No Pisces Moon, I suggest you quit worrying about hurting the feelings of a “person” (using that term generously) like her. I wonder how long it will be before you cut her out of your life completely and quit showing Leo pics of guys you like (why do you do that when you know she loves to try and “win” them away from you??) Swerve’s right – she’s jealous of you and she’s competing with you for the Prize (the guy). Her self-esteem is based on how many sexual conquests she can make, and the Prize is even sweeter if she can steal him away from another woman.

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I need to ask him about this and find out what happened exactly, but I don't know how to approach it and I don't want to sound accusatory because he may not have done anything wrong. I have to know exactly what happened though…

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"why are you still friends with her?" Good question. After my dad's funeral last summer she was at my house nearly every day helping us out, she came over to help last week when my little sister ran away...she's a good friend IN THOSE regards, so it's hard for me to feel I have a good enough reason for getting rid of her

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posted December 04, 2006 10:04 PM         

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Bet you never considered that. I reckon she DOES covet your fella, but not for him, for the fact he is yours. Major major issues

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This probably isn't any further from the truth. This was the same problem we had with our "friend". To our faces she was like "Oh, I wish I were like you,your so [insert your flattering comment] here. But behind our backs it was a complete different story. It was "Oh, they're such trash." or "Oh, they such sl*ts, they sleep around." And this was when in fact she was the one who slept around, she was the sl*t. And don't even get me started with her and the guys we've known.

Ok, maybe I've just ranted but I wouldn't recommend you stay friends with this girl. Your story is like deja-vu to me...this girl sounds so similar.

posted December 04, 2006 10:04 PM         

You're both right on the jealousy thing. I have ALWAYS felt an underlying competitiveness and jealousy coming from her and I've never understood why. It's not just with men either, it's with EVERYTHING. It's like everything I have, everything that's mine - she wants a part of it. It's sick, sick, sick! I know.

Swerve, I know, I didn't mean to imply that emails were cheating, and I don't think that he's done that. You're right Zala, if I thought that he had I'd drop him like a hot potato. Believe me, anything that she's touched is "contaminated" in my opinion. The reason that I don't think he's done anything is because he spends so much time with me. We usually spend 2 or 3 nights a week together, as well as Friday & Saturday nights. The nights that we're not together, we talk on the phone. So, I can't really imagine when anything would have taken place.

I think that either she had already emailed him before she asked me, or went ahead and did it anyway after I said not to. She was the one that seemed like she was trying to "cover it up" not him. I don't think she expected him to say, "I recognize you from your picture," because she immediately turned to me looking very flustered and said, "oh that was probably when I looked at his profile."

So, he probably doesn't even realize that there's a problem here. I think he's kind of "monkey in the middle" like you said Swerve. I'm still planning on asking him about it though. It's just something I think will be better done in person.

When I said that I hated "cheaters" it was more against her. The fact that she has absolutely no conscience or morals, and doesn't give a damn who she hurts.

posted December 04, 2006 10:29 PM         

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Pisces moon gives you an empathy for people that is nearly unbearable and practically debilitating sometimes. There are times when I absolutely HATE it because it induces SO MUCH self sacrifice. It feels like there's a little capricorn inside me screaming, "hey! what about me??!! don't let that person take advantage of you like that!!!" But the Cap NEVER wins. It's horrible…..The theory I've come up with while reading these posts is that I think sometimes it's EASIER for us Pisces mooners to be more assertive or confrontational or speak our minds...whatever, through the written word.

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posted December 04, 2006 10:45 PM         

Here's an example from the header page of this forum:

posted December 04, 2006 11:04 PM         

Edited to add: posting her pic wouldn't be so awful if you were talking sh-t about her. She sounds like a screwed insecure girl...whatever...but your actions arent excusable..

posted December 04, 2006 11:22 PM         

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Thanks Zala. Of course, now I feel bad for posting her picture!!!

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