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CrankyCap
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posted December 06, 2006 10:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for CrankyCap     Edit/Delete Message
I have a feeling that this post is going to run very long, so hopefully some of you don't mind reading...

First I need to give a little bit of background...Up to this point, I've only truly loved two men my entire life - my first boyfriend when I was in my late teens, and a Taurus that I've mentioned on here several times.

When I met Mr. Taurus, he had been transferred here from NYC by the company I worked for. He had been accepted into a management program that the company offered. What this program did was take young people straight out of college, and it would send them to an office somewhere in their home country to work for 1 year. During the course of that year, they would take 2 trips to Denmark (for 2 week stints) where they would learn the ins and outs of the business and take exams. The second year of the program, they were sent to another office somewhere else in their home country, and learn a different job. At the end of 2 years, they would be sent overseas for 2 years where they would learn another job. Finally, at the end of that they are sent BACK to their home country and placed in a management position. I met him when he first started...Columbus, Oh. was his first destination. I was 21, he was 23.

He told me how he had always wanted nothing more than to live in a foreign country for a while. He had taken the foreign service exam already, but had not been accepted. Then he thought of joining the merchant marine...which is how he had stumbled across this job, through a link on the internet. Truth be told, he didn't really care for the job, but the prize was living overseas for two years - all expenses paid. I was impressed with him. In my eyes, he was doing something that most people didn't have the courage to do. I admired him, and maybe even envied him.

Right away he told me he didn't want a relationship...said it was pointless because he wouldn't be around for very long. Who was I to stand in the way of him living his dream? At 21 I was naiive, and not yet jaded enough to be scared off by that. I figured I could change his mind. I thought I could get him to fall in love with me, and if not, at least I could have a year with him. We started dating.

He struggled with it. I struggled with it. He started a thing with a girl he met on one of the trips to Denmark, and didn't hide it. I cried all the time, but I couldn't let him go. Finally, 8 months into it he said he wanted to be with me and only me. Then he was transferred to San Francisco. I cried, and I struggled but I wanted to try and make it work. We lasted almost the full two years that he was in San Francisco, with one 3 month long break up in between. Then, two weeks before he found out he was being sent to Brazil, I found out that he had cheated on me. I ended it for good after a week of him sobbing on the phone apologizing profusely and choking through tears. He couldn't do it anymore, and Brazil would be impossible.

2 1/2 years later he was in town here on business - exactly 1 year ago this past October. We went to dinner and talked for hours. It was STILL difficult for me to be around him. I still loved him, but our time had passed. Though it was difficult, I finally got the closure I needed. It's only been in the last 6-8 months that I've finally felt my heart has healed and that I might be ok...

Then I met Mr. Pisces. Strangely enough, he reminds me so much of the Taurus sometimes it's frightening. Although, many of the faults I felt the Taurus had, the Pisces didn't.

Last week Pisces got a call from a friend of his in Chicago. Pisces lived there several years ago, and he had started a successful mortgage company there that he eventually sold. He's only been living in this city since last summer. He's been working in insurance here, but hates it. He has ALWAYS ran his own companies, and this is the first time in his life he's ever worked "for" someone. He's been complaining about it since I met him. This friend of his in Chicago actually worked for him when he had his mortgage company there. This guy is in bonds. He makes millions now. He put a bug in pisces ear that he's thinking of branching out and starting his own business, but needs financial backers. Of course, pisces jumped on this. It's high risk, but he likes that. He likes the challenge, and the POTENTIAL for big money. He hates that there are "limits" to how much he can make where he's working now. Pisces has been absolutely consumed by this idea this last week. It's all he's talked about, and all he thinks about. He's incredibly excited.

Last night when I got to pisces house, he was on the phone with the Chicago guy again. When he got off it was all he could talk about. Eventually, what came out was "if this all works out I'll be moving to Chicago in March." Deja vu. I instantly looked at him and said, "So, we should probably cool it then huh?" He was taken aback. He said, "NO! Why would we have to cool it??? What are you talking about?" I tried to explain to him that if he's leaving in 3 months and there's no real potential for our relationship to go anywhere, then what's the point? He seemed to understand what I was saying but didn't want to accept it. I tried telling him that I'VE BEEN in this position before, and I did not want to go through that again. He still wanted to see hope. He said that there was no guarantee that any of this would actually happen. My heart sank. I felt sick to my stomach. He tried to change the subject. We made love, he cooked some dinner, we watched some tv. I couldn't concentrate. I felt sick. He knew it was bothering me. I wouldn't eat. He kept trying to get close to me but I was shut out to everything at that point. He pleaded with me to spend the night with him but I had to get out of there. So many things were running through my head...
When I left his house I drove around for two hours and cried the entire time.

I realized for the first time last night, that I'm in love with him already. I also realized, that I'm in the EXACT same situation again as I was with the Taurus. I feel like God is playing some sick, cruel joke on me. Or maybe its Saturn - apparently I didn't learn enough of a lesson the first time and I need a second beating? I know how this story ends. I know the fu*king dialogue. I know the speeches. I remember what it was like to hold back tears as I waved goodbye on the way to the airport...just waiting for the second I could get on the plane, put on my headphones and sob. Wondering if I will ever see the person again. I CAN'T do this again, but I love him. How the fu*k am I supposed to handle this??? How can this happen to me twice?? I'm always pegged as the "accidental" girlfriend...the "mistake." I seem to have a habit of meeting the right guys at the wrong time. Always guys who come coasting through town for a minute, just long enough for me to fall for them and then...POOF! They're gone. This seriously feels like a fu*king joke. I am a Cap after all, so I seem to have a serious "thing" for these ultra-ambitious guys, but the one thing that excites me about them, seems to also be the same thing that tears us apart. Why is it that a good "business opportunity" is something that you can't pass up, but apparently a "good woman" is easily replaced without worry. Or maybe not a "good woman," but me specifically. Maybe I'm just disposable.

I don't know how I'm going to be able to work today. I've been fighting off tears all morning. This is such a nightmare...and one that I've ALREADY been through before...

What can I do???

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Azalaksh
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posted December 06, 2006 10:42 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Azalaksh     Edit/Delete Message
You have ME teary-eyed too, hon
I'm at work now and will get back to you at lunchtime & we'll discuss. Could I get your stats so I can set you up in my astro.com?? And Pisces-Fella too, if you got 'em.....
Hang in there ~
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CrankyCap
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posted December 06, 2006 11:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for CrankyCap     Edit/Delete Message
Thank you Zala...I need all the help I can get.

My info:

d.o.b. 1-2-79 @ 6:43 PM, Pontiac, Mi.

His info (birth time might be off a few minutes):

d.o.b. 2-23-73 @6:35 PM, Boling Green, Ky.

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Happy Dragon
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posted December 06, 2006 11:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Happy Dragon     Edit/Delete Message
re this one: .. d.o.b. 2-23-73 @6:35 PM, Boling Green, Ky.
i didn't look at bithtime .. but even without

Jupiter building up to square his Sun
Uranus is squaring his Lillith
~Neptune or Uranus~ may be trining his Moon..

~sorry but 'boling green ky' yielded no results for co-ordinates at astro.com ~..

( currently cranky somewhat impatient taurus .. ) .. aka HD

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CrankyCap
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posted December 06, 2006 11:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for CrankyCap     Edit/Delete Message
That's ok HD...I don't mind "cranky" . Try "Bolling Green," or "Bowling Green." I wasn't sure on the spelling...

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Happy Dragon
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posted December 06, 2006 11:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Happy Dragon     Edit/Delete Message
1-2-79 .. shows .. (transits)
Pluto conjoining Venus
Chiron square Chiron

'n Jupiter trine Jupiter ...

.. dire straits 'romeo and juliet' was just playing on the radio ..

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Happy Dragon
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posted December 06, 2006 11:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Happy Dragon     Edit/Delete Message
re:
**Try "Bolling Green," or "Bowling Green."**
ok .. i want to find out anywayz 'cause i've been there .. :-)
.. kentucky that is ..

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Happy Dragon
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posted December 06, 2006 11:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Happy Dragon     Edit/Delete Message
ok ..
KY (US): 36n59, 86w27, Kentucky

will check it for moon
~~~~~~
'the police ' now on radio ..
( a doo doo doo a da da da .. is all i want to say to you )
crankiness dissappearing rapidly ..
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'later ..

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Happy Dragon
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posted December 06, 2006 12:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Happy Dragon     Edit/Delete Message
ok .. Neptune is building up to square his Moon ..
.. its about 5 deg prior to exact ..
disregard 'trine' in prev post .. was reading it wrong ..
and i missed this one earlier ..
Saturn is currently opposing his Venus ( and retrograde ) .. applying ..
btw: this sftwr is showing nataly he has Saturn *exactly* conjunct his MC
and by transit .. Urns is about 5 deg prior to opposing his Ascendant ..

nataly he has moon square to his venus ..
so transiting neptune also building up to conjoin his natal venus
it currently shows as conjoining his natal vertex .. nept. that is ..

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CapGirl
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posted December 06, 2006 12:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CapGirl     Edit/Delete Message
Crank,

My immediate initial thought is that this Pisces is NOT the same guy as the Taurus... and it is NOT necessarily the SAME situation. I do not think that you can assume so much. I know you had a bad experience with the long-distance relationship before, but that doesn't mean that it will play out the same or end up the same. I think you're being doomy-gloomy like a Cap. and a bit dramatic. Just my honest outsider's take.

Of course, you need to assess whether you want to be involved in a long distance thing again and deal with the general stress/ compromise of that... It doesn't mean it's doomed from the start though just because he'll be long distance. Who knows- maybe this move won't even happen? Do you know this guy well enough to know whether he talks big, or just talks/dreams/considers things and then changes his mind?

I just think you need to step back, slow down, and try to look at this more level-headed and rationally.

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posted December 06, 2006 12:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Swerve     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Cranky,

Can you not the consider the possibility of moving with him and starting a grand adventure?

I don't know your personal situation, so that may not be feasible. You may also be reluctant because the relationship is so new as well..

Just a thought.


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Azalaksh
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posted December 06, 2006 01:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Azalaksh     Edit/Delete Message
CC ~

OK. How’re you doing right now?? Have you been thinking about how to approach Pisces again and how to start off your discussion of your futures (together or apart)??

Now that his crankiness is departing , HD may share his thoughts and experience as the gifted transits interp specialist he is…..

I just reread your backstory and several things struck me…..
Due to your (understandable) fear of loss/pain, you’ve disconnected from Pisces – and from what you wrote, he seemed puzzled by your actions. I guess I’d like to understand more about that….. ie, please give me some feedback on his reaction to your pulling away.

imho, what needs to happen when you see him next is a talk about whether you two want to be together exclusively – whether you want to make yours a longterm love relationship or just a fun interlude on the road of life. As a partnership, decide what you are, then decide what you want. Can those goals be melded/combined – are they compatible?? Next, individually – what do YOU want and what are you willing to give up?? CC, you like ambition in a guy. You may have to postpone or give up some of your own ambitions if you intend to be partners with a man like that. If he wants to move to Chicago – would you?? Could you?? You say you are very much in love with him – does he feel the same about you??

Next, the long-distance thing – if you two decide you want to be together, but he needs to go to Illinois for awhile to get things set up and rolling, would you be able to stay behind (at least for awhile) – knowing what you know about what happened with Taurus?? History may not necessarily be repeating itself. Perhaps this is a challenge dressed in the guise of history-repeating-itself, to see what you will make of it **this** time around. I definitely think this situation has been presented to you so you can learn…..

I’ll set you up at Astro tonite so I can have a look at what’s going on. I’d also like to look back in time at your chart for your relationship with Taurus: Start and End dates??

Actually, I feel excited for you!! Like Swerve said, this may be the start of a new Adventure!! You used the term “jaded” – I hope you never get to that point You’re older and wiser now – only struggle, pain and slogging step by step down the road get you there. Howzabout one of my fave quotes?? “Good judgment comes from Experience. Experience comes from bad judgment.”

quote:
I tried to explain to him that if he's leaving in 3 months and there's no real potential for our relationship to go anywhere, then what's the point?
I think what you said to Pisces here was in reaction to your stomach dropping to the floor by his sudden disclosure about Chicago. There IS real potential. But first, you two need to decide what you want, and what you expect from each other and from the relationship.

And please drop the “accidental g/f” and “mistake” and “disposable” stuff from your vocabulary – don’t sell yourself so short!! Your mantra for today: “I am awesome! The Universe sent me a wonderful new opportunity!” Thoughts Are Things – what you think you are, you WILL be. That dam* lunar fish stuff gets in the way sometimes, doesn’t it??

I’ll get back to you tonite, hon ~
Zala

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posted December 06, 2006 01:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Azalaksh     Edit/Delete Message
DP gremlins at play.....

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posted December 06, 2006 01:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
I also agree with the sentiment that you can't treat this as an identical situation to the previous one. That's not fair to the Pisces (or to yourself if it happens to work out).

Swerve's idea is good, and I was also thinking that someone with this much money floating around might be able to spring for frequent trips for you two to be together.

I don't think you should distance yourself from him so soon. Exercise some of that Capricorn patience we're known for.

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posted December 06, 2006 01:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CrankyCap     Edit/Delete Message
CapGirl - I realize that he's not the same guy as the Taurus, but this situation is too similar for me to NOT react. The difference here, is that with the Taurus, HE was the realistic one...I was the idealist there. I had a lot more hope and optimism in me back then. I'm much older now and I have to be cautious...I have to look out for red flags. I'm obviously not a strong enough force in this guy's life to even be considered as a factor. He's already scheduled trips over New Years (so he'll miss my birthday), and Valentine's Day week - these are more Taurus-like actions. He seems the one more hopeful here, but it was obvious last night talking to him that business comes first. All I'm doing is trying to protect myself from being bulldozed again. If you think I'm being overly dramatic...well, I don't know what to say to that. All I know is that the feelings are real, the tears are real, and the past is real. The past is something they say you can't ever escape. As far as long distance relationships go, I'd say 90% of them don't work. It certainly wasn't just the one that I was in. If you've never been in one, you have no idea how stressful it is, or how much insecurity comes to the surface for both people. I honestly don't think it's something I can do again.

Swerve - The relationship is new, but if going with him was an option I absolutely would go. I don't think he'd even consider that though, seeing as we haven't known eachother that long yet.

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posted December 06, 2006 01:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Swerve     Edit/Delete Message
One thing I have to stress is that distancing yourself may be THE very worst course of action.

I hate that with a passion, it always affects me deeply.

I was going out with a Cancer a couple of years back (nobody groan ) and she did this and said she thought it would make us stronger in time.

We never recovered.

Talk...to...him.

I could not be more certain in telling you anything.


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posted December 06, 2006 01:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
I agree, nothing fancy us Pisces more is when our mates bring to us how they are feeling and can sit down with us and show that they want to work things out..

CrankyCap: Sounds like this is just one of many things that will test to see if this is really true love, and there is nothing that you can really do except let it unfold..You cannot control whats going to happen. I know that you are concerned about your well being and your heart and you should be but whats gone happen is gone happen.

When things are meant to be they have a way of working themselves out..and if its not meant to be they have a way of working themselves out.Be honest with him and let him know how you feel and I am sure that he will be honest back. Just wait and see what is what...

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posted December 06, 2006 02:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CrankyCap     Edit/Delete Message
Zala - First of all, you're very good at giving me advice! For some reason, you word things in a way that can reach me better than other people...so that's good!

I guess the best way to explain my reactions is that I just withdraw a little bit and get lost inside my head. I can be staring at a tv but not "watching" it at all. Does that make sense? Last night we were watching My Cousin Vinny (this is after we had that talk). Pisces laughed at a funny scene and looked over at me - I don't even think I had blinked. He said, "didn't you think that was funny? You're allowed to laugh you know." Then he got up and sat next to me with his head on my shoulder. I was just in a zone. I wasn't paying any attention to what was going on.

The pisces has pretty much preached monogamy right from the beginning. He's referred to me as his girlfriend or "his woman" for quite some time now. He's sent pictures of me to his family and friends. So, I don't think his original intentions were for this to be a quick romp while he was passing through town. Plus, his initial reaction to my "cool it" comment was shock, followed by sadness and confusion. I don't think he had thought far enough into this to think about how it would effect us, and then my thought of ending things before they got worse...might have hurt him. Perhaps he didn't realize how deep his feelings had gotten yet either.

The conversation that you suggested I have with him is kind of what I was trying to get out of him last night. But, like I said, when I forced him to look at the reality of the situation he just changed the subject. I don't think he was ready for that. Then, throughout the rest of the evening he was acting even more affectionate than usual. He pleaded with me to stay with him too. He ALWAYS pleads, but he knows that during the week I usually head home since I have to work in the morning. Last night however, he seemed like he was trying to hold on a little tighter. So...I really don't know what he was thinking.

With the Taurus I thought, "as long as I can get one year...just one year with him..." Now, I know that that's never enough. Time is the most precious gift, but you always want more...

Believe me, I'd go with him in a heartbeat...but it's not my decision. What I want is a chance. I want a fair shot, and I don't want to just be someone's glorified fu*k buddy for a few months. I want something deep...a best friend and companion. Plus I want security, not something where I'm just waiting for the bottom to fall out.

-I met the Taurus on August 1, 2000. The relationship ended right around February 10,2003. His birthday was 5-17-77 in Yonkers, NY...don't know his birth time.

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posted December 06, 2006 02:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
All that of what you just said, should be said again to him..If not already..

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posted December 06, 2006 07:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
that sounds good but he is still going and business comes first like you said. I believe you are selling yourself short, when you do that, you still love him, sleep with him the whole bit but you just demand a bit more that's all. There's nothing wrong with asking. Try getting him to do the things that would make the relationship bearable, or at least plan them.

If he can't do that your way then you don't have a choice in the relationship and it lacks equality. If it lacks that then it's unhappy. You didn't lose anything by being with him, and I know how cute pisces men can be but business comes first...

I heard that from my pisces recently and the reason he spends so much time with his pisces girl/friend is because they want to start a business together. I can't do that for him, I am just steady. Sort of in your position, want long term but always seem to come up short.

Well you tried, and at least you made a loyal friend if not a long term lover.

Good luck and hugs
Natasha
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posted December 07, 2006 10:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for scorpluv     Edit/Delete Message
CC,

Have you told Pisces exactly how you feel? I mean, no holds bar, no meandering, just straight up honest with him? Being coy and distant is not helping your situation. You have to tell him that you are really falling for him and that your afraid that this opportunity, though it is wonderful for him, is not something that you believe can work out in the long-term with such distance between eachother. I think it is time to really express your true sentiments, regardless of the consequences. At least that way you can speak with eachother honestly and from the heart. Leave dialogue open enough to discuss possible solutions to your difficulties. Call it a hunch, but I just have a feeling that when you are both able to talk about this situation, without withholding from one another, I believe that he will be more than willing to work on a possible solution. Tell him your fears and concerns, share your mutual goals and potential and work from there. The worse that could happen is that you both never know how you really feel about eachother. You'll be surprised by the results honesty can reveal, in the end, you both owe it to yourselves to really try and work things out, but you have to be willing to put yourself out there. Let me know how things go... Good luck and God Bless

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posted December 07, 2006 02:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CrankyCap     Edit/Delete Message
Hey Scorpluv! I was wondering where you were hiding! Yes, that seems to be the general consensus around here...I need to talk to him. I went out to dinner last night with my Virgo friend...he's always been kind of like my free therapist. He said the same thing everyone else has, although he's pushing me to call Mr. Pisces, and right now I'm just feeling like a scaredy cat and being stubborn. I haven't talked to Pisces since Tuesday night. At this point, I'm kind of feeling like the phone works both ways - he can call me too, and actually I'd feel a lot better if he made a move right now. With him acting distant too, it's just pointing me more in the direction of just ending things now. If he had been more willing to talk with me on Tuesday, I probably would have told him more about how I was feeling, but he just didn't want to discuss it. If and when I see him next, I know we're going to have to hash this out, and I am fully prepared to do so.

Strangely enough, I got a phone call last night from one of Pisces friend's girlfriend. Pisces introduced me to her and her boyfriend about 5 weeks ago. She and I hit it off and had exchanged numbers. She's called me a couple of times in the last month, but not very often. She called last night and I spilled everything to her, but after the phone call I kind of wondered if Pisces might have put her up to it??? Of course, I'm a stressed out woman at the moment so I could be reading waaaaay to much into this. Still...I do think it's possible...

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posted December 07, 2006 03:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for scorpluv     Edit/Delete Message
CC, I can completely sympathize with your apprehensiveness, but do it for your own piece of mind. It will definitely make you feel better and clear the air between you and Pisces... believe me... The longer you wait, the more resentment and time you have to get completely confused. May I offer a suggestion? Maybe if you write down how your feeling, it will give you a better prespective of the situation... It will also make you feel better that you got some of those emotions off your chest... It'll make you feel better and help you organize your thoughts alot better... Just have faith that things will work out for the best...

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posted December 09, 2006 07:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for earthycoco     Edit/Delete Message
Crankycap,

You say you are attracted to ambitious men? If so then I'm afraid you will have to accept that at times you will come second. There is a saying, "behind every successful man is a strong woman". Do you want to *be* this strong woman, can you deal with having the supporting role in your man's life? Most successful people have to put their ambitions before their relationships, most successful people have a loving partner who plays the supporting role in their lives.

These questions I ask are partly theoretical... but this is YOUR life. How you deal with this relationship is YOUR choice. You don't have to give you power away and sit around hoping and waiting for him to backtrack and decide not to move (this is your true hope is it not?).

I can understand your fears, I'm not disregarding them at all but neither do I want to sympathise with you. I feel that you have an opportunity here to create a different outcome, you don't have to repeat history. Every dilemma in life brings forth the chance for us to deal with the given situation as the person we most wish to be.

Who do you want to be in this situation? You love your Pisces and yet your fear of rejection causes you to put up walls. He may or may not be in love with you, he may find it easier to be in love with you if you show him your true self.... by taking down some of these walls.

In life we tend to most regret the things we *haven't* done. You have the opportunity here to be true to yourself, to express your love for him. Be sure that after a few months of intimacy a man will usually know whether it is possible for him to love the woman he is with. You won't scare him off with your honesty, you will be making a step towards the next stage of your life. Whether this will be with or without him I cannot say but I can say that if you act from love rather than fear then the outcome will always be that which is best for you in the long run.

(((hugs)))

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posted December 12, 2006 10:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for scorpluv     Edit/Delete Message
Hey CC... Wanted to know how things are progressing? Did you speak to Pisces? How's the whole situation w/your sister? How about that Leo? Get back to me when you have a chance...

Concerned... SL

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