posted December 16, 2006 08:24 AM         

Personally, Uranus aspects suck in relationships without a balance going on with Saturn....

posted December 16, 2006 09:40 AM         

My sun squares my boyfriend's Uranus....and it's really not a problem in our relationship.

posted December 16, 2006 01:01 PM         

No one is "doomed", and no one need feel "hopeless" about the positions of the planets at their birth. If you truly love someone, and they truly love you, anything can be overcome.

From Linda Goodman’s “Relationship Signs” page 196:

If only Earthlings would realize the power of love to conquer any kind of misery or unhappiness like a mighty magic wand, it wouldn’t matter whether two people’s birth charts were full of positive or so-called negative aspects because love can conquer the influences of the planets. It can even eliminate karma. Yes, if only humans truly understood this. Well, it’s the Aquarian age of serendipity, so maybe someday soon.

From Steven Forrest: http://www.stevenforrest.com/lovehandles.html
To me, in the realities of the astrological counselling room, there are
two immutable premises:
There is no manner of astrological interaction between two people that
is so inherently sweet that enough selfishness, confusion about sex, or
immaturity cannot turn it sour.

There is no manner of astrological interaction between two people that
is so inherently bitter that enough patience, devotion, and humility can
not only make it last, but make it something precious to both people.

From Marcia Sacks: http://www.mountainastrologer.com/sacks1000.html
Just as there is variety but no perfection in horoscopes, there can be love and companionship but no happily-ever-after in relationships. However, even folks with very difficult horoscopes can have healthy, successful relationships if they can accept that relationships require work. I think of it like gardening: You need seeds, soil, nourishment, water, and maintenance to grow something of beauty.

Remember that relationships are not a cure for depression. Other people cannot obliterate your feelings of loss, lack, and limitation. If you feed yourself positivity through affirmation and imagery, if you pat yourself on the back and nurture yourself, you will begin to attract more positive, supportive people in your life.

From Bill Herbst: http://www.billherbst.com/
Human beings are not signs of the zodiac, and astrology neither reveals nor determines the quality of our consciousness. The expresson of our charts is largely a function of our maturity, rather than the other way around. Our species is chock full of human beings who are mired in seemingly permanent adolescence, no matter what their age or elevation in culture. In terms of spiritual development, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink. Nonetheless, the water exists. We choose.

posted December 16, 2006 02:17 PM         

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His North Node is also conj my Vertex. Would that activate it? And wat does that mean? My N.N is conjunct my own DC. I feel like its my karmic duty to suffer in relationships...for the rest of my sad sad life and im only 19. Whohoo

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Have you read up about your natal NN in the 6th??
http://www.cafeastrology.com/articles/northnodeinvirgo.html

The transiting NN is said to “charge up” or “emotionalize” whatever point or planet it touches, which makes sense as the Nodes belong to the Moon. Check out Jan Spiller's "Astrology for the Soul" and your Aries NN chapter. Your SN is in Libra, conj your Asc in the 12th -- this could be part of why a relationship is so comfortable and important to you.

BUD, he’s 20 and you’re 19. It’s perfectly natural for both of you to still be exploring, testing and tasting all that Life has to offer, and learning what human intimacy really entails. If I were to put forth some advice, it would be to get to know *yourself* as well as possible, and explore (and perhaps revise) what your expectations of relationships are. Many of us fall into relationships unconsciously, based on a superficial attraction or fascination, or just the desire to be in a relationship -- ANY relationship -- and project our expectations onto the other person. Sometimes we do not see the other person clearly, with all their virtues and faults, and instead see what we wish to see. Are you and Zed “best friends”??

posted December 16, 2006 09:29 PM           

this is when astrolgy, does no good at all...

Listen to your Heart

posted December 16, 2006 09:59 PM           

Go within..to your heart
to Mind..and up and up
OverSoul=God...

Mastership...

posted December 16, 2006 10:29 PM           

he loves you, let him know how lucky you
are to have him...worry is wasteful, it
doesn't change anything, but positive thoughts
and undertaking to do all with Love in your heart..well that is some powerful stuff...
try ebay for Gooberz, copies are usually always popping up there. ...
it's been mentioned more than twice now..It's time to experience the Magic of this wonderful book...
Ggod Luck
Good Luck, Bad Luck, it's all in how we see it..You two are fated, by the Stars, I do Believe!

posted December 16, 2006 11:14 PM           

use your aristic talents as powerful positive outlets, do the things that empower you...
that you make you feel strong...

your fears are unfounded, there is no logic or reason for them, your natal chart is to be Mastered, Overcomed...

In Your Truth and Strength...

posted December 16, 2006 11:27 PM         

Dear Lotus i actually have been trying to draw more it calms me a lot and i love painting. Especially watercolor (im not good) but just something about putting water in color that just calms me down a lot. And i have definately made a plan to give him as much space as needed. Im not even gonna bother with the fact that I want him to spend more time with me. All the space he wants is his.

And dear Eatbooks i actually thought about it. Thats the only thing that keeps me going...