posted December 18, 2006 01:42 AM         

I think you need to talk to her and ask her about this guy.

posted December 18, 2006 04:48 AM         

You dropped some of your female friends for her?

She gave you a hard time with you talking to other women...I remember your other posts.

I would confront her head on and ask her what she wants.

The cheek of her talking with other guys at YOUR house on your computer...

What a brazen one!!!

I know a woman, who has to be the centre of attention all the time. She cheated on her husband at least three times, but even if he were to look at another woman, she would freak! Sorry for what you are going through, but from the feeling I am getting, you deserve better.

Good luck with this....

posted December 18, 2006 07:46 AM         

with her rising in sag and sun in leo, her sun is likely in the 8th house(scorpio house) , so she will be verrrry angry you snooped on her, plus that sagi freedom, yack....and i know how the leo number goes....they want/need male attention, they might never act on it, but they want to round them up, and have them drooling all over them..
post her chart here if u want us to analyze her a bit, the ones from astro.com will do...

anyways, yeah have a talk with her, she sounds like a b1tch..

posted December 18, 2006 07:59 AM         

The charts are in this thread. I feel like a fool. I feel like crying I am so mad right now...After all I did to please her why cannot it be enough .

Thank you all for your help.

posted December 18, 2006 08:17 AM         

But sometimes, you just have to come straight out with things.

I was interested what you said about your dream. I have had dreams about people, that they were lying about me or stabbing me in the back...and ALL of them came true!!

She was at your house on your computer.....she took a risk doing that...it almosts feels like she wanted you to find out...

Tell her the truth, about the dream and what you found, if you dont face it now, it will get worse for you....

Sorry for what you are going through...its horrible for you I am sure...

posted December 18, 2006 09:36 AM         

Fact: We ALL have baggage. We ALL have scars. If you've ever allowed yourself to love and be vulnerable, chances are, you've been hurt. This does NOT give you permission to take it out on the next person, or to treat them like the person that came before. Sometimes it's difficult to battle those demons, but if you REALLY love someone, you'll try. She has not shown you that respect.

Fact: She is a hypocrite. Any way you slice it, this girl is as two-faced as they come. She has ENORMOUS ego, but very, very low self-esteem. You said you didn't think it was "fair" that she's made you give up all of your female friends (who were 100% platonic anyway), meanwhile she's sending pictures of herself to other men and keeping a profile up on match???? NO GOOD! That's dirty, deceptive, and cruel.

Seeing as she's a Leo, I think you made your first mistake with her by giving in to her and all of her demands. She probably lost some respect for you there (even though she got what she wanted) and immediately took control, with you as the "puppy dog" in her eyes - never a good place to be with a woman. In my experience, for the most part Leo's are all bark and no bite. She's going to use that temper and bellow at you until her face turns red...but you know what will REALLY get to her? If you don't react to it at all. You need to take back your status as the "male" in this relationship if you want it to survive. Otherwise, she'll continue to take advantage of you and leave you feeling like sh*t. Sadly, she sounds an awful lot like the Leo friend I have that I've been trying to shake off for quite some time. I've said in earlier posts that she NEVER lets go of old lovers (a great many of which are Libras co-incidentally) - her ego and her pride are so big that the thought of losing one, is ONE rejection too many...so, she keeps hold of all of them, even though she only may speak to some of them once every couple of months. She doesn't consider it "cheating" if she's only slept with one man in a month's time. I imagine her fit of rage would be quite brutal if a man were to ever try and get her to cut her ties from other men. But you're right - look out if they try to make her jealous! There's a major double standard there.

You need to call this girl on her bad behavior, because it will only get worse, and she'll only become more manipulative toward you, and you seem like a sweet and genuine guy who most certainly does not deserve that. I know it may be hard as a double Libra to find that inner "backbone" (I understand seeing as I am a lunar fish myself), but you must. This relationship will never move forward, and will remain unhealthy for the both of you otherwise.
Tell her how this made you feel and how much she's hurt you, and that you outright REFUSE to be in a one-sided relationship. Stand your ground!

posted December 18, 2006 11:11 AM         

4, 7, and 8th house.

posted December 18, 2006 01:06 PM         

I rode into work with her this morning, and we talked...she pulled it out of me. She commented on my appearance as I did not sleep a wink. I told her I was up and that I needed to talk. I thought about what some of you said and just summoned up the strenght ( you do not know how hard it was ) to tell her. She as i expected immediately got mad and then told me that I shouldnt have been snooping which I expected also. As it turns out her explanation for the email to the guy was about my christmas present. As I am typing this out I am crying because I feel really crummy about the whole ordeal. She knows there is this beautiful picture of her that I like. She looks like an angel in it. Well she sent that picture to this guy who just happens to design bedspreads and pillows. SHe took me to his website and said it was oing to be a surprise of her picture all over the pillows and bedding. She mentioned what she said in the email and explained why she said it. She said it looked cozy enough to snuggle up in it. Thats because the material was burberry...She told me the least I can do is if I am going to snoop around tell her about it and confront her right away but I should have trusted her. She said the match page would be coming down but since she is not the one paying for it *her mom is* it would have to wait but she has not been active says. She just dropped me off at home because I only had a half day at work. She gave me a small hug and a kiss on the cheek. I feel like dirt right now. She said she can understand about me feeling odd when guys call but that they will call and she cannot do anything about it. She does take the calls in front of me and doesnt sound like she is flirting. She said She wishes I would trust her and that she would never lie to me...and I suppose I have to believe her. SHe told me alot of things I probably would have never found out but because she wanted to be upfront she told me. She told me I could have been more upfront with her about my feelings which is true. Now she said she is hurt and aggravated by me and only kissed me on the cheek. I asked her if she will stay mad at me forever but she said no. I hope this will not end us for good as I really am deeply and profoundly in love with her. I owe her an apology and I owe you all an apology too. I feel really crummy but if one good thing came out of this mess I learned that there are some really nice people out there who care. Thank you to all who took the time to read this. I really genuinely love all of you guys and appreciate your outpouring of support. I will try to keep you updated. I think it is best if I steer clear of her for a bit and give her some time to think. What is worse is i know how i would feel in this situation and I feel bad that I hurt her. I wish I could take it all back but I am glad it came out in the open because I can hold my feelings in and then I would lose my love for her. I hate being jealous....I do not knwo what it is about her that makes me this way because I never had this problem before. Is it possible for a jealous person to project their jealousy onto their mate. I just want us to be whole again.... Thank you all...

posted December 18, 2006 02:49 PM         

Don't worry about the jealousy thing.

I have yelled and smacked before by jumping to conclusions. As long as you don't do that you should be fine LOL