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Belano
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From: syracuse,ny,usa
Registered: Dec 2006

posted January 06, 2007 09:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Belano     Edit/Delete Message
Hello everyone, I am new to the site. I've been reading some of the posts, and they sparked a little hope in me. The responses to those who are hurting are so genuine and full of inspiration. I'm feeling a little lost right now, and words of encouragement and more astrological insight may just be what I am looking for.
I promised myself years ago that I would wait until I found my true twin s-elf, and that the days of settling for less were over. I waited a very long time, and then he was here! I thought that I had found him, and often when any negative thoughts would arise I corrected them. Like, he's not sure. He isn't right for me, because.. This seemed to work, but now it has been days since I've heard from him. His phone is turned off, and I've been strong ..by only trying to call him twice. This all came right after he poured his heart out ..about how he felt about me. From talking to other people, and from past experience this is all too common. That men who are overwhelmed by how they feel retreat. It was such a typical end to something I believed was so special!
I've re-read LOve Signs to re-member my faith and to try and understand better the Scorp-Sag combination. Truthfully, it just described our relationship perfectly and made me cry.
I don't know what to do. I'm feeling lost and hoping I can find a sympathetic voice out there in Lindaland...

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Azalaksh
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From: New Brighton, MN, USA
Registered: Nov 2004

posted January 06, 2007 10:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Azalaksh     Edit/Delete Message
Welcome to LL, Belano

You’re the Sagi?? Reading your story made me wonder if you two have a Sun/Pluto aspect in synastry….. I’ve read interps that say: “You are very uninhibited with each other, and you open up to each other more readily than to others….. also, either of you may feel threatened, embarrassed, or disempowered by revealing so much of yourself to the other, and consequently feel the need to be secretive….."

He probably felt too exposed and had to retreat. I have a friend who went thru something similar – she was floored when a fella she cares about revealed some really personal info to her. But then he disappeared. Does your fella have Pisces influences?

Zala

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Belano
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From: syracuse,ny,usa
Registered: Dec 2006

posted January 07, 2007 11:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Belano     Edit/Delete Message
Thank you for your reply Azalaksh. It really helps to hear another person's perspective. My friends have been wonderful. I am quite fortunate to have a group of family and friends who are really there for each other. Unfortunately, few of them have read Linda's books or know much about astrology. I feel bad asking for help in this forum. If there is anything I can do for someone else I am always willing to do what I can. I guess it's okay to ask for help once in a while?
I am the Scorp. I don't know what time he was born, and I haven't even tried to look at any of this until now. I know, real smart. I was way too swept up in the dream. I must have thought how wonderful that everything just lined up perfectly, because I had prayed so hard for it.
I know it is silly to worry, because he is probably just overwhelmed and needs to be away. I keep thinking that something is not right, other than the fact that he is avoiding me. I hope he is okay.
I've read some more posts on other topics. I hope that anyone who has some insight isn't scared off. I am willing to read something that may not be what I wanted... I guess I am probably looking for closure more than I am hope in this relationship.

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Azalaksh
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From: New Brighton, MN, USA
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posted January 07, 2007 11:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Azalaksh     Edit/Delete Message
Do you feel like posting both your birth stats??

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MysticMelody
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posted January 07, 2007 02:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MysticMelody     Edit/Delete Message
Sometimes the answer to a prayer is a person who will teach you the lessons and help you grow into the person you are meant to be... to fully and properly connect to "The One".

You are in very good hands with Zala.

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Belano
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From: syracuse,ny,usa
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posted January 07, 2007 04:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Belano     Edit/Delete Message
Thank you.. I posted my birth data earlier but feel more comfortable not having it out there forever.

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Azalaksh
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From: New Brighton, MN, USA
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posted January 07, 2007 04:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Azalaksh     Edit/Delete Message
Bel ~

We would also need City, State.....

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Belano
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From: syracuse,ny,usa
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posted January 07, 2007 05:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Belano     Edit/Delete Message
oh I forgot to write we were both born in the same city...syr,ny...and still here

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~jane_says~
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posted January 08, 2007 04:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ~jane_says~     Edit/Delete Message
Wow..this reminds me of my pisces friend, who after 8 years of friendship poured his soul out to me about how he and I were perfect for each other, etc. Needless to say I didn't feel the same way and while I didn't exactly scold him, I was internally infuriated that this was kept from and somehow compromised our friendship. However, I tried to remain cool and calm about it, wanting to keep in touch, yet he drifted away. He called less and less, and we hardly ever saw each other. Now we have no contact whatsoever. It's a sad scenario I know and I wish I could help it 'cause he and I were quite a pair as friends. I miss him, but I can't help but think it was just our time to end as friends or as anything.

I had a pisces who I saw for 2years off and on, mostly cause of his retreats, continally torture me with his professing of love and then high tail, then come calling days even weeks later. I got the hell out of there after much self-inflicted pain.

So, I hope it works out for you and that he is only retreating to recover from his "outburst" of emotions that men sometimes cannot quite come to terms with. He may have just scared himself! If not do yourself a favor and take care of you.

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"If you believe, you can achieve." Tupac

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Belano
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From: syracuse,ny,usa
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posted January 11, 2007 08:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Belano     Edit/Delete Message
That is some really good advice. I think I have been way too affected by all of this which may be understandable, but it isn't inevitable. It's funny just when I decided that I am going to do just what you suggested..take care of me, of course he came around. If anyone else would like to learn from my situation, my advice is to do all the things you have to do for you even if you don't feel like getting out of bed. Drag yourself out! I went to the movies by myself. I shopped...oh yeah that felt good. I went out with my girls. Eventually, he may come knocking, but we have to be smarter the next time! I am just a little less available. I am busy trying to go back to school. In fact, I think this experience was a blessing.
Thank you to those of you who read and sympathized with my angst! I'm glad I can offer some hope to others without relying on a perfect outcome to this romance.

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