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posted March 12, 2007 04:30 PM         

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He asked if that meant that I won't talk to him anymore. I didnt answer. I just wished him a wonderful day.

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He seriously asked you that?? Good thing you dropped him like it's hott!!

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posted March 12, 2007 04:45 PM         

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Im dead f^cking serious!! And Im pretty damn sure he was serious about what he said too

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posted March 13, 2007 09:08 AM         

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Hmmmm....

Well what can I say; The guy cealrly doesn't have any intentions of being with anyone for the long run. However, on the issue of arranged marriages... I do feel for the guy. I don't support it and would never go through one. That much is pretty clear. The pressure to please his parents however may come as quite a hinderence. I think its time he sat down and talked with them openly about his position oh this all.

Well I totally believe in the saying "We like people for the good qualities but we love them for their flaws." Hey, if every girl was the shy, giggly, overly sugary type, I think I would have take a vow of celebacy Lol! No offence intended to all the sweet girls out there but over the top nice is like nails on a chalk board to me. So would I want everyone to behave the same "conventional" way? Hell no. Same goes with the point about passive people .

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posted March 13, 2007 09:13 AM         

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Im dead f^cking serious!! And Im pretty damn sure he was serious about what he said too

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Ughhhh, that's worse than the 'Can we still be friends' liner (virtually the same thing). Its like 'well, you managed to deceive me and therefore insult my intelligence.....of course I'll still talk to you!'

Best of luck,girlfriend.

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posted March 13, 2007 11:47 AM         

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Ughhhh, that's worse than the 'Can we still be friends' liner

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Actually... I have to disagree there. If things don't work out, that doesn't mean people have to be at each other's throats. Exs make great friends (as long as they choose to stay friends.) Then again... it all depends upon the person as well.

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posted March 13, 2007 12:32 PM         

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Errr, I kind of meant that in the context of this situation. How can I say this better: like if he, the virgo, asked her that after what he had just done. That type of thing makes me P.O'd.

This doesn't mean I'm the type to actively stay friends with ex's...but I break ties for different reasons. I will admit that sometimes it was out of bitterness, but most times its really an apathetic thing (don't feel the need to remain in contact). I feel its kind of messy sometimes when ex's do stay friends but that's only when there is one person who has hopes of getting back together as a couple.

Other than that; if the two people have great friendship and neither has any desire to resume the relationship...then more power to them.

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posted March 13, 2007 03:20 PM         

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Oh no I don't mean it in that context (i.e. disagreeing on your specific preferences.) I just wanted to throw in the point that not all previous relationships have to end with a "lets just break all contact with each other" senerio .

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posted March 13, 2007 05:32 PM         

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Oh,Oops! Well in that case, I agree.

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posted March 14, 2007 02:56 AM         

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I completely agree with the virgo male's monotone voice - they also seem to just go on and on when really they haven't noticed that they've made their point in at least 3 different ways [this is both adorable and annoying, in turns].

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posted March 15, 2007 08:41 AM         

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Oh Daydreamer! I'm so sorry to hear that. I know I'd be devastated if that happened to me. Your story sort of scared me and prompted me to do some double-checking with my own Pakistani-Virgo and am pleased with the results. Mom is British and Dad converted to Catholicism, so no arranged engagements.

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they also seem to just go on and on when really they haven't noticed that they've made their point in at least 3 different ways

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YES! Mine does too. It's like he can't stop himself from talking - like he has to be POSITIVE that you understand his point-of-view. It can be very adorable. Haven't reached the annoying stage yet, but that may be because he is a nervous-talker and I just can't help but melt whenever he looks up at me with his dark eyes (which he does each time he makes his point again, lol!)

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posted March 16, 2007 07:29 PM         

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Yea it depends on your threshold [sp] Its sometimes annoying for me cos Im more of a get-to-the-point person in conversation [mars 3rd].

edit: what i meant was, why are they still talking when theyve already made their point.

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posted March 17, 2007 11:43 AM         

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Glad it was only 2 months of talking to him and not 2 or more years.

Next...

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does that next mean , i have a chance now

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