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Gemini23rose
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From: Richmond, TX, USA
Registered: May 2007

posted May 14, 2007 11:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Gemini23rose     Edit/Delete Message
I have a few questions!!! Please help!!!

I am a gemini...June 6th...23 years old. He is a libra...Oct. 13th...20 years old.

I just feel its to good to be true! Im trying not to fall fast but he is making it hard.
First time meeting him, he kisses me. Three weeks later we are doing alot more then that. But no sign of a commited relationship...I think. I dont really know.

He does everything a girl would die for. Like he calls me ALL the time. Texts me ALL the time. Drives 45 min. just to come see me at 1 o'clock in the morning. And in his exsact words "I dont care what we do, lets just go for a walk." I tell him ok and he says "Im so excited"...

Alright never heard of a man that is so excited about a simple walk but ok. lol Works for me...

We can talk about anything and boy do we talk!

He snuck me into his work and risks getting in trouble just so he can spend a little time with me.

I dont know just seems to good to be true!

I have read alot about libras and how they are. Being distant and all. Which in my case I have YET to see. But we are really busy! I work 8-5 and Im about to go back to college. But Im an early bird. He works as a mechanic and he is a night owl...and he is going to school! We both have our own friends and are very social so we have plenty of time apart!

Question is...does that count as his distant behavior?

I mean I really dont mind if that is all! Being a gemini I need my space and I have alot of friends to tend too. Im so busy all the time and thats good to him...

We enjoy the fact that we are not always there...

But another question is. I read about how libras think love is sex and sex is love! Is that really true?!?!?! Because if so then that may scare me a bit. I mean I really like the guy....I mean really like but the word love scares me. And I know for a fact I dont love him...I need time.

But being he is so young....does that aply to him?

To make this simple is...Im a busy gemini. He is a busy libra. We deffinatly have a conection. In fact he told me "I just think we click so well." <--exsact words.

Can this work?

Do you think he is interested in me or am I just a fling?

Should I just keep things going the way they are and not worry?

Just be patient and with time I will know?

Just so many things are going through my head. Like my rules. He made me break my rules lol. I never kiss a guy when I frist meet him. And I deffinatly dont have a sexual relationship with someone within the first month of knowing someone.

Sould I worry that moving to fast would pose as never having a serious relationship?

Is moving to fast a normal thing libras do?

PLEASE HELP!!!

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Xodian
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posted May 14, 2007 12:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Xodian     Edit/Delete Message
Libra here and all I can say is this guy is smitten... Man has he been smitten good! Lol!

About sex:

When it comes to the Libra approach to sexual activity, its more romantic rather than animalistic (i.e. more sensual rather than dirty Lol!) And usually its what women in general want don't they? IMO there is a big difference between "doing it" and "lovemaking" (and I would gladly go into details but this is a family friendly forum Lol!)" Just... Don't get to overly sacred about it Lol!

And if he is moving fast, then he REALLY must like you Lol! Because usually a Libra takes his time considering every aspect and probability of compatibility or incompatibility before moving ahead with important decisions such as relationships. If you really need time to think it out, just tell him and he'll understand it perfectly.

You obviously are an air sign so you would understand the importance of a social life. Don't restrict his and he won't restrict yours .

Hope it all works out well for you both.

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Gemini23rose
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posted May 14, 2007 01:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Gemini23rose     Edit/Delete Message
Wow thanks!! This helps alot...really does! Means more that your a libra telling me this! :-)

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Gemini23rose
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posted May 14, 2007 01:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Gemini23rose     Edit/Delete Message
One more question...

Should I go for it? I mean show him affection and show him I am interested and I want to be with him?

Or show I just go at his pace?

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Xodian
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posted May 14, 2007 05:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Xodian     Edit/Delete Message
Well I am not an astrologer so I can't exactly help ya out in elling you exactly how to apporach him.

To quote Linda (On Libra Males

"If you really think love with him is ment to be, go right ahead and say it all including the wedding proposal. He'll be glad you took the initiative."

Now remember... Just because he is acting all romantic doesn't necessarily means he is out right ready to commit to a long term relationship. Its a common mistake people make around Libras; What could be a love pact to some people could only have ment friendship to a Libra Lol!

But don't worry about it. Seems like he is interested so why not give it a shot .

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ScarlettSoul
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posted May 15, 2007 01:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScarlettSoul     Edit/Delete Message
Call me crazy, but I think it's never wise to be sleeping with a guy - no matter how smitten he seems at first - without any boundaries. Especially if you don't live in the same town. Aside from the fact that you don't have a clue what he's doing on a day to day basis... everything is always romantic when it's long distance. Plus, the old "we dont need to do anything, let's just go for a walk" line is the foundation lots of men put down so you end up trusting him with your life! He knows he has you in the palm of his hand, ESPECIALLY if you let him come over at 1am!!! OMG!!! Really?? I admit that I dont know this guy, but where I come from, sex with a man at 1am that is NOT your boyfriend is called a "bootie call". Am I right?

I'm sure he's great and wonderful, but this is the "honeymoon" phase and sooner or later you're going to find yourself so attached that you're willing to compromise OTHER things to be with him. Be forewarned.

My advice is that no matter how attentive adn smitten he is right now, don't ASSUME he's only going to stay with you - at first this may be true, but some day he's going to meet some new girl that makes him hot and bothered, and if you've never made an agreement about what the boundaries of your relationship are, he's going to feel free to date and see who he pleases. (he has every right to if you've not required more for yourself).

Have fun, but tread carefully... Libras are the notorious flirts and heartbreakers of the zodiac and MOST women find them irresistable because they are sweet and charming and unassuming... not trying to scare you because I ADORE libra men, but libra or not, it seems you are risking a lot for him (your heart & your values) when he hasn't given you a darn thing yet. Remember to get what YOU want first, and you'll not only feel better about yourself, you'll have earned his respect, too!

Good luck!!

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Xodian
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posted May 15, 2007 09:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Xodian     Edit/Delete Message
Well you jumped to quite a bit of conclusions there Scarlett soul but atleast you tried to be fair about it Lol!

Just because a guy may come over at 1 A.M. doesn't necessarily means he wants to get jiggy with it. I can relate to this man when it comes to having a hectic schedual. My University semester is over now but during the Fall semester and my ongoing Job, I came back home at 12:00 at night (yeah... Totally wiped out Lol!) However, I still had an obligation to my girl and our relationship so on went the midnight communication marathon Lol! (I usually slept at 2... only to wake up at 7 a.m. the next day.) So try to give us guys a bit of credit for doing the right thing .

And well right now, they are still in the Girlfriend/boyfriend stage but given the fact that she is an adult, I won't question her decision on having sex; I am asumming she took all the proper protection measures and well... they are both air signs after all Lol!

And as cautious as a person can be when it comes to restricting a Libra oh his/her social life, don't overdo it or you'll have an extremly depressed person who wouldn't find any merit in staying in a relaitonship if it means being a caged bird. There is a thread in the Free-For-Fall forum entitled "Emotional Infidelity." We are discussing the issue there is good detail. Would love your input on the matter .

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Gemini23rose
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posted May 15, 2007 09:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Gemini23rose     Edit/Delete Message
First of all...I have to clear some things up!!!

The time he came over at 1 o'clock was not a booty call! Hahaha we actually went for a walk!

And sweetheart...I have morals but Im young!

And we dont live in other cities. He lives down the street from me! That info is where we were born!!!

And you dont have to worry about me getting my heart up to him! Im a gemini sweetie...I get over people quick! If he chooses to leave it wont phaze me. Im social and young...Im sure I could find another guy someday!

And I know where he is...work...school! He busy with his life! I am with mine!

It more simple then when I first wrote this topic down...

In fact I think we both just want to be friends...
It would have been nice to be with him but Im not ready and nither is he...
Im about to be 23 I am still young and I have alot on my mind like going to school and work full time!

I realise after talking to him that it was just a spontanious act. As wrong as it seems...that was it!

And im fine so is he!

In fact him and I get along to the point we are really good friends...
And from the conversation we had last night he agrees!!

So no worries...

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Kay Libra
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posted May 15, 2007 10:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kay Libra     Edit/Delete Message
Hi. I just wanted to tell my experience with Libra men friends and family. They are really sweet flirty guys, but to me they are really flirty. I think you have to feel very secure within yourself in order to be with one of these guys. I've also noticed that the ones I dated turned out to be very insecure, jealous and possessive, that could have been the Scorpio in their charts. Those guys also had aLOT of female friends. Don't get me wrong they will cook you dinner, help you out monetarily, give massages, cards and may even slow dance with you, but just be careful cause you can get burned.

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Gemini23rose
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posted May 15, 2007 11:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Gemini23rose     Edit/Delete Message
Xodian thanks so much!!!

Yeah we are pretty much doing the getting to know eachother thing...lol

Being friends now!

And yes we were carefull with everything. lol

and I think it is the air sign thing hahaha! I love this stuff....discribes me perfectly
being sun sign gemini...and asendent taurus!

Even though we moved fast physicaly emotionaly we are moving slow!

And I dont think that THAT sort of stuff will happen again....not for a while at least.

We are just both very busy and because of that we need time to really really get to know eachother!

Thanks again :P

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WE, 6 June 1984
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Sun sign: Gemini
Ascendent: Taurus

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Dulce Luna
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posted May 15, 2007 12:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dulce Luna     Edit/Delete Message
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I've also noticed that the ones I dated turned out to be very insecure, jealous and possessive, that could have been the Scorpio in their charts


Yeah that happened to me one time. He was soooo damn possesive. Could you believe that me, the cancer, actually felt smothered by him, the libra? My virgo moon needed to BREATHE I guess.

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ScarlettSoul
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posted May 15, 2007 01:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScarlettSoul     Edit/Delete Message
Gemini Rose,

Sounds like you have things all under control and figured out, so why the post asking for opinions?

For what it's worth, I also saw another post of yours where you seemed to be a bit worried about the fate of this thing because you have been drawn to abusive relationships in the past... this speaks volumes to me about YOU... like it or not, so that's where the extra caution in my post came from... I get that you think this guy's different, but it's a VERY common pattern for verbally or physically abused women to think "this one" is different, only to find herself in some other painful situation she didn't see coming with the "good" guy. I'm NOT saying that this guy is an abuser, but he could end up disrespecting you in a LOT of different ways that you can't see now if you dont watch the little things, and clearly you have been drawn to jerks in the past. With that said, I do think these patterns CAN change, and I do hope he's a great guy that will treat you well. Good luck!

Xodian - While you may think I'm being too cautious, I really don't think settign some ground rules for what you want is outlandish. If more women asked for what they want in love rather than caved to the first guy that shows them attention, I think we'd be a LOT better off!! I remember college as well, and I'm all about having fun, but she sounds, from her post, that she's very invested in him already... coupled with her history of being with jerks... it's basic human psychology, that's all...

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Xodian
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posted May 15, 2007 03:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Xodian     Edit/Delete Message
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Xodian - While you may think I'm being too cautious, I really don't think settign some ground rules for what you want is outlandish. If more women asked for what they want in love rather than caved to the first guy that shows them attention, I think we'd be a LOT better off!! I remember college as well, and I'm all about having fun, but she sounds, from her post, that she's very invested in him already... coupled with her history of being with jerks... it's basic human psychology, that's all...

But then again, you are assuming what she wants rather than actually knowing what she wants. Have you ever wondered maybe (just maybe) she her self ain't totally ready for a long time commitment and is just experimenting around until she comes to the actual realization herself as to what she wants?

It may sound cruel to you but it ain't if you look at the bigger picture. A breakup isn't necessarily a faliure but rather an experience builder. How that experience leaves an impact upon you is partly up to you (if we are to rule out any abuse or financial damage.)

You can still be friends and not go at each other's throats (even after sex.) Yes... Its possible.

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Diandra23
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posted May 16, 2007 10:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diandra23     Edit/Delete Message
Hi everybody

Iīm just going to say whay i think about it:

Whenever a woman makes this type of question,counscioulsy or uncounsciously,she is already having more feelings to him than the normal friendship..
Maybe itīs the fear of being hurted,or the suprising thing of moving so fast that makes the person start to think instead of letting to feel..
But i think that what trully matters is the 2 being honest with each other.Both have to face easch other and say what really expects from the relationship or not.
Even if one dont wants a commitment or is still very young and just wants to have fun..those things have to be putted above the table.
We dont know what future holds for us;one time we may see the other as just a friend,the other moment e just fall in love etc..

For me,whenever 2 persons get intimacy with each other, itīs not only sex (specially with a Libra).I believe that the energies of the 2 really stays with the other, and mixed so that the 2 find themselves more and more attached.

I can also speak from my experiency: my bf is a Libra with Cancer Asc. He isnt by any chance a flirty person and he does not like to and isnt any heartbreaker
I know Libra are very charming,atractive and a woman can easily fall for them,but we cant expect that everybody that is Libra is an hearbreaker and flirty person who just wants to fun around and prove itīs power of seduction.

Look,if you find that itīs more than friendship go ahead and dont think that heīs just looking for sex or fun.
My Libra guy is really sweet,and he sees sex as a sacred act and to be intimate he really needs to LOVE that person and trust her. For him to be able to open and just be what he is , is a very important and meaningfull thing,you cant just think itīs an easy thing.Itīs rather special.
On the other day he told me that everything that happened between us,happened cause LOve is what holds us together,that mysterie which makes him think that im his LIGHT at the end of the tunel, and everyday just whenever he thinks of me , all is worth..

So,dont you think you are so lucky to find that Libra who makes you feel special and that maybe itīs willing to open his world to you cause you trust each other?

See what you both really want from each other and just act in objective of that!

Kiss

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Xodian
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posted May 16, 2007 08:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Xodian     Edit/Delete Message
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Whenever a woman makes this type of question,counscioulsy or uncounsciously,she is already having more feelings to him than the normal friendship..
Maybe itīs the fear of being hurted,or the suprising thing of moving so fast that makes the person start to think instead of letting to feel..
But i think that what trully matters is the 2 being honest with each other.Both have to face easch other and say what really expects from the relationship or not.
Even if one dont wants a commitment or is still very young and just wants to have fun..those things have to be putted above the table.

Now here is where I would post my view on "open relationships" but I think its getting too redundent Lol!

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Blue Baby 143
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posted May 18, 2007 03:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Blue Baby 143     Edit/Delete Message
Don't nag him and fight with him. Be a fun person and try and be romantic sometimes

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