posted February 29, 2008 01:02 PM              

I've been going through some relationship 'stuff' myself recently (who isn't?! i know!) and can't help but think of the following:

In my recently (past year) ended 6 yr relationship that was highly functional, loving, great... i never had any sparks. It was functional and happy from day one, but i could be completely wrapped in his arms and my soul would still feel alone.

Then i fell for i guy who i had fireworks with, but which was completely dysfunctional b/c he was my ex's friend and nothing could come of it. We are friends, but even without an official 'relationship' or any physical connection (no hugs etc) i feel a sense of intimacy and understanding.

Mystic, i completely understand the article. I'm also certain that this second person in my life would be considered a hindrance to finding my true 'soul mate'. However, I can't help but feel that these people are still important and such relationships should not be compartmentalized as good/bad...

Then again, i know i still have a lot to learn! Just thought i'd share my personal example/experience!

posted February 29, 2008 02:42 PM            

What's not to like about the scent of a man's body? Thank goodness warm weather is arriving soon... hehe What a conversation, girls.

posted July 08, 2013 10:08 AM            

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Originally posted by jjj:
I personally see this sexual chemistry/hormonal attraction as the indispensable BASIS for any romantic relationship. If the chemistry is not there, nothing is possible.
Friendships with soul mate feeling is another thing.

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posted July 08, 2013 11:36 PM            

But But But
BUT

What if you have the love/hate thing for longer.. say 6 yrs!?

I've never found anyone to speak on that.
What I mean is, I've read lots and lots of things (and people's opinions) about relationships that are generally sexual in nature and how you will KNOW that this is what they are bc if you try to squeeze more out of them (ohmygod please pardon the pun!)
they will fall apart. I guess what I am saying, what I have always wondered, is

posted August 02, 2013 05:36 PM            

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Originally posted by clockworkrose:
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Oh, I wanted to say I agree with this statement. I think MOST young people are manily attracted to others and drawn into a relationship on a sexual basis... chemistry, lust, hormones. but perhaps those who are a bit more spiritual and not as.... eh, uhm... superficial? can recognize the difference. like you said, some of it probably has to do with soul level.

but I want to say, maybe different people experience love in different ways. Whether its a passionate love, or a comfortable/familiar love. a 'young soul' love or an 'old soul' love. If you think you truely, honestly love someone... than who is someone else to tell you that its not love?

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posted August 02, 2013 05:51 PM            

I too wonder what is the shelf life of a physical relationship? I also wonder if a relationship could be considered physical if no actual intercourse happened.

posted August 10, 2013 01:36 AM            

There is chemistry of all sorts, but this love I feel for him is benevolent. It's weird. My curiosity for the twin flame leveled out since I met him.

I have gone through stages of obsession and manipulation with others- power struggles in which I used to enjoy wrapping the other around my finger and dealing with being upset when the other person doesn't meet my standards.

With him, we fight A LOT. Up until the last few weeks of July, our relationship has been nothing but fighting. One or the other was constantly misunderstanding the other and our only common thread seemed to be that we loved one another and wanted to see the other person improve.

posted October 24, 2013 05:14 AM            

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Originally posted by ListensToTrees:
Yes, MM I loved the poem too Where is it from?

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isn't it Corinthians?

posted October 24, 2013 01:48 PM            

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Originally posted by Mystic Melody:
Physical does not just mean intercourse... it could mean holding hands.

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