posted September 23, 2007 04:25 PM         

Religion seduces, tv commercials seduce...the business world seduces...

His body language, the way he is turned toward you, has his hands on you, looks at you in the face, the eyes...I preach body language it is SO easy to interperate!!!

He is "open" to you, but will not let go, ever, of his need to be who he is....He is into you, but on his terms...he will not give, he is a fixed sign...if he does give, and he may one day, he looks young enough, but for now, he is quite happy where he is at with you....

Unfortunately I have found that Aqua men, I think most men in general like the game, the hunters, the seekers, etc....I think why bother, but again, why give ourselves up so easy...

That is what I mean by seduction, "the game."

It is very hard to find a man that will respond as openly and honestly as women do and want to...and when you do, they are gay, over sensitive water signs, psychotic, etc...men are men.....

I am not going to get on my soapbox now about what "society" has done to men...we as women just have to work with it...and let them know they are ok, we are all ok.

All in all, your guy is an Aqua male...he is obviously into you...do with that info what you will and good luck..really you hold the key for what is good for you..and he...

blessings

posted September 23, 2007 10:36 PM         

Awww, I missed the pictures.

Well, gemini you obviously think personal communication is very important and you may believe that everyone else shares the same point of view. If that is a red flag for you then you should listen to your heart. I know I dislike a lot of casual conversation that is not on my terms... meaning I often "break up with" female friends I meet who give hints that I don't talk on the phone enough to them or do live chats enough with them. They like to chat a lot and I'm not the same. I'd rather post on message boards at my convenience and when I am in the mood. I dislike standing in kitchens and having random conversations with groups of women. One other person is nice, but groups, not so much. I do like a lively game of cards with a lot of jokes and random, non-emotional, non-stressful conversation. This usually only happens with the guys.
I like email because people didn't used to expect an answer the very next day. I happen to think cell phones are from Hell. I would only own one to keep in the glove box of my car in case I was ever stranded on the side of the road. I only have one phone line and use the internet for it and leave the internet on when I don't need to have it on just so I don't have to answer the phone. I think you should be legally allowed to blow up any company that calls you on the phone using a computer.
I also have an Aqua Mars and the only planet in Gemini for me is Saturn.
If I meet men on dating sites who have to be quick about communicating and do everything "quick", I run the other direction. I have a strong Capricorn influence and I like to take my time.
Everyone is different. You have to decide what you like and find people who match those desires. Sounds like you don't have to worry about whether he likes you because you don't think he is the one for you anyway. I'm glad you got to think it out.
I know how that goes.

posted September 23, 2007 11:32 PM         

He's just now focusing on everything new at school which does take a lot of energy that he knows he doesn't have right now. I would keep up the communication but give him the space to sort things out at school.

posted September 24, 2007 12:14 AM         

On a billboard:

posted September 24, 2007 02:57 AM         

We all have different ways of expressing love, and different needs in how we need others to express their love to feel...well, loved.

posted September 25, 2007 02:48 PM         

I am SO, SO certain these men are here to teach us something...and we teach them something, too, but least they be able to open to learn from us...so it is up to we women!!!

Gemi---one word of warning...if you turely intend to detach from him, then let him know in NO uncertain terms...cause he will be back...If he feels you leaving and you have not verbally communicated to him you are finished...it will intruge him even more and he will be back....

Good thing is, that if you express your desires, he will respect them, just make sure you know what you want, else that darn game ensues...

posted September 25, 2007 05:10 PM         

I've never been clearer in my entire 30+ years about what I want: I want him.

posted September 25, 2007 06:50 PM         

I completely agree with Mystic Melody's post and this is really not meant to say, I dont understand your feelings, I probably would react EXACTLY like you in the same situation.

However, I really, really dont think he doesnt WANT to give you his mail address, I think he is just completely overwhelmed by his current (school) situation and because he sincerely cares for you he is actually letting you know just that.I AM OVERWHELMED, please give me a little bit of time and I will be in touch ( like a normal human being so to speak). He's basically just saying, ok got here and letting you know you"ll get a proper response very soon.

I think you read far too much into him not giving you his addrress straight away. Like some kind of strategy. I dont know what kind of educational programme he is in at the moment, given that he is in his 30s and whether you have studied in your 30s and can relate to his situation at all? I"m just saying that because I had a similar problem with my exboyfriend who was studying for an MBA. He was studying in the US, I was in Europe which meant longdistance relationship and I just was in my little cocoon, not realizing what an incredable financial and intellectual pressure he was under. I was just constantly hurt because of what he did or didnt do. I interpreted everything as a sign that he was pushing me away, or on a different page relationship wise. But the poor guy was just struggling with trying to juggle the intensity of his programme and the intensity of his feelings for me. Intensity from both sides was just WAYYYY too much. I think my focuse on me and not being able to relate to his situaion killed the relationship eventually because I couldnt just give him some support and understanding in those crucial first weeks. Only years later when I was just turning 30 and in a similar situation as him I could completely and utterly understand his reactions. It"s just different to study when you're in your 30s than when you are in college in your 20s. I felt incredably pressured and developed some kind of tunnel vision during my studies. Every human contact even with the people I loved felt very draining. Even phone conversations with loved ones felt draining, because I invested so much energy in studying/school/worrying. And actually more draining the more I was involved emotionally.

So my gut feeling is, if back then I had JUST falling in love (deeply) with a man and he would send me a letter asking for my mail address... I would react exactly like your man. I would basically hint how overwhelmed I feel thereby asking for your understanding that he needs a bit of time to get his head above water, and get his school life under control. If I"m completely honest, just the thought of having to write snail mail letters back then, ESPECIALLY with someone I like!!!, would have felt like added pressure. You cant just write them down like an email, you have to put a lot of time and thought into them, something he might not have the strength for right now. I can certainly say I wouldnt have back then, and that's not because I'm not relationship focused. On the contrary with 3 planets in the 7th house and a cancer ascendant I'm very relationship focused and STILL I would have reacted like him. So I think his reactions arent a sign of a relationship phobia or something, just a symptom of the situation he is in.