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Topic: Time to move on from the Aqua man?
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geminilibrarising
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posted September 22, 2007 09:38 AM
 
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girlloveboy
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posted September 22, 2007 11:38 AM
HiOne thing is for sure, Aquas need far more time to become comfortable with their feelings, than any other signs.
They simply dont know what the hell to do with love, so they would escape or come with "rational" excuses (just like being busy).
They are scared being in love with someone, and so they would do anything to hide it (even from themselves). So maybe you must ask yourself, whether you love him enough to cope with his Aqua behaviour.  ps.: just a brief opinion - REAL LOVE is not only bring happiness, but also pain, the two always come together.
The more pain you experience, the deeper you can love... and if you and your love is strong enough, then we can survive even the hardest suffering. IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted September 22, 2007 01:30 PM
Gemi lady...Please refer back to the responses from myself and others regarding Aqua men...and read thoroughly.... He is exhibiting TRUE Aqua behaviour...really, I have often thought that one must be one to love one. A woman, truely, must have her own life to be in "relation" with the Aqua man....truely!!! I am...I have!!! Do not EVER expect these men to supply you with anything you need emotionally, they will just not do it, they are incapable of contributing to "co-dependency" at any level. They are free, As we all should be. Terri IP: Logged |
geminilibrarising
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posted September 22, 2007 02:09 PM
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hippichick
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posted September 22, 2007 03:58 PM
Gemi~~~Does he have something to hide??? Mine did...a marriage, to be specific.... They lie, quite comfortably... However, so darn complicated...they are not out to be malicious, harm-doing, they just do what comes quite naturally to them... The guy likes you, I can feel as much... What enfolds is up to you!!! You MUST get into their head space to survive the Aqua man.... Well, that is, to survive the Aqua male with any sort of self-esteem, spirituality, emotionalism, sense of self left....  They are not that bad....as a matter of fact, like I said before, they are the most able sign of the Zodiac to give un-conditional love.... However...at what price to us "humans???" (women???) They ARE aliens...to be sure!!! Blessings T~~~ IP: Logged |
MysticMelody
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posted September 22, 2007 04:29 PM
When people send an email, it is easy to "expect" one back.
The same goes for letters, but letters take even more time to write and send.
He is busy, he is overwhelmed. It is not even my bf/love interest and I can still remember that he said something about not being able to breathe? Too busy to breathe? That means, back off, I'm losing my mind here, I can't possibly be responsible for one more thing (like your feelings)but since I am a guy I am also not going to go on and on about how hard it is and how weak I feel.
If you send a friendly SHORT email to let him know you think he will do just great and you are sure he will have it all under control once he learns the ropes, and let him know he doesn't have to worry about you at all, then he will contact you when his life begins to be more manageable.
Supporting a man is about letting him do things himself while letting him know you believe he can do it. He is asking you for help. You help him by letting him know he doesn't have to worry about YOU on top of everything else he is juggling right now.
If you can't do that and you can't trust that you will have the relationship you are meant to have with him as long as you continue to love and trust him... then you will just end up worrying yourself sick and manipulating energy out of him and you will end up unsatisfied even if he does screw up his education to throw himself into "love" with you.(Whenever I get a little "firm", it is usually because I am teaching something to myself about my past, present, or future, so don't take my "tone" too seriously.)
I would just clear this, but since I found it a helpful reminder, maybe you will too.
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hippichick
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posted September 22, 2007 05:53 PM
ahhh...well said, Mel... Graci!! T~~~  IP: Logged |
geminilibrarising
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posted September 23, 2007 09:10 AM
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hippichick
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posted September 23, 2007 10:01 AM
Have you asked him, point blank, and nicely of course, what his problem is???For sure, Aqua males have their own agenda, and it is up to the participating individual as to wheather she will "put up" with their self-centered agendas. You are still, I think, in the early stages of relationship...It takes them a good long time before they are willing to extend any part of their personal lives out there. Eventually you just know how they feel... I think also that you have to consider what you want from a man....what I love about Aquas IS their detachment, their capability of un-conditional love, their freedom,their having their own lives while I have mine, their wit and humor and good god, their intellectual minds!!! An Aqua may spend the eve on the sofa with a woman, cuddling, kissing, re-lating, making love, etc, then he will be off to his mental realm and not be back to the sofa for a while. I LIKE this about them. I need so much time to my self, that this suits me just fine! I think what I like most about my Aqua friend is our very deep, unspoken connection and the mental link...we are always in eachother's minds somehow, just the human woman in me needs physical touch from time to time. Gemi, did you ever post his other placements? While I am always advocating sun sign as the basis for personality profiling around here, his moon, venus,mercury and mars would certainly help you get in to his airy head a bit easier! Blessings Terri IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted September 23, 2007 10:20 AM
O, and another thought.I have made the mistake more than once in judging anybody's behavior, especially Aquas since they are all aliens as to what I may do or not do in a certain situation. I catch myself doing this all of the time where my friend is concerned... One of his big lines is "don't take it persoanlly...." coming from a VERY impersonal sign, I think this says alot! I have a 15 yr old Aqua daughter and she, tho the females of the group are more connected to emotions, has helped me to understand Aquas alot. I will ask her when she gets up what she thinks about letters, traditional mail, etc. but I know what she will say----"we" (Aquas) do not have time for that!!! To actually sit down and have to focus their minds to read a written letter is just not their style...they prefer high tech forms of communication. When I taught mine how to text he was thrilled!!! Brief, to the point, not emotive, etc. His action of not giving you his address may just be an avoidance tactic to say that he prefers to not communicate that way. Re-member they can not tell you how they feel and avoidance is a big Aqua thing... IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted September 23, 2007 01:37 PM
1 more thing, then I will shut up!!!(Merc in Aqua--natally--going strong today!!!) I like what Zala has to say on the Astro forum about relationships...on the thread about Venus RX.... Relationships are what you make them... IP: Logged |
geminilibrarising
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posted September 23, 2007 02:15 PM
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hippichick
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posted September 23, 2007 02:43 PM
is that him?IP: Logged |
geminilibrarising
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posted September 23, 2007 02:56 PM
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hippichick
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posted September 23, 2007 03:22 PM
O, hell, woman you have gone and fallen for an Aqua AND a musician????(sssshhhh I kind of envy you!!!) I suppose I knew that was him as my monitor pulled me in and I had to grab the sides of it so as to not be pulled into cyber land! Darn Aquas.... So, now, if he is a musician he is even trippier than the average Aqua male... Get used to him, sister, he is a blessed, beautiful, detached, wandering, trippy, freaky, mental Aqua male... Think back to the 60's and 70's...peace, love and understanding... Love em' or leave em... If I remember correctly, your Mars is in Aqua? Me too...I have given up...I KNOW without doubt that I will always be attracted to them...that is until I learn from them what the have to offer me... Getting there, slowly... Be blessed Terri  IP: Logged |
geminilibrarising
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posted September 23, 2007 03:27 PM
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hippichick
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posted September 23, 2007 03:39 PM
HA!!!Well, I'll take the musician!!! let me study his body language IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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posted September 23, 2007 03:47 PM
Is that you in the pic? He looks like he's very into you!Listen. Forget the Aqua thing for a minute. This is a long distance thing. Long distance things SUCK for relationships. Email sucks. The phone sucks, and snail mail sucks. Real relationships need to take place in person. Since you unfortunately aren't able to be together in person, be light, friendly, warm, laid back and FUN via email. Period. (This is especially true for Aquas, but true for pretty much all men.) He is extremely busy, overwhelmed, starting something new, tired, and surrounded by flesh-and-blood women who he can touch, smile at, smell (in a pheremones way) and have a beer with. If the mutual feelings are there for you two--and I think they are--this is a good opportunity for you to be a positive, erxciting, non-pressuring email buddy to him for a bit. Send him friendly, light emails about topics Aquarians love...if he sends you his mailing address, write him friendly, light letters about topics Aquarians love. (Sounds like he was hinting that he feels too overwhelmed with busy-ness to have a snail-mail correspondence and he feels bad that he lacks the energy to write you even an email that feels like "enough" to him.) Don't push him to do anything, and don't write about your relationship (unless he asks)...show him you like him by being an exciting, comforting Geminian friend. That way he'll be very excited to see you in person. Relationship talks, interpersonal planning and any kind of pressure go better with ANY man in between kissing and touching, not long distance. For an Aquarius, any kind of pressure will just confuse him and make him DETACH and retreat far away to Aquaria, the land of gadgets and unanswered emails, and you really don't want that. Also--MysticMelody's first post is right on the money. Clearly your request for the Aqua's address felt overwhelming to him at the moment he wrote you. Maybe it would NEVER feel that way to you...but it doesn't matter whether you're "not out of line" or not--what matters is balancing your needs with his feelings. And this is a battle worth dropping. I would follow MysticMelody's advice re: encouraging him. IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted September 23, 2007 03:49 PM
was on a roll, but deleted it somehow....(was listening to The Stones "Wild Horses" appropriate!!!) anyway... his stance, his reservation, holding back...look at how he is holding his lapel (or something in his hand)...as if to be ready if he suddenly needs to cover himself, to protect himself from "something." Eye contact, that is good, that is them... So you are the girl??? Fabulous!!! He is intrigued, but a bit standoffish. I think he thinks you have a very strong energy and it scares him a bit...but it keeps him captivated. Overall I get the feeling he just does not know exactly what to do with you!!! Now, is that not where we want them anyway??? His body language re-minds me of my Aqua friend...so darn captivated, but not able, will never be able to let it all go....not even to love, passion....cold, aloof to be sure... Interesting pic!!! IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted September 23, 2007 03:52 PM
and...play your cards right, tho this involves "the game" and I loathe the game... you could have him easy, but on HIS terms... Funny thing is, tho, you will have him. IP: Logged |
geminilibrarising
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From: London, UK
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posted September 23, 2007 03:57 PM
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geminilibrarising
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posted September 23, 2007 04:01 PM
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hippichick
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posted September 23, 2007 04:02 PM
still rigid and cool...but he wants you... I am telling you girl, if you have it in you, beat him at his own darn Aqua game... God I HATE games.... But men seem to love them.... Seduction is quite easy and you already have his interest... Go for it!!! IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted September 23, 2007 04:05 PM
one last word of warning...they are highly intuitive... the moment and I do mean the moment they feel you going away, energetically, physically, etc....they will be back...so be ready... the thing is, that here a game will not work as you are dealing with the etheral, soul levels with intuition...so you really have to let him go and he will be back.. ...there is no "dating" Aqua males... There just is.... Them... IP: Logged |
geminilibrarising
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posted September 23, 2007 04:05 PM
"but he wants you..."What makes you think that Hippiechick? "Seduction is quite easy" Seduction in what sense? You're talking about getting him into bed?! IP: Logged | |
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