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MissworldNYC
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posted September 22, 2007 02:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MissworldNYC     Edit/Delete Message
Hello everyone,
I am new to the group but I love astrology and anything that is surrounding it... I have a dilemma and I was wondering if anyone had any comments and/or advice with this siuation... I am a Virgo/sun, Libra/Rising, Leo/Moon, and a Libra/venus female and I seeing a a guy that is Aquarius/Sun, (don't know his rising) Mercury/Pisces, Capricorn/Venus and Moon. And, he seems to be completely taken away by me- the problem is that he has gotten himself in a very unsavory situation with another female that could bind them together for the 18 years(if you know what I mean...) and I have stated to him in my very clear and direct- Virgo way, that he should be with this girl and do is his own thing...but he won't! He tells me that he needs me in his life as a friend but acts like we are more and wants to be around me all the time and call me all the time too. And, when I point this out to him he states that he knows and that we need to have boundaries. But, I tell him that maybe the boundaries should be to go our own way...he won't accept that. DOn't get me wrong,I care for him too but I don't want to pressure him to be with me and I want to protect myself too because he is in a relationship with someone else(we were going out for like a month too...) I need help astrologically, etc... any suggestions?

Thanks!

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geminilibrarising
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posted September 23, 2007 03:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for geminilibrarising     Edit/Delete Message
Hi
I am not entirely clear on your situation. So, this man was dating you for a month and then met another woman and immediately got her pregnant? And now you and he are hanging out as friends? Is that what's happening or am I completely off the mark?
Gem

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MissworldNYC
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posted September 24, 2007 01:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MissworldNYC     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks for the reply... The Aquar. was seeing her off and on before he met me(Virgo-girl) - then him and I started a relationship that was suppose to be just a dating thing - nothing serious... (his venus Cap. is in conjuction with my sun Virgo)Well, unfortunately him and I actually started to like each other/'heart' each other a lot and now... he has just discovered that the girl that he was seeing when he met me could be prego. He's not sure if she is or isn't...and he is going for a preg. test Wednesday(which seems fishy on other girl side because - most women just get a drug store test and then go to the DR. not wait for the DR. and stress yourself out). I am trying to move on - but he and I can't leave each other alone. There is some type of bond that we share - its weird... As I said before; I'm really trying to put my food down with this guy and explained to him that we shouldn't be together. But, he said that he can't leave me alone because he has strong feelings for me - but isn't sure of what to do because the girl might being preg., the fact that in actual time its been only month and a half of us really knowing each other, and he doesn't want to take a large risk so soon. (which I can completely understand...)Help!

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Unmoved
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posted September 24, 2007 03:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Unmoved     Edit/Delete Message
Okay, now I also get a better idea since you clarified things.

Please... whatever you do, don't make his problems yours, and don't allow him to do that too. I am a Virgo, and there is an Aquarian guy in my life too, by the way...

Anyway, in my opinion, whether he is with-child (through the other woman) or not, is not your peoblem. What you should be asking yourself is whether you can live with that possibility or not. if you can't, leave. if you can, stay. If you want to see how it would be, do so; but don't allow yourself to be played with.

It is highly important that when you make your decisions to not involve him - and what I mean is that, you have to be aware of what your desires are, and hope that they merge with his. So, when you decide what you are going to do, don't worry about the fact that he says he wants to be with you, or even if he loves you. Ask yourself what you want.

Own your choices. Don't get into things because he convinced you to. Be in it because you want to be in it. And if you don't want to be in, don't. If you want to see how it will go, give yourself the leeway to change your mind later.

Please don't be manipulated (unintentionally). I am sure he is not manipulative, but unlike you, he knows what he wants and he is going for it. Do the same too.

added: so the question is: can you live with whatever choice you make. If you can, then it's good. if you can't then make another choice that you can live with.

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geminilibrarising
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posted September 24, 2007 03:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for geminilibrarising     Edit/Delete Message
Why not wait and see whether the other woman is pregnant, before making a decision.

getting a pregnancy test is no big deal at all. There's no reason why she hasn't done this already!

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MysticMelody
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posted September 24, 2007 05:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MysticMelody     Edit/Delete Message
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Please... whatever you do, don't make his problems yours, and don't allow him to do that too.

Unmoved!!!! I wanted to say this when I read this but I didn't know how to say it without writing a page. Leave it to a Virgo to be concise and precise! My two favorite fiction authors are Virgos.


Repeat to yourself, "I don't know this guy" over and over. For all you know he could be lying to you and he and that girl could have practically been married. She is obviously trying to hold on for some reason by possibly even lying about being pregnant. He doesn't need to jump from one serious relationship to another. He needs to stand on his own for a while. (But you'll do whatever you want anyway hehehe but you asked... )

Be strong.

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MissworldNYC
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posted September 24, 2007 09:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MissworldNYC     Edit/Delete Message
All of you are right... I sometimes don't feel like the Virgo description fits me - I think that my Libra rising and venus has more effect on me than I realize... I do care for him but I am so critical of everyone that I care about so I can't tell if I am being too analytical or what? I want to be with him is the answer that keeps repeating in my head. The D-day for whether or not she is pregnant is on Wednesday of this week. So, we shall see then... I am trying to give myself space and also see other people causally as friends for dating - but I feel like its being done in vain because I care/heart for the Aquar. However, I know for sure that I am not calling him whatever I do...because I have to be strong!

Thanks Again...keep the advice coming!

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