posted October 15, 2007 01:39 PM         

I want to respect him (Cappy) as I do, and have, many other guys that do have girlfriends, but I just kinda fell for this guy, the first time I met him and I swear he was kinda flirting with me, then a week after all that, I found out he has a girlfriend (as I didn’t know in the first week I met him - a month ago). Then I accidentally bumped into the gemini guy again, so forgot about the cappy guy (literally straight after I got slightly heart broken about finding out about the cappy’s girlfriend - 3 weeks ago) then parted with gemini guy again not knowing when and if i’ll see him again then 2 days after I returned home and me and cappy guy are pretty cool friends now. But we keep merging between friends and not knowing what we are to each other. He kinda flirts, I might do back but I’m never sure lol, I just think I'm just being me :S dunno if that’s good or bad thing like should I be more careful of what being me is?

I just want to do the right thing and avoid hurt and pain on the part of all sides. I would never go for a guy that is already taken, but it’s that merging thing that’s confusing me and the fact that he never told me he had a girlfriend in the beginning. I guess we can remain friends but it’s just like his affections to me are fluctuating, as is mine for him and the gemini guy (can’t be around gem guy no more as I’ve just moved away from him) Therefore I’m very confused.

Sorry if this is a bit long, teenagey and random. New here, but I’ve just been reading around and this place seems really cool and friendly so I just thought of asking for some advice. Would much appreciate feedback

btw Libra girl here, dob: 28th September 1988 at 10.30am, London England.

Making me, i think, Asc: Scorp - Sun: Libra - Moon: Taurus.

All I know about him is: Dob: 4th January 1989, England somewhere and sorry no time, it’s a little bit of a difficult question to randomly ask for now me thinks

posted October 15, 2007 07:26 PM         

- What is it that you want from this guy? Is it gonna be one of those on/off relationships? And if so, is it really worth putting all the effort in and him disconnecting with his girlfriend to start something new?

- He seems to have a stable relationship going so its kinda unfair if you're unsure about your future prospects with him yet at the same time expecting such an altering change on his part to switch relationships over.

But the onus is on him as well. If he really believes in staying in his relationship then he'll stick with his girlfriend clearly . So my advice would be that its just good to stay friends since he seems happy (I can only extrapolate from what you wrote) in his relationship.

posted October 16, 2007 07:59 PM         

Don't judge him but tell him you know he does that and you need him to know you are not flirting but being friends.

If he keeps flirting then it's best to end the friendship for a while.

That's been my experience with Caps and they do flirt while firmly attached.

posted October 19, 2007 05:54 AM         

The deal so far is that cappy guy and I haven't spoken much since for like a week (we parted on a major flirt, he hugged me and squeezed his face against mine because he wanted something and went ALL out with the charm when all our friends kinda got distracted by something else - btw is the thing with them not liking public affection true? - then parted, leaving us both a bit/ or lot confused I think)

Another thing I've seen but am not so sure about is, is it also typical with Cappys that they don't seem to talk very much? The cappy guy I like has the same birthday as my brother and they both don't talk very much. Much of my talking with the cap guy is done over the internet. He's a very bubbly talkative person on the internet (and drunk lol) face to face tho, we can go for ages without talking. which isn't bothering me too much - yet.

I think i'm seeing him tomorrow and I'll take your advice sthenri, thanks. I really want to stay friends because i think he has a lot to offer me and vice versa. and that if he, again, takes it further with the flirting - I'll tell him straight. Just how to I'm a bit concerned about since, they don't do the whole intellectual talking thing as much as the airy signs like me I've noticed.