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mantoinette
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From: phila, usa
Registered: Oct 2007

posted November 09, 2007 01:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mantoinette     Edit/Delete Message
please help me!!!!!
im a taurus 5/6/75 & met a 42 6/28/65 yr old cancer man. we went 2 grab a bite on 1st day we met. he said he dont have girlfren, divorced n 2001, work 3 jobs monday-sat, get his 14 yo daughter sat-monday. he plays a sport and practices a few times a wk, and competes. he does a lot
he went back outta state. talked on phone over a month. wanted me 2 meet the daughter, i said i think he should take time 2 get 2 no me be 4 i meet her. we shared sum things over the phone, hes said he ackowledge i been showin sum interest. he mentioned that he dont no how he would react with me coming to see him cuz with all that he does he dont have company like that. in a conversation, i confessed after 1 month and a half that win he asked me what i wanted from him i said i want to build a frenship but i really wanted to say i wanted more but it was too soon. my heart i swear was feeling sumthing from day one. he said so you sayin you ready to be my wife and the fone was dead silent. i new he was jokin.
i went down there the 1st time after over a month of chattin off and on. was introduced 2 three folks, went to dinner at this really nice place. went 2 breakfast nex mornin. we chated on fone off and on. sum of the 1st talks he mentioned if you feelin sum one in the heart u make time. so 3 wks after i went 2 see him the 1st time. there was opportunities he coulda seen me and didnt. i sent this long email that i felt he wasnt feelin me in the heart cuz he let these opportunities go by and not se me.. we talked about that email. and i went to see him a 2nd time. i wanted him more than once and he was like uh ah your not draining me out like the last time. cuz the last time he was so tired from the night before he called off from work.
i dont think i over did it by takin sum food and 1 pot this 2nd time i went. i planned to cook. but we ate sumthin else. he said sumthing, he not use to this. i didnt get like he meant that in a bad way. well i left next day. he had a competition to go too, wanted me 2 send sum pics, i did while he was gone, a card, and we talk before he left. he tex me out the blu all good. i didnt no what he was referrring to. and i started thinkin 2 much. and text him theres no communication cuz he left me hanging to figure out what he was talkin about. i tex him do he see me as a frend with potential. rong ?. he said cant focus on strong frendship. then all my true feelins came out. i felt like i was fallin in luv and u been on my mind etc in all these tex msgs. i tex him days later was he upset wit me he said no. recently i tex him sumthin bout my mom, he came out the blu he still luv his daughter mom and hope my mom is ok. i replied like a frend . he cald me later we rapped about the text msg showdown and he said gotta go with the flo, and he said i be tellin him not to analyze. becuz he mad a 2nd call i wondered if he made that remark to see how i would reply. that was 10 days ago. i since text him how was he, sent him updated pic of me and left a nice msg. i dont know if now i scarde him or how to get my frend back. help!!! based on the last talk 10 days ago i got the feel we was still flowin but i dont no. during the course win we met i sent him 2 card congratulating about his competition and a b-day card to his daughter which he said that was a good ice breaker..i dont want to give up and show him this is real, i am truly his frend. i may be in love with him. should i send a last voicemail msg and tell him i feel hes being distant. i dont no. please evaluate this guys.. heres my number. 267 230 6205. its my pager only. i hope i can have some people to talk to about this. easter standard time zone

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Geocosmic Valentine
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From: New York, NY
Registered: Sep 2007

posted November 09, 2007 01:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Geocosmic Valentine     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Mantionette,

After reading your explaination and looking at the chart information you posted, I see a few things. However, you didn't include the birthtimes or place of birth which you should know is of extreme importance when looking at someone's chart, just remember for the future.

I can see the initial attraction you both had for one another. I also remember you saying that he mentioned possibly getting back together with his child's mother. Before even looking at the charts together, it sounds like he's trying to let you down easy. People will usually tell us who they are or their intentions and we just don't want to hear them, and this already being a long distance relationship, it's double hard to keep it together.

There are a few things here suggesting that you might want to let it go, it may not be worth it to you.

His Neptune opposes your Sun suggesting that he doesn't offer you clarity, he can be very evasive and possibly deceptive. It's not that hard for him when he lives so far away. It's worth it to him to keep you in confusion.

His Saturn conjuncts your Mars, this is a very difficult aspect share. It suggests that he stifles your actions, puts a cold damper on your sexual energies and it promotes high temper issues with you both.

His Pluto opposes your Mars. That can start off as great sexual chemistry but the darkest end of the spectrum is violent tempers. That combination of Saturn conjunct Mars and Pluto oppose Mars doesn't look appealing AT ALL!!

And the last one I'll discuss is that your Uranus squares his Venus, this usually bodes well for instant, electrical and magnetic attraction, but it is usually associated with short lived attractions and affairs that fizzle out after a while.

Last but not least, there are no aspects that suggest a long term relationship, only long term anger if you stick with it.

Of course you have free will, it's up to you what you want to choose, but if it was me, I would move on at a fast paced run in the opposite direction. Keep the good memories, but move on.

Good luck to you, Mantionette, whatever you choose.

Geocosmic Valentine
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mantoinette
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From: phila, usa
Registered: Oct 2007

posted November 09, 2007 03:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mantoinette     Edit/Delete Message
Geocosmic Valentine
your reply was helpful. i emailed you from my yahoo account and asked if you can call me after 9 pm eastern standard time. i need a frend to talk further about this. thanks!!

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Geocosmic Valentine
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From: New York, NY
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posted November 09, 2007 03:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Geocosmic Valentine     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Mantionette,

My suggestion is to read over what I wrote to you. Then tell yourself the truth about what you really feel is going to happen with this man.

Do you really believe he is going to come running to you?

Do you really believe he is going to give you clarity about his situation?

Do you really want someone who is torn between you and another woman? Even if he says it was bitter, some people actually thrive on that.

He's got psychological unfinished business with his ex-wife and you may be waiting around for this unavailable man for years. Let him go instead of staying in confusion.

There are very many other very special men out there closer to you who should be begging for your companionship and love, you need to be out there so they can find you.

Please, re-read what I wrote to you on the discussion forum, I really think you can figure this out and speak to some local friends, unless you want to make an appointment for a phone consultation.

You're gonna be OK Mantionette,

Geocosmic Valentine

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mantoinette
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From: phila, usa
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posted November 09, 2007 03:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mantoinette     Edit/Delete Message
Geocosmic Valentine
do you charge for phone consultation or something. if not you can call me after. i will call you back after 9 pm if you leave your number. i read what you wrote. and im afraid ive pushed him away. i feel that he is a good man. i dont know what else to do. im in the free library rite now

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sthenri
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posted November 09, 2007 10:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
Mantionette, I'm a taurus lady too and it doesn't look like you've pushed him for a relationship based on what you want. Do you know what type of relationship you want? How you will live? Why are you afraid to ask him for it and let him come to you with his ideas? I know Taurus has trouble pushing for it but it sounds like he wants you to push him to take a stand. Cancers and water men like have the intentions clear.

If he doesn't come to you, then he's not ready and it's best to find someone who really needs a relationship. Cancers are super sweet and you are caught up in hi sexiness but there are other cancers just as warm and sexy who are ready. But you gotta push for it! don't be wimpy, cancer men like strong women.

He's prefer a long term friend rather than an affair, so put that on the table first. If he stops being close then see other men for a while just for you and see how things go in your life. Maybe he's better taking it super slow and taurus doesn't like slow!

Good luck.

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mantoinette
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From: phila, usa
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posted November 11, 2007 01:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mantoinette     Edit/Delete Message
sthenri,

thanks for your reply. i was feeling him from day one before i even went to see him the very first time. i told him and he made a joke so u saying you ready to be my wife. as a joke. the fone was dead silent. the last time i talked to him was oct 28. when i texed him something about my mom and how i could use some freaky stuff. and he texed me i still luv my daughter mom and i hope your mom is ok. then he cald me later that day and he rapped about the text msg show down and that i was putting pressure and i told him the reason why i sent all those texed was because he didnt elaborate on his original msg. and cause there was no communication where he took time to elaborate i started thinking too much and texed him do you see me as a frend with potentioal and he said cant focus on strong frenship. and thats win it all came out. i said i felt like i was falling in love and you bin on my mind. but anyway since oct 28 win he texed me about the daughter mom remark. i replied with positive stuff, i didnt trip. we talked later that day and he was like gotta go with the flow which made me think maybe he made that remark to see how i would reply cause why else would he call later. i didnt call him for a week, the following wk i texed him how are you and your daughter, i texed him some information good news no reply. the last msg i said i dont like this feeling that i may have ben just a fling to you and im truly your frend but dont think he sees it. anyway, im afraid i wont talk or hear from him again. trust me im a sexy taurus and he may think oh this girl is crazy, becuase i sent him 2 long letters expressing myself becuase i dont talk to him that much over the fone.

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