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Nephthys
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posted March 25, 2008 10:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nephthys     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Just curious if anyone has ever thought about this..........

"I love you forever"

"I will always love you"

"We will always be together"

"Friends Forever"

"Best friends"

Why do we say these things but then never hear from them again? Sometimes if we try and call or e-mail them we don't get a reply?

How can people be so close, be such good friends, and then lose touch, and we never hear from them again?

How can people be so in love, but then never speak again?

How can someone say they love you, tell you and show you that you are their world, but then ignore you?

It just doesn't make sense to me.

It really isn't that hard, to love and keep in touch!

Just curious how others feel about this

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Lavlee
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posted March 25, 2008 10:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lavlee     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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26taurus
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posted March 25, 2008 11:23 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, for one - and I think the main reason, is that people change. Sometimes we just grow out of people.

I know some ex's now would be like complete strangers to me and the compatibility and sparks would no longer be there if i had to spend time with them again now. Ive experienced this before. At one time I loved this person and the relationship served it's purpose and was a great learning experience. Just because i dont need or want them in my life anymore doesnt mean the love wasnt real or even that i still dont love them in some way in my heart.

You might be surprised to meet these people you once loved some time ago, today and be surprised to see how different things might be or how different your feelings for them would be now. I think people are often "in love with" ghosts of the past and dont realize it. It's so sad but can also be useful too, as long as you can release yourself from it's grips at some point. If you cannot it becomes unhealthy.

Sometimes the best thing a person can do for you is ignore you. As painful as that may be at the time, you are going through a great learning experience. One that you need or it wouldnt be happnening. Higher powers are always at work in our lives. I know that to be true for sure by now. And the powers that Be have kept me "away" from men that would not be for my highest good. And I am sooo thankful for this now. This is someting that can often only been seen after some time.

If you really want to remain in someone's life, just because you once had something together, and that person is not interested in continuing a friendship, then that is your signal that it's time to move on. Whta else can you do? It is no longer in your (and most likely their) highest good to drag something out. What's done is done. Bless it for what it was, a gift, and focus on the present moment.

It can take time but know that something better really is out there waiting for you to discover.

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26taurus
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posted March 25, 2008 11:37 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Let go and let God. Trust that there is a reason these people are "leaving" or trying to. Usually many reasons. Always ultimately good.

New friends are waiting to come in to your life...make some room for them.

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MysticMelody
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posted March 26, 2008 01:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MysticMelody     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Fear

People base love on only knowing certain aspects of people and then project the "perfect person for them" onto whatever they don't know about the person. When you don't know people, Fear can take hold more easily.

I know I have realizations all the time over instances of fear and nonacceptance where I said or did the wrong thing to hurt someone I love without meaning to cause hurt. I see instances when I felt they were hurting or disrespecting or rejecting me when I couldn't see how they were in fear or pain over their own mistaken perception.

Sexual relationships draw people close very quickly in an intimate physical sense, which can invoke emotional closeness (more quickly in women usually), but if the mental and spiritual (which takes longer to grow)along with the other areas of closeness hasn't had a chance to reach the same level (in both people in all areas), Fear has a open playground filled with dark places to hide.

People then only see their own sides and their own perspective which eventually destroys whatever trust they began with... and if they entered the relationship too quickly, the initial trust isn't always based on more than a dream and a feeling. Not that dreams and feelings aren't wonderful... but not all dreams and feelings are correctly interpreted.

People end up confused and hurt over what actually occurred and avoid continuing such experiences.

I believe each new serious relationship is a step up in learning and teaching experiences toward closeness. There are those who are content to begin at a certain level of closeness and work slowly toward more intimacy with one person since youth. There are also those who are only satisfied with the deepest closeness and some who avoid close intimacy. I think we seek these combinations for growth as well. Like 26Taurus mentioned, once we learn what our higher selves sensed we could learn, we move on with no further need of contact. I think we say forever because we feel a strong connection without understanding that some strong connecting aspects don't mean that all other aspects are the rest of we are looking for in a lifelong partner.

What else do you all think?

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Charlotte
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posted March 26, 2008 03:46 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Great! answers...

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bunnies
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posted March 26, 2008 03:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for bunnies     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My dear Dad always used to quote these lines from a poem and it goes something like this..

"SHIPS THAT PASS IN THE NIGHT

AND HAVING ACKNOWLEDGED EACH OTHER IN THE DARKNESS

SAIL ON"

It's roughly that. I have had such a nomadic existence, that he used to quote it to me every time I would bewail the fact that I would yet again, lose touch with someone.

And now strangely enough I find it really comforting.
Some people are just that.

"Ships that pass in the night"

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PixieDust
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posted March 26, 2008 08:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieDust     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My thoughts are that we meet them for a reason and some are forever and some are not, maybe to finish a small bit of Karma from a past life....


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BlueTopaz124
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posted March 26, 2008 11:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for BlueTopaz124     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My feeling and experience is that everyone comes into our lives for a reason. Sometimes a lesson needs to be learned and they are there to help us on our path; or someone to remind us how loveable we are and how much love we are capable of.

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hippichick
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posted March 27, 2008 11:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think, because most of those statements imply future, and one can not predict the future.

An individual living in the present would never say those things, but few do, live in the present, that is.

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seveneieghtorange
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posted March 29, 2008 06:15 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
All my life, I've always wondered why the people that I love are continuously pulled away from me...some voluntarily and some through a twist of fate. My best friend, who I believe is also one of my soulmates was taken back to Turkey by her dad..she had a very rough childhood and her dad physically and verbally abused her while living here in the US and he basically just shipped her out because he was "sick of her". I havent seen here since 2004 and it was very hard to say goodbye to her and vice versa because we had a really strong bond. She and I keep in touch often, and even if I know she and I have seperate lives in different countries, the bond is still there and I know she will always be there for me whatever I go through and she's always praying for me.
Then there was the other case of my first love, mr. scorpio that everyone thought that I would love forever, probably because of the intensity I gave off when I was with him...and even if yes, I will have some form of love for him till the end of my time, I have moved on from being "in love" with him and I've let him go. My friend who is like an advocate on my relationship with him is always so quick to judge everyone that I have been with AFTER mr. scorpio because she believes in her heart that he and I were meant to be. But I'm very quick to point out that, if we were meant to be, then why did he suddenly up and leave? Why arent we in contact of each other even if we still live in the same state, practically the same city? I tried to contact him not too long ago, but instead of giving me a warm welcome that my friend has predicted, he instead practically ignored me. I could carry a tourch for him all my life and eventually miss out on so many things because I waited and because I was blinded by ghosts of the past. But I dont, I learn to let go.

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AlfaOmega
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posted March 30, 2008 05:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AlfaOmega     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Nephthys

As i see it life changes but we are always connected spiritually and as we love eachother we will still do even if we are apart*

What do you think are we all like drops in the sea? Like a big loving mass?


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