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Heart--Shaped Cross
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posted April 23, 2008 06:08 PM
 
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posted April 24, 2008 09:44 AM
i am just wondering... about what astrological placements or aspects are in common among the people who are into polyamory...IP: Logged |
Heart--Shaped Cross
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posted April 24, 2008 05:59 PM
I have venus conjunct uranus and parallel neptune.Moon in Aquarius, ruling the 7th. IP: Logged |
Geocosmic Valentine
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posted April 24, 2008 06:12 PM
I would also add 5th house cusp in Aquarius.Thanks for posting this, Heart--Shaped Cross. I have so many clients with an Aquarius 5th house who would benefit from knowing about Polyamory. For them it's natural and such a strong need to have multiple relationships or physical partners, yet not be seen as cheaters, because they are not bad people, but this society completely paints them that way. Both men and women. I am certainly going to investigate this and recommend it to clients. Geocosmic Valentine ------------------
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Heart--Shaped Cross
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posted April 24, 2008 09:52 PM
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posted April 24, 2008 11:20 PM
If it works for some...fine....just sounds a little complicated and impractical to me....But still- all things are possible!
If some people do indeed manage to find true intimacy this way, good for them. I suppose it will never be for me....perhaps I just miss that bond I had as a child very early on or something? ------------------
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is a brilliant, many-sided diamond.
The great life fills this gem and colors from every side.
Mystics, messengers, and sages and teachers of all ages, races and beliefs have spoken of a different face of this common Eternal Truth. IP: Logged |
ghanima81
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posted April 25, 2008 09:38 AM
I get it...  Thanks for the post!! I know this puritanical society we live in finds this behavior strange and possibly on the bad side of the moral code... but I don't see any reason to stifle your needs or desires. So long as there is honesty and understanding between the people involved, I say do it up! IP: Logged |
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posted April 26, 2008 08:47 PM
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lechien
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posted April 26, 2008 10:54 PM
i completely believe in multiple parters. if not for me, i can work for other people. it's just the society. many times the problems are only caused by people who think it's "cool" but are not really ready or don't really get the concept of it and just try. if there is TRUST, it can happen and harmoniously too. i tried a couple of times but the guys completely misunderstood my intention. they took it as that they can just sleep around and be irresponsible. that's complete bullshi*. if there is mutual understanding and respect, there is absolutely no reason to be jealous. i personally hate jealousy and dumb competitive attitude a lot of people employ. i think if i come together with the right people, i can experice the wonderful world of mutual affection and intimacy.IP: Logged |
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posted April 26, 2008 11:50 PM
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posted April 27, 2008 06:08 AM
it must be, what i'm seeing on the screen doesn't even look like a t-shirt... IP: Logged |
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posted April 27, 2008 10:45 AM
 By the way, I actually preferred this article (thread underneath) on polyamory, because it illustrated the idea of people being together in this way, yet still caring very deeply for each other. Sex without love, I feel, is incomplete. Article: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum10/HTML/003153.html IP: Logged |
lechien
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posted April 27, 2008 12:21 PM
oh, i actually thought i was posting on that thread, didn't read the beginning of this one, oops.to me, sex without love leaves me feeling empty. i don't understand it, and even if i'm desperate, id rather go without than sleeping with someone i don't care about. being in love, feeling love for someone, loving someone, these are different things but involve love. between the variation of these things, i would understand that one can have multiple feelings for different people. but it's not the matter of who one loves the most and least, just different kinds. me personally, i don't really care for others once i have one steady partner. i just normally try not to get myself involved in more than one person, because people do get jealous and i really don't need that. i just want peace and harmony. IP: Logged |
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posted April 27, 2008 12:48 PM
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me personally, i don't really care for others once i have one steady partner. i just normally try not to get myself involved in more than one person, because people do get jealous and i really don't need that. i just want peace and harmony.
And also its much more convenient that way....after all, we are human- there's only so much one human can take on board!We're not omnipresent beings! (Apart from maybe on a higher level; our higher self level).  IP: Logged |
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posted April 27, 2008 01:52 PM
I "get it", but wouldnt want it.  I can see how it would be beneficial to certain other people though. To them I say go for it!There is nothing wrong with loving more than one person at the same time. Is that really possible - to share our love with one and only one at a time? Usually we love many people. Is intimate love superior? There will always be past loves or other people you feel love for in some way or another, right? Does it all have to be romantic love or with multiple partners at the same time for it to count as significant? quote:
This lifestyle is neither advisable nor sustainable for people who are highly dependent and possessive,
or who have no desire to experience true intimacy with more than one person in their lifetime.
I am neither highly dependent nor the possessive or jealous type. I have experienced true intimacy without having to do it the polyamorous way. "Who have no desire to experience true intimacy with more than one person in their lifetime." Well, um, that has already been taken care of. I have experienced true intimacy with many people in this lifetime yet not all at the same time. Relationship after relationship. Most people experience love and intimacy with more than one person throughout their lifetime. Does doing so with multiple people all at the same time make you a more open-minded, freedom-loving individual? I think not. Does feeling like you enjoy being exclusive to one person at a time mean that you somehow automatically do not experience intimacy with "more than one person in a lifetime"? Like life as a non- polyamorist automaically means having only one love in a lifetime? Does non-polyarmory make you a jealous possessive, closeminded person. Incapable of living an "independent" life. Weird. I see this as something alot different than it is hyped up to be here. Still, it will be useful to some. And all the power to those to find what they are looking for in multiple partners. I am not looking down on it, just voicing my opinion. Personally this way of life makes me tired just thinking about it. oy. No thank you.
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posted April 27, 2008 01:56 PM
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Some polyamorous people feel that, for them, love is not a finite resource that must be saved for one person lest it be exhausted, but a renewable resource —
the more love we give, the more we have to give.
lol  Some non-polyamorous people feel that exact same way.
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posted April 27, 2008 02:15 PM
By spreading "true intimacy" thin over a number of different people, doesnt it then get kind of shallow and might it give a thin and fragile surface or ground to the interactions? Allowing you to go on thinking you are so much more openminded and ahead of the game/times because you can do this thing?People are so complex. How would you ever reach "true intimacy" by dabbling a little bit with numerous people on different days of the week?  How would one find the time? It seems like a great distraction from other things. I prefer plunging the depths of true intimacy with one other person and going the distance. It seems like that would be hard to do with many people all at once. We are all equipped for different things; experiences, I guess, soo.... This one just isnt for me. Thanks for the food for thought. Guess my Taurean Sun outshines; overpowers my Venus in Gemini. lol IP: Logged |
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posted April 27, 2008 02:20 PM
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By spreading "true intimacy" thin over a number of different people, doesnt it then get kind of shallow and might it give a thin and fragile surface or ground to the interactions? People are so complex. How would you ever reach "true intimacy" by dabbling a little bit with numerous people on different days of the week? How would one find the time? It seems like a great distraction from other things. I prefer plunging the depths of true intimacy with one other person and going the distance. It seems like that would be hard to do with many people all at once. We are all equipped for different things; experiences, I guess, soo.... This one just isnt for me. Thanks for the food for thought. Guess my Taurean Sun outshines; overpowers my Venus in Gemini. lol
I'm Gemini, but I feel the same as you 26T.Just every once in a while I'll feel lost and confused and turn these things over in my mind.  Now give us a hug would ya? Someone! Anyone! IP: Logged |
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posted April 27, 2008 02:25 PM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g6kwUBrRjaM We all need love! IP: Logged |
26taurus
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posted April 27, 2008 02:29 PM
Did I hear hug??? Okay!
Just as long as it's not a group one.
One at a time, please, okay?
My heart is big but my arms can only stretch so far. I liked all of what you said up there, LTT.  And I cant view youtube right now, but have been wanting to check out that video. Thanks!
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posted April 27, 2008 02:33 PM
ps I edited/added to that post you quoted. IP: Logged |
26taurus
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posted April 27, 2008 02:42 PM
Some guys want to have all the cupcakes and eat them too. IP: Logged |
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posted April 27, 2008 02:49 PM
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posted April 27, 2008 02:51 PM
Who you callin' a cupcake, sweet-tart?
You read my post that I copied onto the Differences of the Sexes thread here, yes? Tis good.
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26taurus
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posted April 27, 2008 02:57 PM
No, let me go see it, my pumpkin-pie.  IP: Logged |
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