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Topic: relationship dealbreakers
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deuxantares
Knowflake Posts: 285
From: Female, Dubai
Registered: Nov 2006
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posted May 08, 2008 03:40 AM
 
anything that you can't or won't live with, put up with, ignore or just cannot accept in a relationship even if you truly, madly, deeply (Thanks to Savage Garden!) love the other person? and please add relevant stuff from your chart.i will come back to post mine.  IP: Logged |
Got Gemini?
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posted May 08, 2008 08:31 AM
I can't stand unfairness. I really dislike the "impersonal approach" style of showing love. Mean or rudeness is a no no. Bad hygeine is a no no as well. Infidelity WILL NOT BE TOLERATED at all. Manipulative and controlling people need not apply. Arrogance is a no no too.Most of this is due to my moon in Libra which loves fairness, diplomacy, and tact, and my Venus in Cancer which wants a close, deep emotional connection with another. I'm kinda anal when it comes to hygeine I guess because of my Virgo asc and Mars. (I once dated a girl in my younger years who just refused to wash. It was disgusting. I never wanted to touch her once I noticed she didnt bathe. She would do those "sink refreshers" where she'd lather up her washclothe and wash her lady area like just washing there was enough. Just trifiing I tell you, just plain trifiling. I had to get away from that one LOL! I mean, she didnt smell or anything, I just thought it was nasty for a person, let alone a woman to not wash. And when you see her, upon first impression, you'd think she was a daily bather but she wasnt LOL! ------------------
Virgo Asc & Mars
Gemini Sun
Libra Moon
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Got Gemini?
Knowflake Posts: 415
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Registered: Jul 2007
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posted May 08, 2008 08:50 AM
You should post this on the main forum. It will probably get more responses there.------------------
Virgo Asc & Mars
Gemini Sun
Libra Moon
Gemini Mercury
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charmainec
Knowflake Posts: 142
From: cape town south africa
Registered: Dec 2007
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posted May 08, 2008 09:40 AM
LOL Got Gemini?I can't stand dirty fingernails (yuk)Personal hygiene is also important - mars in virgo. IP: Logged |
wheelsofcheese
Knowflake Posts: 460
From: UK
Registered: Jan 2008
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posted May 08, 2008 10:30 AM
1) Noisy eaters. I broke up with an otherwise lovely man over this once. I thought if we couldn't eat together what was the point? He was like a pig at a trough, I was horrified. When I first heard him I thought he was joking.2) People who are mean to waitresses/waiters or anybody in 'menial jobs'. Their job doesn't represent who they are. No child ever said they wanted to be a waiter when they grew up. I love people who work scuzzy jobs rather than claim welfare. If a man doesn't get that then he's a non starter. And there's the added dimension that he may believe others were born to serve him. Over my dead body pal. 3) People who drop litter. Who do they think will pick it up? ^^ see 2) 4) People with really loud voices. I just can't bear it. 5) People who make lists (only joking) I think all this is explainable by Libra sun and virgo rising
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deuxantares
Knowflake Posts: 285
From: Female, Dubai
Registered: Nov 2006
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posted May 08, 2008 11:06 AM
oh here is my list: 1. poor personal hygiene - my libra venus
2. possessiveness/jealousy - my libra venus
3. unfairness - my libra venus
4. lack of ambition/direction - my scorpio sun
5. non-interest in reading/learning - my sagittarius mercury
6. unfaithfulness/lack of loyalty - my scorpio sun/moon
7. squareness/boringness - my gemini ascendant and ditto to Wheels' # 1,2,3,4  interestingly though, my first love (longest relationship at 5+ years) exhibited almost everything of the above. i guess my scorpion patience and libran harmony-orientation turned a blind eye a lot. IP: Logged |
ellabelle97
Knowflake Posts: 63
From: Frederick, MD
Registered: Mar 2008
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posted May 08, 2008 11:28 AM
1. Lack of depth. Inarticulate.
2. A close minded man.
3. Being illogical on a regular basis - over emotional.
4. A man who doesn't support my goals for his own selfish wants/ temporary desires. Someone who is stagnant with no goals of their own.
5. Long fingernails and bad hygiene- gross!
6. A lack of respect for my wishes. If I say I don't want to do something I don't want to do it, quit pushing! lol so selfishness. Disregarding problems I bring up.
7. Inarticulate. If a guy can't express how he feels and why he feels that why it bothers me lol.I'm new to astrology but a lot of this seems to stem a lot from my sun aquarius. Sun Aqua,
Ascendant Cancer
Moon Pisces
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26taurus
Knowflake Posts: 14057
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Registered: Jun 2004
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posted May 08, 2008 11:44 AM
"People who are mean to waitresses/waiters or anybody in 'menial jobs'. Their job doesn't represent who they are. No child ever said they wanted to be a waiter when they grew up."Thank you, wheels. I work as a waitress and have for many years. Yes, you get a lot of 'mean' people, but most are alright. And no, I did NOT want to be this when I grew up - and still dont.  It's a tough job but some people have to do it. Acutally, as a child, I dreamt of being a dentist. Thanks for sticking up for us lowlifes working menial jobs.   oop. off topic. IP: Logged |
26taurus
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Registered: Jun 2004
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posted May 08, 2008 11:52 AM
1. Cheapness / miserliness / Ungiving
Tip that waitress 20% or more no matter what! And give someone the shirt off your back - or anything else if they need it! I'm that way. So my man has to be that way. 2. overly serious/no sense of humor 3. non-interest in spirituality and reading 4. unfaithfulness 5. sissy-ness 6. overly emotional 7. immaturity is a big one too. I have Saturn in the 7th house!! Taurus Sun
Virgo Moon 8th
Capricorn rising
Leo Mars & Saturn in 7th
Gemini Venus in 5th
Pluto in 8th
That's all for now.
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ellabelle97
Knowflake Posts: 63
From: Frederick, MD
Registered: Mar 2008
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posted May 08, 2008 11:58 AM
Ditto to all of 26Taurus's list!IP: Logged |
26taurus
Knowflake Posts: 14057
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posted May 08, 2008 12:06 PM
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deuxantares
Knowflake Posts: 285
From: Female, Dubai
Registered: Nov 2006
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posted May 08, 2008 12:12 PM
"People who are mean to waitresses/waiters or anybody in 'menial jobs'.i have a guy friend who met a girl who was visiting his country. he said she was almost everything he was looking for in a girl. it was like love at first sight; they immediately made plans for the guy to move to the girl's country. on the night before their departure, they had dinner. the girl was very mean to the waiter and had her food returned to the kitchen 2x as it was not prepared according to her wishes. my friend did not eat, paid the bill and walked out and never bothered to see her again. i would do the same, too. p.s. i believe that you can determine a person's true character by how they treat people whom they never stand to gain anything from. IP: Logged |
26taurus
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posted May 08, 2008 12:17 PM
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clockworkrose
Knowflake Posts: 90
From: Pa, USA
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted May 08, 2008 02:56 PM
Cheapness and stinginess. I can't stand it! To be stingy with your money shows that you are selfish and self-centered. I have always been pretty generous with my money, and I hate people who hoard it and never offer to pay. boo!  I don't know what would indicate it in my chart.... ehm, Aquarius Sun, Cancer Moon, Scorpio Rising. Probably has something to do with my Venus trine Jupiter, and Mercury conjunct Jupiter. IP: Logged |
clockworkrose
Knowflake Posts: 90
From: Pa, USA
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted May 08, 2008 03:04 PM
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I have a guy friend who met a girl who was visiting his country. he said she was almost everything he was looking for in a girl. it was like love at first sight; they immediately made plans for the guy to move to the girl's country. on the night before their departure, they had dinner. the girl was very mean to the waiter and had her food returned to the kitchen 2x as it was not prepared according to her wishes. my friend did not eat, paid the bill and walked out and never bothered to see her again.
oh god, brings back memories lol. I used to be a waitress when I was younger, and one table of men were really condescending and rude. They sent the food back I swear over 3 times, and would laugh at me because I got it wrong. They asked for the manager and said it was 'unacceptable'. They were very stuck up about it. And btw, this was no 1st-class restaurant... it was f*cking dennys! shows some character about yourself that you have to knock down other people to feel good about yourself. Waitressing is alot harder than most people realize! :end rant: IP: Logged |
oneruledbymars
Knowflake Posts: 54
From: South Carolina, USA
Registered: Apr 2008
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posted May 08, 2008 04:21 PM
lol. This is a funny question for me because in my past relationships, I had all these things that I would not put up with like:
- #1 is smoking (hated it)
- substance abuse problems
- fidelity
-body oder
-being clean before sex (a bath within 8 hrs, lol)Thats all the ones off the top my head that I just "had" to change about them in order to be with them. And then came my soulmate. And guess what? I am stuck. I mean for the most part he is good except for the smoking (yeah "it" smokes, lol), but even if he became one of those other things I would put up with it an try to help him until literally it was a life or death situation. (his or mine, or someone elses) before I would leave his side completely and probably not completely (in the true sense of the word) even then, its almost like I am bound to him, and his karma is my karma, and his God is my God, and his fate is bound to mine... So I guess untimately now, there are no more deal breakers. This blows! lol
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Unmoved
Knowflake Posts: 1171
From: Born in S.Africa
Registered: Jun 2007
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posted May 08, 2008 08:41 PM
Cheating! Cheating! CHEATING! Oh, my word! Infidelity is the bane of my existence. I am off men now because of such rubbish. Seriously, I am getting a cat. I will call him/mer Lucy, from Lucifer. Hee hee. On the papers it shall have a second name, Lucifer Van __________ (that's where my second name will be. Then my cat and I shall live happily ever after, Hahahah Jokes, I will never give up on love, but I am fed up currently. Oh, another one, a request for a threesome. WTF? Another... Alcoholism, drug abuse and such things. No No No. And... Oh I am on a role now... I can't deal with macho men! Be manly and sexy masculine but DO NOT for one second think that you will be chauvinistic and require me to be a slave. I cook when I want to, and funnily I love cooking but the minute you expect me to cook, I boycott. Lack of personal hygiene of course. Oh, and a guy who has no friends is too smothering. I need a guy to go out with his boys and leave me be, to read, or watch television or have my me time. This thing of seeing each other everyday can drive me nuts because I have odd hours, so I have to make a compromise to gallivant during the day because I am a night person. Also... DO NOT COME OVER UNANNOUNCED! I am private, usually working, so I need to prepare for company. And don't, I mean don't, act as if you're the king when around your friends whilst at home you are well mannered. Oh, and no sloppiness. No. And be ambitious and not be happy with mediocrity. Also, don't play power games. I will win. And I don't play those games knowing that I can win, because it's immature. Don't nag me too. Aggg! One more thing: do not be possessive. I go out a lot, with my guy friends, who you will meet. Trust me because I can be trusted. Oh, I have to add another: people who do not tip, cheapskates!! No No No IP: Logged |
bunnies
Knowflake Posts: 197
From: U.K
Registered: Mar 2007
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posted May 09, 2008 03:33 AM
Got Gemini?
You've ruined everything.
Never again will I be able to try and get away with the "washbasin freshen up" without visualizing you banging on the door shouting "Are you in there lady? Trifling with a washcloth? It's just plain trifling I tell you!!IP: Logged |
blue moon
Moderator Posts: 1668
From: U.K
Registered: Dec 2007
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posted May 09, 2008 07:37 AM
The only thing that sprang immediately to mind was not wanting to be bothered with children. But that's pretty obvious, most mothers would say that. IP: Logged |
blue moon
Moderator Posts: 1668
From: U.K
Registered: Dec 2007
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posted May 09, 2008 08:16 AM
Double post. Oh, B.S. Can't be doing with that. B.O, a fresh manly sweat is O.K, but if you don't wash for days I'll get the hose-pipe out on you, dirty bleeder! IP: Logged |
seveneieghtorange
Knowflake Posts: 327
From: atlanta, georgia
Registered: Jan 2005
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posted May 12, 2008 02:51 PM
01. infidelity - don't tell me you can commit when you have 5 other girls running around you
02. insensitivity - im a cancer, so don't try to tell me my feelings and how I express my emotion is irrelevant/inconsequential
03. men who can't put up a good conversation
04. weakness of character
05. no moral integrity , although morality has a varied meaning in cultures.
06. violent/anger issues
07. narrow-mindedness
08. a man who has no goals
09. a man who cant make me laugh
10. a man who is emotional all around, but is detached and insensitive when it comes to me.
11. men who have substance abuse problems.
12. men who act like the big boss around their friends but is like a lost little puppy dog at home. What exactly are you trying to prove?
13. no kind of power games, please, especially the life-changing ones. I've known some men to put a lockdown on a woman they have met, tell them they love them and then impregnate them just so they can be their baby's mom and just so these women can be around for them when the going gets tough, even if they're not a couple anymore. To them it doesnt matter because now they have a child together, it's not about having a family, it's about having someone there for the rest of their lives. Disgusting. I have a lot of pluto influences in me, so best believe that once a relationship is over - even if I do have a kid with someone - the feelings, and emotions are cut off.
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posted May 12, 2008 04:42 PM
*People who are cowards when it comes to committing.
*People you should obviously not tell anything to. A secretive girl like I will never reveal things to a bigmouth.
*People who aren't for self-improvement.
*Manners. Pure and simple.
*Poor mental rapport. Communication is needed.
*Those who always depend on others. Nothing sickens me more than someone who always depends on the help of their friends.
*I like someone athletic. If I see someone who sits on the floor when a game is going on, I might assume he's one bad fvck.
*And yes. Last but not least, you need to be a good fvck. Please me in bed or I'll eat you for dinner.
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LEXX
Knowflake Posts: 804
From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat......... fayte1954@hotmail.com LEXIGRAMMING
Registered: Jan 2008
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posted May 12, 2008 06:38 PM
I would not be in love these days with such so the question really does not apply.
However things I detest.
1.physically and or emotionally abusive.
2. Macho pig types who think they are stud muffins.
3.poor hygiene.
4.Drunks. Especially beer guzzlers.
5.If he is obsessed with my boobs.
6.If he requires I be girly, makeup, nails(germ catchers yuck!) etcetera.
7.If he wants to go oral sex on me. No!
8. Crew cuts and such. Blecch.
9. Into loud music at home or in car. Dance Clubs or parties is ok.
10. Video game addict.
11.Golf. Ewww.
12.Religious...if it clashes with my views.
13.Republican.
14.hates cats.
15. Abusive to people, children, animals.
16.homophobic.
17.Talks like Elmer Fudd or Bugs Bunny and so forth and thinks it is cute. Or baby talks, cannot say "love" only wuv or some icky baby talk.
18.not psychic.
19.does not believe in past lives/reincarnation.
20.teases and jokes at my expense.
21.City lover, hates wilderness.
22.needs a mommy.
23.Afraid to cry, show his feelings.
24. Bad table manners.
25.Into blood and guts horror movies.
26.Loves country or rapp.
27.has revolting friends who act like 12 year olds going ga ga over naked women, cat calling beer guzzling jerks.
28.Lies.
29.Cheats.
30.Steals.
32.has hang ups about body size or age.
33.hung up on his mommy.
34.hung up on his exes.
35.Loud and obnoxious.
36.Socially inept, embarrassing to be with in public.
37.into guns.
39.into sexual stereotypes and roles.
40. hates to read.
41.crap at conversation.
43.wants a bunch of kids.
44.heavily into horses.
45.Serious drug addict, not a casual user.
46. Ever murdered or killed anyone for any reason, except self defense. And not military related.
47.racist.
48.refers to his male member in stupid ways with idiotic names. Blecch!
49.Expects to be waited on hand and foot.
50.Drives like an idiot. Has had many wrecks, his fault.
51.jealousy.
52.Controlling and manipulative.
53. Dishonest and sneaky.
54.Cannot commit to anyone or anything.
OK..enough for now. 
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26taurus
Knowflake Posts: 14057
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posted May 12, 2008 06:47 PM
good list LEXX. I'll second some of those.1.physically and or emotionally abusive.
2. Macho pig types who think they are stud muffins.
5.If he is obsessed with my boobs.
6.If he requires I be girly, makeup, nails(germ catchers yuck!) etcetera. I agree. Long nails are gross.
15. Abusive to people, children, animals.
I can tell alot about someone just by how they are around animals and children. 27.has revolting friends who act like 12 year olds going ga ga over naked women, cat calling beer guzzling jerks.
28.Lies.
29.Cheats.
30.Steals.
32.has hang ups about body size or age.
35.Loud and obnoxious.
36.Socially inept, embarrassing to be with in public.
37.into guns.
39.into sexual stereotypes and roles.
40. hates to read.
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26taurus
Knowflake Posts: 14057
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posted May 12, 2008 06:56 PM
Gothic guys that dress in all black and are afraid of the sun, have pet rats etc. Into "fantasy"; wizards, castles, princesses & dragons etc. *shudders* And for the most part, guys that wear jewelry. especially necklaces and have tons of horrible tatoos. Something simple like one small earring is okay on some, but generally, it's a no-no. I'd be open to seeing past all of that though...if enough substance was clearly behind all of that external showiness. Then I'd teach him how to dress.  IP: Logged |
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