posted May 12, 2008 04:31 PM              

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What's your take on this, guys?

Would love to hear your thoughts...

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posted May 12, 2008 04:53 PM              

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If you're a Gemini.

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posted May 12, 2008 04:56 PM              

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hahahah...

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posted May 12, 2008 05:28 PM            

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Of course you can!
You may be deeply and madly in love with a person, but be with someone else who cares for you and makes you laugh because you like him, care for him and you know you can't be with your true love ...

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posted May 12, 2008 05:33 PM              

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Yes. You can.

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posted May 12, 2008 05:44 PM            

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Defintely!
However its best when all parties love each other too!
But most folks cannot cross the bridge to true Polyfidelity in a love situation.
And sadly some cannot tolerate a partner loving another even in a strictly Platonic sense.

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posted May 12, 2008 05:53 PM              

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Just to clarify, i do mean love 2 ppl intimatley, romantically or whatever you want to call it.

plutoprincess, i think i can completely relate to what you wrote.

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posted May 12, 2008 06:10 PM              

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Im sure anyone can be put in this predicament, disregarding which sun sign/ placements he/she has in a natal chart. The only problem is the temptation of infidelity that comes along with it. I personally have never had been in love actively with 2 people at the same time. I think I could love 2 people at the same time, but not be IN love with them....being in love with just one person is already hard work.
If two people are mutual in how they express their love for one another (i.e. open relationships), then good for them but personally that is not the life for me. Just the thought of my special someone telling me how much they are in love with me and doing intimate things with me but then turning around and repeating what he just did/say to some other girl is something that would turn my blood cold.

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posted May 12, 2008 06:18 PM              

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Yeah, i think you can love two people intimately at the same time, but not the same way. Not with the same intensity and certainly not the same "way". Dunno. Confused about it.

I find myself thinking I love two people, but also questioning what that means exactly. Surely, that means one of them is being short handed... I can't imagine I can love 2 people equally...

I also try to imagine being told by my significant other that he loves me and some other "her"... Equally. I would think that he must not love me all that much...

As far as polyamory is concerned, I know very little about it, so I can't comment.

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posted May 13, 2008 02:06 AM            

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i think this happens if the two persons fulfill two different needs.

me, my scorpioness cannot.

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posted May 13, 2008 07:58 AM            

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i think this happens if the two persons fulfill two different needs.

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posted May 13, 2008 08:31 AM            

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Yes you can be in love with more than two.
Hell, you can be in love with a hundred people at the same time, and indeed you should.
But, I guess the love you refer to is the societally-constructed monogamous 'in-love'-ness.
And I believe that can only truly occur between one person.

Sincerely,
Venus in Gemini
Mars in Libra

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posted May 13, 2008 10:35 AM              

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Dew,

not concerned with societal constructs at all (not sure what gave you that impression, not a big fan of having words put in my mouth either), just with pure unadulterated feelings. and the depth of said feelings.

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posted May 13, 2008 10:56 AM            

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Well I never said you said that.
So chill with the putting words in your mouth comment! Its rather unneccessary.
I meant this is how I describe the notion of being 'in love'.
Maybe I need to start being pedantic and explaining every single itty bitty thing I write.
To your particularly phrased question, my answer is a resounding yes!

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posted May 13, 2008 11:05 AM              

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hmmm... as tempting as it is to spew some sarcastic, juvenile response...

yeah, sorry, i was little snappy...

nothing in your post needed explanation, really. i guess mornings w/o coffee are tough for me : )

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posted May 13, 2008 03:34 PM              

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Long time ago i would say "No" you cant really be in Love with 2 people at the same time.

But now that i have another view about Life,i say it is possible,and much more usual than we think.

There are many wyas of loving - all them are diferent and maybe it has to do with previous lives we had: some people we just love romanticaly,other we can love with a more passionate way...

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posted May 13, 2008 03:47 PM              

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I think thats a very good way to put it, D.

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posted May 13, 2008 05:21 PM              

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Itīs a thought i have myself many times Meduza

so I shared this view i have -not that i have ever been in love with 2 at the same time - but regarding the complexities of Human Being,itīs just that natural.

You can feel that both persons love you in a way that makes you feel healed;secure;motivated;happy etc...in the same way,you can love 2 others with whom you FEEL different bondings (for me that is surely a past life "issue")

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posted May 13, 2008 05:29 PM              

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Yes.

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posted May 13, 2008 05:30 PM            

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Wow meduza! We have very similar thoughts and questions today! I was just thinking about this this morning.

And to answer your question, yes, I think it is VERY possible. Plutoprincess pretty took the words right out of my mouth. Sometimes you love someone but circumstances have it that you can't be with that person. So you repress and put into the back of your heart/mind the love you have for person A so that you can function and find someone else. But truthfully, your mind will want the current person while your heart will want the person that circumstances prevent you from being with.

I know firsthand because that is my personal experience. But you just have to believe in destiny and let the pieces fall where they may.

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posted May 13, 2008 08:28 PM            

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Furthemore, you don't love more than one person the same way. What I mean is with each person, its a different type of love, a different frequency if you will. The connection differs from persn to person. Don't hate yourself or down yourself if you find yourself in love with more than one person. It really has a lot to do with your current situation. If you have no reason to believe you are creating no bad karma, then all should be okay.

I'm in this position and trust me, I'm not doing anything that is creating negative karma. My reasons are personal but hey, that's me. Some people might say I'm the bad guy but they are only judging one side of the picture.

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posted September 09, 2008 11:50 AM              

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I am in this situation now.I love my husband...I mean I truly LOVE him,but I find myself thinking of someone else more often than I should,and it's tearing me up inside.Even though I have never cheated,I feel as though I have,because I am "Cheating" in my heart by having thoughts of someone else and I don't know what to do.I'm emotionally wrecked.My husband is such a wonderful man...he is so good to me and I feel like such a wh*** for having these thoughts.I have a lot of aspects with the "other guy" and I have Venus in the 12th natally,as well as Neptune in the 7th.Why can't I be happy with what I have??He is better to me than I deserve and here I am thinking of someone else.What do I do?

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posted September 09, 2008 12:27 PM              

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I am in this situation now.I love my husband...I mean I truly LOVE him,but I find myself thinking of someone else more often than I should,and it's tearing me up inside.Even though I have never cheated,I feel as though I have,because I am "Cheating" in my heart by having thoughts of someone else and I don't know what to do.I'm emotionally wrecked.My husband is such a wonderful man...he is so good to me and I feel like such a wh*** for having these thoughts.I have a lot of aspects with the "other guy" and I have Venus in the 12th natally,as well as Neptune in the 7th.Why can't I be happy with what I have??He is better to me than I deserve and here I am thinking of someone else.What do I do?

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posted September 09, 2008 02:12 PM              

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It is really amazing how many people share the same thoughts (me included)!Im so glad Im posting again

ArmyWife81,

its stupid to feel this way because you didnt do anything wrong. And I believe its perfectly normal to feel this way at times. On the one hand you are married and although you love your husband, this type of commitment is restricting you and sometimes you just want to get away at least in your thoughts. On the other hand, I blame it on the karma too or on past lives connections. I experienced the same thing and it is really strange. You just meet someone and it feels like youve known them forever or there is a special bond or something...I cant explain it but it confused me and I blamed myself but then I just decided to feel whatever I feel and let it be. Because its really not bad karma, its love and as long as you let it out and just love and be happy, I think its nothing to be sorry about. Im not advocating cheating or anything, Im just saying, why fight it when you can just live it out on an emotional level? Its not that youre doing any harm...

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posted September 10, 2008 01:53 AM            

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I have Venus and Mars in Gemini, if that makes a difference. Cancer Sun. I would like to say no ... but I have loved two at the same time.

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