posted June 24, 2008 09:20 PM         

Thanks for the reply.

If this current Cancer girl had come over this past weekend, then it'd be the first time she'd be eating at my place. The last time that she came over, I had asked her to come over only to give her a bottle of Vitamin C because I said she was working too late into the night, during the time.

Our dates have been dinner at different restaurants, coffee at Starbucks, and movie at a public movie theater. I wanted to make her feel as comfortable as possible, and so invited her to public, but comfy, somewhat quiet settings.

On both occasions when I asked her to come to my place to have dinner that I would make, she seemed more than willing. The first time, I said that my colleagues would be there too, so it's a group thing, and she offered -- before I had mentioned anything about it -- to bring dessert.

This last time, she sounded half-asleep, but was quick to agree to come.

So I can safely assume, I think, that she doesn't think of me that way -- that is, all I want is to sleep with her. If she did think that, then it'd be better to break it off with her anyway, because I think that's neurotic.

The previous Cancer? I had only sat down with her for a lunch, and another time for coffee, and another time we were together were just taking a nice walk around our school campus. The reason we were together was because she was already seeing somebody else, as I had found out later.

So this current Cancer, she wrote just now on MSN asking if I had received her text message. I did not, and I think that SMS just doesn't work between us, because she never received two previous ones that I sent her, anyway. I asked well, what did she say? And 15 minutes later, she replied and asked for me to wait because she was busy.

So that was 2.5 hours ago. I'm not impatient, but I think to save myself and her the burden, I'm just gonna forget about it and let it go. If she comes back, that's great; and if not, then oh well.

EDIT:: About the marriage thing... Yeah maybe you're right. On the other hand, she has told me before that she wasn't in a hurry to get married. I dunno. I believe that I should not have been more direct than I was -- if I were, then she woulda been chased off. If I were less direct and didn't plan a next date with her, then she wouldn't've called for a date or whatever anyway, so I believe that I did fine.

posted June 25, 2008 03:41 PM         

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Yao, when things are complicated, like the lost text messages, the waiting calls, not returned, I follow my instinct: perhaps it wasn't meant to be! So for now don't call back, and if she wants to see you, she is the one who will call you!!!

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Yup, you're right. There's no reason to really pursue a "closure" since all it would do is take the load off my back right now. She never replied or called last night, and I'm surprised that I don't really feel that impacted at all.

So I guess another week and she'd be largely forgotten. Yeah, I'll try that.

posted June 27, 2008 09:27 PM         

And so I said, well I wish I had known that much earlier. And she was like, "So we're cool, right?" I said yeah, no sweat, but I still didn't know what happened on Saturday and why she couldn't make it to dinner.

She said that she was just tired and didn't want to answer any phone calls.

WTF kind of response is that?! Blah blah.

posted July 09, 2008 03:05 AM         

I wish things had ended better for you, but after these latest developements, I'm glad to hear you are putting this one aside.

Any time any girl (Cancer or no) gives you that kind of brush off, you should take it as a clear sign that she’s just not that into you. If she valued you half as much as you value her, she’d be eager to spend time with you. But she’s not. Worse – she’s doing everything she can to avoid you. Heck – she’s not even bothering to come up with any plausible excuses. You can’t get a more clear message then that. : (

As a Cancer my feeling is this, either your crab friend is seeing someone else and was actually with him Saturday, or something you said or did sent her running for the hills (my money is on the "someone else" theory). Either possibility is equally likely, and sadly both situations are not something you can recover from easily. If it’s someone else, you crab is probably mad for him. We Cancer’s tend to fall hard, and our loyalty kicks in instantly. She’ll want very little to do with you if she’s in love because it would feel disloyal. Going over to your house would be completely out of the question. And sadly, she probably wouldn't tell you about "him" becuase in some sick way she'd feel guilty for "leading you on" in the past. On the flip side, if you did something to scare her into this complete state of avoidance and lame excuses, I doubt she’ll trust you enough to allow you into her life in any deep way any time soon.

Either way, my best advice to you is let her go. It sounds like you've already begun that process. Which is good, because I think she's lost to you at this point, and while you are busy chasing her, you may be missing your Ms. Right. So get out there, and start looking for the lady that will truely appreciate and adore you. : )

Best wishes,

posted December 21, 2008 03:49 AM         

July 1, 1972. LOllll!! Im teasing you Yoasers!!! But truly, one of my fav people is born March 19...albeit 1963.

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