posted November 09, 2008 04:24 AM         

Yah I wonder if I'm crazy sometimes, especially when I think about this type of stuff...especially about him. It's like I'm obsessed with the idea that I could be happy with him. But I'm scared to find out if I actually would be happy with him or if i'd end up getting dissappointed or not getting the reaction that i wanted. But I'm just telling myself now, no games. I don't wanna play games or play hard to get, but i know i shouldn't rush into it again just because i want it so bad. I'm just gonna go with the flow and let things happen like i did when we were dating.

posted November 27, 2008 07:23 PM         

i have an update for you... lol.

well guess what. i texted him ("dream" guy) to come out for my bday along with everyone else i haven't seen in a while. And he texted me back saying that he was gonna try to make it if he can get out of work early. Well long story short, he said he would make it up to me if he couldn't make it, we texted for bit back and forth, talked like we still knew each other for an hour, and he came to visit me at work the following day. that seriously made my day, even if it was for only a few mins and was during our busy afternoon rush so i couldn't really talk to him. we were suppose to go out to dinner this sat night (i'm guessing his bday present to me, and for not making it out the other night) but something came up on his end...so hopefully we will still go out sometime soon.

posted November 27, 2008 07:23 PM         

i have an update for you... lol.

well guess what. i texted him ("dream" guy) to come out for my bday along with everyone else i haven't seen in a while. And he texted me back saying that he was gonna try to make it if he can get out of work early. Well long story short, he said he would make it up to me if he couldn't make it, we texted for bit back and forth, talked like we still knew each other for an hour, and he came to visit me at work the following day. that seriously made my day, even if it was for only a few mins and was during our busy afternoon rush so i couldn't really talk to him. we were suppose to go out to dinner this sat night (i'm guessing his bday present to me, and for not making it out the other night) but something came up on his end...so hopefully we will still go out sometime soon.

posted November 28, 2008 11:53 AM         

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it is interesting reading what everyone has posted, the only difference in my situation being i have never actually met the girl in my dreams. i know her name is alexandra/ia and i have seen her three times in my life. Once when i was 16, again at 21, and finally at 26. Strangely enough that is every 5 years, but i havent dreamed about her for 10 yrs now. I dont know what to think of that. BTW: strong deja vu when visiting Kentucky when young.
vir sun
sag moon
sco asc

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I have the same thing. I have dreamt about a guy, who is my soulmate, but I have never met him. I don't know his name. It's so real. Weird...

My middle name is alexandria.

posted December 04, 2008 03:42 AM         

He's a Sag. His birthday is today or yesterday. i was gonna text him happy birthday but man i don't wanna seem like i am looking for a way to talk to him... i don't wanna seem desperate. lol. ugh...this kinda junk bugs me. :P

And it's weird cuz almost every night after i talked to him...i had at least one dream a night of him. wtf. lol. The dreams stopped but the last one i remember having was a few nights ago...and it was really really weird. In my dream he was making out with another girl in a tent in a room, but still wanted to see me afterwards...and another part where that girl and another girl was there, and i think he asked us questions to find out which one of us wants to be with him... like, "if you really wanna be with me, then.. blah blah blah..." he chose me. And he was being such an a-hole in my dream.... and he doesn't seem like that in real life. And believe me, i would NOT fight over a guy. I would not try to win someone's love. And i wouldn't be with a guy that cheats or treats me like dirt. maybe these dreams are a warning...? a reminder...?

i wonder if it's just a release dream or something....? and it's weird cuz in continuation of that dream... or another dream... he was dropping me off some where, and we had to dodge a t-rex and a few other dinosaurs near a museum. it felt normal in the dream, but i woke up wondering..... WHAT the heck?! And i had another dream scenario of him...but from what i remember it seemed like him, but then he turned into this other guy (one of my closest guy friends...).

posted December 09, 2008 05:21 PM         

So did you do anything differently after reading that book? and who's the author... haha. i wanna see if i can find it at the bookstore or the library.

I haven't heard from him yet. I think I made myself seem too available. That's what I read in the book. That's why I'm reading that book and trying to get "tips" from them. lol. Dealing with men is like having a business. You have to use the law of scarcity... to make them want it more, like they gotta have it now...or it'll be too late or someone else will get it.

posted December 13, 2008 12:13 AM         

With my situation it’s just weird because it seems like he’s doing this to see what kind of reaction he will get out of me. Or find out what I will do or say when he does this…or does that. It just seems like I’m back to how it end or didn’t end in the beginning of this year (march). And a couple months after that, that’s when I started wondering and dreaming about him. : ( I don’t know if this time around, if he was just trying to get back at me…? But he doesn’t seem like the type to do that, he seems like a “nice guy” type and my friend had told me that he’s a “nice guy” (in the way that seemed like she didn’t know what I saw in him…lol) She’s our mutual friend and we met each other through her.

He’s a Sag with Aries Moon and I’m on the Scorp/Sag cusp with Scorpio Moon. But everything else (in our birth charts) after that is practically the same. He was born about 2 weeks after me.

I get attached too, when I find something or someone I like! And I have a hard time letting go when I really really really really like them or think I’m in love with them.

I felt the same way you did with this “dream guy.” I felt things I’ve never felt before. But then I kinda thought that I was emotionally numb in the beginning and middle of this year, because of what happen with another guy. But that’s another story. Lol. And I was wondering how come I don’t feel like how I usually feel with guys that I’ve liked before. And I didn’t notice it yet, but other people (co-workers and friends) were telling me that it seemed like I was happy and teasing me that I was in love. Haha. And even another friend told me that she’s never seen me like that, when I told her about him. (I think that’s also why I kept feeling like I needed to know…and esp with the dreams… lol )

I didn’t think I could feel something for another guy b/c I closed myself off…until dream guy came along. And I didn’t expect to fall for him so hard. I guess what I’m also still holding on to with dream guy is that the month before I “re-met” him and started dating him I did something “crazy” like ask God for my soul mate. It was something I heard on the radio that another person did when they talked to this one psychic Gary Spivey. I just tried it too, to see if it worked…I was just thinking, what the hell… why not right?

And I guess I keep holding on to him b/c maybe he is my soul mate. The way I felt with him, I haven’t felt like that with any other guy. And it seemed like he got me, he understood me. I remember the night, the exact moment I felt like that. And it seemed like he felt that too.

The only thing I was confused about feeling was that I felt like I was being rushed. Like he kept doing things that maybe he felt like he was losing me if he didn’t do it. And that’s the first time that a guy seemed like he would do anything for me and put me before himself. And I know that I would’ve avoided him if I didn’t like him. So I think and I know I really did like him, maybe even love him. Lol. Even though we only talked and dated for a few weeks.

I guess I feel like I’m not done with it yet, and if I don’t find out an answer…. I don’t think I can get pass it. And I can’t move on if that’s what I have to do.

posted December 20, 2008 11:30 PM         

Yes, I really believe everything happens for a reason as well. But oh my gosh, I'm telling you, while I was healing from my breakup from my first love, it hurt like hell! It felt like another part of me was lost. I dont know if that is a sign that it was "true love", but I was so young and everything was so intense...so that was probably it. I mean, you never forget your first love right?
I know its been awhile since I wrote back but how is everything with you guys?? Have you decided yet what you're gonna do about him?

posted January 05, 2009 03:06 AM         

rbridges18:
Thanks for reading, yeah it’s so crazy how anyone can have dreams of someone or with someone, it’s like your connecting on a spiritual or soul level.

Seveneieghtorange:
You know what? I’ve been “talking” to this one guy about “dream guy” and he made me realize that I do deserve better than this. Not until I started talking to “new guy” did I began to realize that “dream guy” is a total jerk! The last time I talked, seen, texted “dream guy” was around my bday & thanksgiving. Damn, how could I have been such a fool to think that he was just busy with finishing college. : ( I’m stupid… well the last that I heard from him was on Thanksgiving, he texted me asking if we could reschedule b/c he had to go pick up relatives at the airport, and he said he wanted to see how his classes were gonna be that week, so he said he would get back to me as soon as he found out. He didn’t. He didn’t. I texted him on his bday in December but only b/c I’m not a b*tch and I just wanted to wish him a happy birthday. Boy was I a fool. If he really did want to see me (even just to catch up) he would’ve suggested a day. But he didn’t. And I waited for him to text or call me, but I got nothing. : ( So basically, like my friend told me, “it seems like he was getting back at you, so it’s like he stood you up.” Can you believe that? How could I have been so naïve and blind, not to notice that he was just being a jerk but in a nice way. WTF is that? Haha. sorry, I just can’t believe that I thought he really was a nice guy (even my close friend that’s friends with him said that he was a nice guy, but I guess she wouldn’t know him from a relationship/dating POV. I should’ve known…instead of keep hoping that he’ll call or text me when he’s not so busy. STUPID!

So I’m done with him. I know I’ll probably see him at the gym (he works there) or at my friend’s bday next month. I know I probably hurt him when I told him “I don’t know…” when he asked me to be his gf, but I was honest! I didn’t say it to hurt him. But it probably did, and I’m guessing this is his way of getting back at me. : ( And it seemed like this second time around, he wanted things to move really fast, like we were still dating yesterday, (but I haven’t seen him in months, so I thought it would be like starting over again, don’t rush it) it’s like he wanted things to go on his time, his flow…instead of mine. I don’t like to rush things…so I guess in that aspect it wouldn’t work between us. Anyways, the last dream I had of him was a few weeks ago, and in it we lived in the same apartment/condo complex and even though I saw him around he didn’t see me or talk to me. I guess I should’ve took that as a sign.

And not until I started talking to this “new guy” about “dream guy” I realized that I deserve better than that. And with “new guy” he’s made me realized a lot of reasons why I’m still single and why it hasn’t lasted that long with any guy for the past 4 years. And that I really deserve a guy that would treat me the way I should be treated. And with “new guy” we have sooo much in common that it’s kinda scary. In a good way. I thought me and “dream guy” were a lot alike, but I think with this “new guy” we are more alike and see things the same way, he’s been telling me and giving me advice on relationships/dating… and he wouldn’t try to “get back” at anyone no matter how much the girl hurt him, he believes in karma.

So it’s really not hard for me to meet a guy, I think it’s harder for me to keep a guy, or not hurt his feelings without me knowing. Haha. I guess I need someone that can put up with that and understand the real me instead of the person that he wants to see. You know?