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Topic: can it ever work?
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maxine_scorp Knowflake Posts: 23 From: Registered: Oct 2008
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posted November 21, 2008 11:50 PM
hi everyone, i am writing out to *vent*... i have been in a relationship with an aqua for about 7 months, we deeply love each other (in our strange ways) we have great comunication but we are facing 2 challenges:1. i need to chill more and learn to let go... 2. my aqua needs help expressing his feelings we are both willing to do whatever it takes to be together... i just don't want to give up yet, the feeling is deep, sincere and true, when we try to not be together it hurts us both badly IP: Logged |
maxine_scorp Knowflake Posts: 23 From: Registered: Oct 2008
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posted November 21, 2008 11:55 PM
also my sex drive hurts him in the sense that he feels that for me it's mostly just pleasure (not really) and he feels that i see sex as pure lust, while he sees it mainly as loveIP: Logged |
LEXX Moderator Posts: 1898 From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion! Registered: Jan 2008
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posted November 22, 2008 12:45 AM
maxine_scorp Sorry to hear of your relationship woes. ------------------ Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain. IP: Logged |
maxine_scorp Knowflake Posts: 23 From: Registered: Oct 2008
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posted November 25, 2008 01:06 PM
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maxine_scorp Knowflake Posts: 23 From: Registered: Oct 2008
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posted November 25, 2008 01:07 PM
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Xena Knowflake Posts: 536 From: UK Registered: Jun 2006
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posted November 25, 2008 04:43 PM
Aqua and Scorp is one of the square combinations that's good. You both have so much strength, you can get over this. Love, Xena IP: Logged |
MysticMelody Moderator Posts: 4572 From: Registered: Dec 2005
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posted November 25, 2008 06:57 PM
Talk more when you make love and explain to him what you are feeling (and what you are thinking a little) and experiencing using words at the beginning of your time together. We air signs like that. It helps us to "feel" and brings us into the experience with you. Once we are "there" we can connect more on the other levels.
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MysticMelody Moderator Posts: 4572 From: Registered: Dec 2005
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posted November 25, 2008 06:59 PM
Oh, and the more you open up and talk about feelings (at the appropriate times), the safer he feel to do the same. This is true of all males, not just Aqua.
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AquaGuy Knowflake Posts: 134 From: NJ Registered: Jun 2008
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posted November 26, 2008 06:43 AM
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we deeply love each other (in our strange ways)
Then there's Hope... quote:
also my sex drive hurts him in the sense that he feels that for me it's mostly just pleasure (not really) and he feels that i see sex as pure lust, while he sees it mainly as love
Sounds like he feels unloved... quote:
Talk more when you make love and explain to him what you are feeling (and what you are thinking a little) and experiencing using words at the beginning of your time together. We air signs like that. It helps us to "feel" and brings us into the experience with you. Once we are "there" we can connect more on the other levels.Oh, and the more you open up and talk about feelings (at the appropriate times), the safer he feel to do the same. This is true of all males, not just Aqua.
I agree with MysticMelody on these...
------------------ Sun = Aquarius... Moon = Aries... Venus = Capricorn... Mars = Pisces... Mercury - Pisces... Email = theaquaguy@optonline.net IP: Logged |
LetsDance Knowflake Posts: 258 From: Where there's dancing... Registered: Mar 2006
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posted November 26, 2008 10:34 AM
quote: 1. i need to chill more and learn to let go... 2. my aqua needs help expressing his feelings
Wow, this is so me and my scorpio. However, since you realize this (as me and my scorpio did), that is a BIG step towards developing your relationship into something magnificent. Good for you, maxine_scorp. maxine, i am in that combination, only reversed. So I totally hear you, here. Stick with it. It's the communication aspect of your relationship that you both MUST master. I'm living that every day. Depending on placements, Aquas and scorp have so much potential but the seeming "aloofness" of aqua and the emotional need of the scorp may have you both at opposite ends of the couch. Not to mention the stubborness of both signs and the fact that an aqua will never allow themselves to be controlled by anything or anyone. Scorps don't talk much during sex, it's a concentration and focus. Aquas use speech to express themselves, as Mystic said. This is a real need for us. While you may want him to express himself in the same way that you do, he needs to know that what he is doing is "right" and he'll only know this if you talk to him. You'll be surprised how quickly he'll learn (or be absolutely willing to learn) how to love you the way you desire because he'll understand what you need to be happy. So let your aqua know that although you may not speak during intimacy, it's not because you are not "feeling" him. Let him know the mere fact that you ARE intimate with him speaks of your love and feelings for him. You don't take it lightly at all. Maxine, this is what me and my scorpio are learning: how to communicate with each other. Whether through speech, silence, touch, written notes, making love, music, laughter (or anger/frustration), and the way we look at each other. You can DO this. I need you to DO this. You encourage me. IP: Logged |