posted July 09, 2009 12:46 AM         

We maybe dated on the weekends for a month in a half (not long I know). But in that time we got close. He introduced me to his entire family, he ordered Chinese take out on the beach, surprised me with gifts (as I tried to do the same) and places he knew I'd like. And he'd bring up future plans of us together. All signs he was interested (you would think, right?). It was also obvious (by watching his interactions with his family) that he was a responsible dependable person that took his work and future and commitment seriously(as we had also discussed).

Well the last time i saw him (three weeks ago or more?) he was really stressed out over money issues, and his GPA. He casually mentioned he'd be busy with school, and doing favors for his brother in law. We hugged goodbye. I week or so after that we chatted online he told me to call him the next day. Another casual conversation about how school was going and his camping plans)..he said he call the next day. I hadn't heard from him. I gave it a few days called, a few days wrote him, heard nothing, gave it a few days wrote him, heard nothing.

so i decided to try one last e-mail asking if he no longer interested in continuing anything..that i'd just like to hear from him one way or another, and that i'd understand if he didn't. That it was nice getting to know him.

I can tell when he has read these messages, and still nothing. Any clue why he would be ignoring them? Is there nothing more for me to do?

My sun in pisces his sun on libra/scorpio cusp(OCT 25)
my moon in scorpio his moon in pisces
My rising in scorpio his in saggitarius
my venus in taurus his venus in libra
my mars in capricorn his mars in virgo
my mercury in Aquarius his in scorpio

posted July 09, 2009 01:20 AM         

My advice, give him a bit of space, but if he doesn't come around on his own in a couple of weeks, tell him you're done. He'll either not respond (if he doesn't he's not worth your time) or he'll chase (he doesn't want to lose you).

posted July 09, 2009 02:40 AM         

It too bad I didn't join lindaland sooner, and take your advice!

posted July 09, 2009 05:47 PM         

The only exception to this is when I've been friends with someone (not romantically involved) and they have let me down in someone way, though, not necessarily a betrayal. If it is a bad enough, I just let them slip to the back burner. I care too much about them to hurt them by cutting them out for good, but I can't really depend on them so I let the friendship go. That is probably more my Libra rising than my Scorpio Sun, but...

posted July 09, 2009 08:16 PM         

Sorpionic web- Your case is very interesting. I think the guy I was with may have felt the same was as your pisces women, except he didn't really push or make it clear to me. But, I know he takes those goals very seriously and that might be the case. However, I do find it hard to imagine a Piscian women giving up a chance at love for a career. (she must've had some powerful earth and fire in her chart!)

Crabbypatty- That's what I believed about scorpio's. I know he's worried about school, and his income (he got laid off recently). Similar to myspace the site I'm using tells you when someone read or has deleted your messages. Unless the website is experiences some fluke, although what are the chances? I did consider his pisces moon ...but you would think with his scorpio also in mercury-he'd say something. But I will take your advice and not make any more moves, and I am trying to move on-but you probably know how hard that can be sometimes. I guess I have to let time take control.

asphodelelysium- I agree with what you have said. I think it's fair to both people if you say what needs to be said in those situations to move on. And there has been times when I have abruptly stopped talking to friends because I still cared but couldn't condone their lifestyle (i.e. drug use)

posted July 12, 2009 01:10 AM         

He could be testing you. Seeing if you give up on hinm easily. I don't know what you've said to him or what he has said to you about your relationship, so it's hard for me to know exactly what he is doing.

Scorpio men do go after what they want, however. So it really depends on what he wants. You've met his family, he's talked about the future with you, etc. Yet, he's unavailable for three weeks and counting.

Your last message to him is very clear. If he does get in touch with you, I would be quiet and listen to what he has to say as to why he could not respond to your messages to him. Unless he lost all forms of communication, I would politely let him know that ignoring me for three weeks is inconsiderate and unnecessary and not something I would have expected from him (based on the relationship level).

He's got to know that you will not put up with that sort of thing -- again based on the relationship level. Since it doesn't sound to me that you consider yourself in something "platonic" with this guy, you need to lay some ground "rules" on what will work for you and what won't, and vice versa.

I definitely would not contact him again until I heard from him.

posted July 12, 2009 02:13 AM         

That doesn't mean he doesn't like you, and in fact he may have very intense feelings for you, but he has definitely put you on the back burner for whatever reason and once he has made up his mind to do this, as a Scorpio, there will be no changing his mind.

posted July 12, 2009 05:02 PM         

HE might not even know what he wants or what he's thinking...the one thing YOU can tell though, is that he does not want to be in touch with you, or he would be.

posted July 13, 2009 08:19 PM         

Instead I found out he deleted his account all together. So perhaps it's just too soon for him to start dating? I can't help but think that maybe it was a test like Letsdance was saying, i gave up on him to easily, and now I've failed.

This hurts-what is it a nonchalant way of saying he doesn't want to talk to me (Why wait a week since I wrote him that message)? To me it says we're never going to talk again...and there was no closure in the first place. Yeah he still has my number and e-mail address...but no one will call you out of the blue after so long.

posted July 13, 2009 09:26 PM         

Instead of accepting his lame, drifty, not-a-real-explanation excuses about his dissertation or his busyness or whatever, she pinned him down and got a real answer that he did not want to be involved.

I like Gypsee's thread, too: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum10/HTML/003613.html

I mean, if a platonic friend completely cut us out and ignored all our attempts at contact, we would get in touch and ask, "What the hell is going on?"

posted July 15, 2009 04:24 PM         

I would let it go. I agree with what starofvenusgirl said; it seems that 'He's just not that into you'. Don't call him, if he wishes to make contact, he will. But at the moment, it seems unlikely.