posted November 12, 2009 07:53 PM         

Oy. I definitely recommend you exit the revenge game. I tried that with my Scorpio and only ended up hurting myself. They will never get tired of it, so you're going to have to be the one to stop the madness. Once you stop giving negativity your energy, it goes away.

Good luck! (((Lyra)))

posted November 13, 2009 11:24 AM         

One thing about Scorpios is that they ALWAYS seek revenge - no matter if someone has or hasn't done something to them. Plus, no matter who they are dating, they are always looking around for fresh blood, you CANNOT get them to be faithful - an 80-year-old Aries friend said this to me. She dated a Scorpio years and years ago and she said he was married, and swore he wasn't, and quite convincingly, too - even when he was proved wrong! (although I don't think mine WAS married, it almost seems as though marriage isn't much of a prize with these geezers, even though they try to make out like it is). He said earlier in the year that if we lasted until our 2-year anniversary he'd give me something else (i.e. an engagement ring), after having given me a necklace for my birthday - but having been incredibly mean in every other way - even complaining about buying me drinks! I don't know whether this was because he was on benefits or not.) He really complained about ME being mean (I was almost meaner than him) - but when I did actually make the effort to cook him dinner, dumped me the next week. So it was better to be mean to him and put up with the rows. I couldn't win whatever I did.

I wanted to send him a birthday card, but he started shrieking, "NO! NO! Do NOT send me a birthday card!" I asked him why not and he said he had a project going on for the next 2 weeks and he didn't want anyone "finding" the card and asking questions and I said "so have you got someone staying over? I.e. a girl? You can tell me. You might as well be honest. We aren't going out, so I will be less offended than if you didn't tell the truth."
"NO!I haven't got anyone staying over. I just don't want them to ask questions. And DON'T come round."
"OK, I'll write the card and sign it Bob. So whoever it is you don't want to see it can't ask questions. Jeez, I only wanted to send some goodwill!"
So he said eventually I could POST a card and that would be OK.

Then yesterday he rang up TWICE (I deliberately didn't answer) to ask if I was OK, saying "text me, phone me, etc. and I'll get back to you as soon as poss." So I texted him to say I hadn't had any sleep for the last 3 nights and was having an early night (i.e. don't disturb me, as I can't take any more arguing or BS and if you want a conversation, you will just have to wait).

In a funny sort of way I think Scorpios (as an obverse of their power complex) LIKE bitchy women, as they get a hard-on from fighting. Sappy women and too much adoration seem to turn them off. I think in many ways we were quite alike. I like my male friends (although am not attracted to them) and he felt very jealous. I'm sure any man would be. I was terribly jealous of him too. The thing is, when we were really in love, it WAS absolutely blissful, and he said "OMG, I f-ing love you" - even only last week he said, "I love you as much as I love myself", and was incredibly jealous that I might be going away with a male friend on holiday over Xmas (although I am NO WAY attracted to this friend) and said he was thinking of going round to his parents over Xmas and taking me with him. However, he claimed MY jealousy was the final straw and said "since we have agreed to be FRIENDS, whether or not I have a relationship with someone else is none of your business" - whereas what I actually said to him was "let's agree to be friends, whatever happens".

I have a confession to make. A couple of weeks ago I dumped some fake vomit on the pavement near the driver's side of his car. Made from custard, coleslaw and onion rings to give that "late-night kebab" look. Pretty harmless really, although on first sight of it I'd admit it wasn't the sort of thing you'd hang around to analyze. Basically summed up what I thought of him (i.e. bile product!!). We have been SOOO horrible to each other!