posted March 22, 2010 02:25 AM         

I've been going through alot of..."sometimes we outgrow people but still love them anyway" stuff. And this is for both males AND females in my life. IMHO, if interactions with them leave you feeling drained, or crappy about yourself, it's just time.

posted March 22, 2010 03:24 AM         

I can't be with this person and it's too hard to deal with, so I need to find a way to stop the feelings. Don't know how I'll do that, but I will.

It's just a big sigh type of situation.

@ Gypsee

posted March 22, 2010 10:14 PM         

My friend doesn't go mia, she just sits there and expects me to listen to her for hours, talking about the same thing over and over again, and I do, but then when I start saying anything, she has to get off the phone or she changes the subject back to her again. I am so tired of it. People need to know that when they get like that, and have remained like that with the same issue, that it's not fair to their friends and that they need a therapist. Also, I probably wouldn't care if this was isolated, but she's been this way forever and she doesn't care about me and my life at all. It's so selfish. I am sick of doing it, when I know I shouldn't.

You're lucky she isn't returning your calls. You have the perfect opportunity to bow out and not feel at all guilty. I don't have that luxury. I will have to tell her and I feel bad.

posted March 23, 2010 04:16 PM         

I've missed you. I don't know if its due to my MIA tendencies around here or due to the fact that you're busy scoping your friend out. I love it! Of course, you're finding attraction toward your friend a problem, but to me, it's the best situation ever. I mean, what better person to fall for than your friend? Right?

Ok, I'm not helping at all. I guess, with Uranus, the ruler of my 5th being in 1st and with the Sun and Venus being in my 11th, you should understand being Aqua and all.

As for dead beat friends. Off with the Head! In other words, cut the biaches off before they suck more life force out of ya. I did that last year and life has been so much better. These energy vampires act as if the friggen universe revolves around their "supposed" ice-cream manufacturing behinds.

to MVM -

posted March 23, 2010 07:28 PM         

I can relate, I had a g/f who used to "drain" (& who lived abroad & who my ex-boyfriend was, er, *unhealthily* interested in meeting) so I got rid of BOTH of them!!!!!!

posted March 23, 2010 09:56 PM         

quote:

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I've missed you. I don't know if its due to my MIA tendencies around here or due to the fact that you're busy scoping your friend out. I love it! Of course, you're finding attraction toward your friend a problem, but to me, it's the best situation ever. I mean, what better person to fall for than your friend? Right?

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Aww...I miss you too.

Getting back to your post.

Re: the bolded part. Oh my God, NO! It's not good, not at all! He is with someone and I can't go after him. I am not scoping him out. I am trying to avoid him, which is easy because thankfully, we don't talk too often. We've been platonic forever anyway, so I am not afraid of not being able to handle it, but emotionally it's too difficult. I could see him tomorrow and we'd both behave. We don't want to have an illicit thing. I know I don't. Anyway, I think maybe I am just confusing friendship affection for something more since I am not dating anyone right now.

Honestly, if he were single tomorrow, I'd be hesitant to get involved. I want to just be friends. We can be friends forever, but if we were more, we'd probably end up ruining everything. There's some country song that is about this and I can't remember what it's called for the life of me...haha, of COURSE there's a country song about this.

Randall,

friend or love interest?

Lyra,

I wouldn't care if she wasn't always unsupportive of me when I needed her. It seems all she does is take.

re money. I've had so many friends borrow money from me and never pay it back, that now I have a rule: I do not lend money to friends, because they won't pay it back and it ruins the friendship.

MVM,

Why do you think it will change?

I think about you every time I go on a tweezing frenzy, which just happened a few weeks ago. haha.

posted March 23, 2010 11:05 PM         

Why do I think the stuff will change? Because youre aware of it. And I just sense it will.
Plus I know that feeling of having feelings for a friend when I'm not dating. But I think it's going to change too because I just keep getting the feeling you're about to meet someone new and get into something long term sometime soon ...like maybe the early summer
Do you feel that way at all? I can usually 'scent out' when I'm about to enter something serious before the person even shows up. Do you do that too by any chance?

posted March 24, 2010 12:15 AM         

That is so effing weird

posted March 24, 2010 01:24 AM         

A plutonian like me? Oh no!

posted March 24, 2010 11:36 AM         

Hmm...Pluto isn't really doing anything in my chart anymore. In my progressed it was on the cusp on my DC because my AC/DC changed into cancer/cap. Maybe that's it...I know I talked about that.

I don't like many people. It takes me a long time to like someone, so I do not date like other people, because it feels unnatural to me. It takes me at least months, but maybe years to be attracted to someone. I rarely meet someone, think he's cute, and then date him. Makes having a love life pretty non-existent. I've only been initially attracted to two men in my entire life. They were both earth signs, but I can't find a common theme in their charts because I don't have TOB. They may have both had taurus moon, but I'm not sure due to the TOB issue.

I don't know if it's building.

posted March 24, 2010 01:31 PM         

MVM- yeah, I wanna know what happens too.

posted March 24, 2010 04:40 PM         

Cpn,

posted March 27, 2010 03:04 PM         

*shakes head at the lack of drama*