posted April 19, 2010 03:04 PM         

Just had my heart broken after 8 months with Mr Aries ( 16/04/1984). After i've supported him whilst he applied for studies in the UK, he arrives (we lived in different countries the last three months) but were living together for four months prior to that - he turns and says to me I meant nothing, it was never a relationship, he slept with women in the past month before he came. Told me I was crazy for thinking we were going to be a couple...

Gosh, he was harsh and cruel. It hurts right now as he has not acted this way before. I am better off without him. I am too naieve and believe in the good in people. I walked away from him, have cut contact.

I didn't deserve this.

Not so sparkling Sag (26/11/83)

posted April 19, 2010 04:39 PM         

I know just how you feel, as I am sure many who will read this do.

And it's difficult for a Sag, maybe doubly so, because we pin our dreams so impossibly high, higher than the rainbows, and we are so terribly crushed when they come crashing down.

IDK why men do this. If anyone knows, please spill. When you say specific things to a woman, regarding future plans and whatnot, what are you thinking???

If you don't intend on following through, fine, but how dare you tell us that we are foolish to misconstrue what you said, we are not deaf, dumb, or blind. GRRRR.

Anyway, lots of breakups right now, read in Astro, you'll see why.
Best to cut away the dead wood and make room for something better, sweetheart.

Which YOU WILL no doubt find!!

posted April 19, 2010 06:37 PM         

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If you don't intend on following through, fine, but how dare you tell us that we are foolish to misconstrue what you said, we are not deaf, dumb, or blind. GRRRR.

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Oh, I know!

Sorry to hear what you've had to deal with SparklingSag.

posted April 19, 2010 09:24 PM         

Big hugs to you. Smart girl for cutting all contact. Keep walking in the opposite direction with your head held high dear, for you aren't the one who deceived, he is.

posted April 19, 2010 09:39 PM         

I am very sorry about what happened to you.
The guy wasn't worthy of you. You're much better off without him. There are a lot of great guys out there.

You will find one for yourself

I wish you all the best

Peace

HUGS

posted April 20, 2010 04:26 AM         

Thank you for the kind thoughts. Someone asked me today "why do you end up with these men?" and I said too much faith and trust. But if you don't take a chance, you'll never fall in love. I thought this guy was decent from the time we shared our lives together. I don't want to feel like there is something wrong with me, or that I was idiot for caring for him.

I feel good for cutting contact, I have to believe I deserve better. At the moment I cannot imagine falling in love or letting another man near but I guess I need time.

posted April 29, 2010 11:50 AM         

Two weeks on and feeling MUCH better. Am seeing the whole relationship alot more clearly and perhaps more honestly.

There is someone out there who is much more worthy of my time and affection.

posted May 14, 2010 12:01 PM         

I am a firm believer in what goes around, comes around.

posted May 17, 2010 03:41 PM         

So am in the elevator at work and I press the button to go up and suddely the doors open and a guy I recognise steps in. He was an intern in a department close to mine last summer, I also danced with him at a night out last year.

I looked up at him and suddenly noticed how much more grown up he looked, how gentle and kind his eyes were. I found myself becoming all flustered! We chatted and re-introduced ourselves and he said it was really nice to see me again and i mentioned salsa night and he asked if I was going to it.

He is much younger than me though, his birthday is 1st August, 1990! He may not be boyfriend material but he certainly brightened up my day and perhaps the universe is pointing me in the direction of a positive future. For that I am grateful.