posted July 03, 2010 05:14 AM         

Sorry to hear that you/he are in such pain.

I don't know what your books say, but in this very forum, we discussed this topic just a few months ago.

Just be careful, is all.
Sometimes the act of visualizing the person, and the cutting, reactivates the energy, and they come back with a vengence.

I only know this from my own experience.
My ex was pretty intuitive in these things, and when I would do it, he would contact me usually within 48 hours or so...

He said he had dreams of me, or felt like I was calling him.

To tell you the truth the whole thing creeped me out so much, that I found the best thing to do was to try and remove him from my mind altogether.

I've arrived at a place of detachment. Maybe my Air Moon is activated finally, after 43 years, IDK.

I still think of him, and still hear from him, but it's nothing like before, and I know now that it's something I did, internally to make this change.

I quit romanticizing him and the past, and saw it for what it was.. a three year booze soaked sex romp steeped in debauchery.

It was fun though. I'll never forget, but, I moved on.

posted July 03, 2010 03:24 PM         

My GIANT eraser helps to get the mental image of the individual out of my head, thus, I think, helping to break the energetic connection that I might be contributing to by "thinking" of the individual.

blessings

posted July 07, 2010 03:02 PM         

The heart Chakra is your fourth chakra. It governs the heart and circulatory system, respiratory system, arms, shoulders, hands, diaphragm, ribs/breasts and thymus gland.

When we are having problems with our Heart Chakra it manifest in life as issues with love, grief, hatred, anger, jealousy, fears of betrayal, of loneliness, as well as the ability to heal ourselves and others are centered in the fourth chakra.

An open heart Chakra manifest first and foremost as balance. The ability to balance as it were is centered here, so if you find that you are not balanced this is a good way to address the issues. This is why love is so powerful. It is within the frequency of unconditional love that we are able to find balance, it can guide and help us when things around us are at their worst. We are the order that we seek.
The term "heart centered" comes from this knowledge. Using it properly frees our Spirit by helping us release all of our fears.
So this is why romantic love relationships are such a catalyst for healing and transformation.

The heart Chakra is Green and is linked the Earths Heart Chakra at Stonehenge.

So before you can free the chord of attachment to someone we must first love ourselves.
If you have not come to a place of self love the cord will quickly be replaced by another or the same one. Because you cannot protect yourself sufficiently...for the most part humans are defenseless on the Astral because we choose to ignore our Chakric system until something goes wrong.

Ask yourselves these questions before you began the visualizations.

What emotional memories do I need to heal?
What relationships current or past require healing?
Are my emotional wounds taking over, causing me to try and control people or situations around me?
Do I allow the wounds of others to control me? How do I let that happen?
What do I need to forgive myself for? Who needs forgiving from me?

posted July 07, 2010 04:00 PM         

I have clung onto (thoughts of)a man for 8 months now and the r/ship was only 6 months!! I wrote about it on here back in Feb (Haunted by lost love or something)

Had no contact since then but the pining has continued. I dont seem to have made any progress at all. Have been cutting the cord like mad but reading this it all makes sense

Guess I have to write out the suggestions then and get to work on my wound..sigh

Oh yes and just to add to the fun Saturn has been conjunct my mars/pluto conj. in Virgo since Oct 09 when this all started (break up that is). Other friendships, one of 10 years, have gone too

Has anyone experience of this, and if you don't mind me hijacking - is this contributing? I have felt so isolated lately but Im trying to make an effort to meet new people but it's been hard

Thank goodness it will ease off in a few weeks! (but move off over 7 other planets in the next 10 years and right through 7th)

Sorry this is so long, it all just came out.. x

posted July 07, 2010 04:22 PM         

Once you are ready this visualization will work like nobody elses business, and you will find that you no longer have relationships in your life with emotional ties that no longer server the purpose of your highest good.
Glad it resonated with you!

Express away with no apologies, thats what this forum is all about luv...

posted July 07, 2010 04:44 PM         

I have a feeling my lists are going to be long..

But you have given me a useful starting point..

Im 39 now and I guess in the past I would of went right back to the dysfunctional r/ships but this time I havent. Even tho Ive spent the last 8 months pretty much alone evenings and wknds

Its time. Time to look at stuff I'd rather not face but have to x

posted July 25, 2010 03:57 PM         

This is not really an exercise, but I wanted to share, nevertheless...

I have finally reached a place that the energy my most recent relationship has entered a "dream state." And that is how it feels to me.

When we first split, Everything was raw, all the memories, etc, and I know this kept us energetically connected, however somehow it is different now and I do not feel connected anymore.

When I look back, it is like looking back on a dream, felt like I lived it, felt real, but very foggy and hazzy and VERY disconnected.

Maybe my big-ol eraser worked afterall!!!

blessings

posted July 25, 2010 07:01 PM         

i visualize them standing in front of me and then shrink them in my mind's eye till they are small enough to stand on the palm of my hand. i then center in my heart and allow myself to experience the warmth and glow of love and when i am feeling really loving, i blow it towards them (in the palm of my hand) saying their name and inviting them to fly off out of my life to where they will be happy (or happier anyway).