posted September 06, 2010 05:29 PM         

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posted September 07, 2010 01:25 PM         

I'll just touch on three or four of the best aspects. Keep in mind these are dynamic aspects and over time will wax and wane through the passage of time.

His pSun @ 6 Taurus in an applying conjunction to your nMars @ 7 Taurus. Mars is aroused and hypnotized by the Sun.

Your pSun @ 18 Scorpio conjunct his nAsc @ 19 Scorpio. Intrigue and familiarity.

His pSun @ 6 Taurus trine your pVenus @ 5 Capricorn. Love & Romance. You love spending time alone together. This aspect promotes mutual feelings of ease in each other's company.

At this point in your life you're having a progressed Full Moon. Your pSun in Scorpio w/ pMoon in Taurus, it's a time when you find yourself far away from home & dreams of going back or is compelled to so for some reason. Or the opposite, you finally move away. In other instances the path to life is suddenly laid out & becomes clearer. As coincidence would have it, he is under the same influence, with pSun in Taurus & pMoon in Scorpio.

For one, the Sun/Moon DW denotes sexual attraction, especially with Taurus/Scorpio involved. But more importantly, you can empathize with one another. He knows exactly what you're going through, and you for him. He "feels" you. This is a great mirroring aspect.

posted September 07, 2010 04:43 PM         

We are about 200 miles apart (him in Wales and me in Lincoln) and it's so difficult to know what to do! We've resolved for everyone's sake to take it very much step by step and see what happens rather than rush into anything, except our feelings for each other are making this almost impossible! Such a strong bond between us and the love... wow!

He has an 11yr old daughter who has just started secondary (high) school and I feel it would be very wrong to uproot her and take her away from her friends if they moved to be closer to me and my son. Conversely, I don't want to take my son away from his father because I don't feel that's my right - my ex doesn't drive so it would be very difficult for them to see each other as regularly as they'd like. So we have a bit of an impass... but hey... no one said love was easy! Will just have to do what we can and trust in the process of life I suppose.

posted September 25, 2010 04:20 AM         

We met on Wednesday for the first time in a very long time and had a beautiful day together. All was love and harmony and passion and I made my decision (although I didn't tell him there and then) to move myself and my son to be with him and his daughter. The next day there was no message from him as there usually is in the morning so I sent one asking if he was ok. He replied and said that he was having a huge problem with his daughter - he'd sat her down after I left on Wed and told her about Australia and apparently she was devastated and wouldn't speak to him. Contact where I am right now is very difficult on mobile (cell) phones as the signal coverage is no good so I was sending messages but his weren't getting through to me so I thought he was ignoring me. I've phoned him to try and talk about all of this several times on Thurs and Fri but he won't answer his phone. The few messages that did get through from him say that he's in bits and is breaking hearts whichever way he looks at it. He feels he can't break his daughters because she has a very difficult relationship with her mother and has been let down very badly by her in the past so he feels double the pressure to do what he feels is right for her.

We were supposed to be spending this weekend all together but I'm on my own with my son and he's with his daughter and we're all hurting. It's torture.

I've just sent him one final message on Facebook explaining my side of things, suggesting compromises: they already go our to Australia for 1 month every year so I suggested it be extended to 2-3 months perhaps, or that the application is defered for a year whilst we have a chance to see if we can make it as a family. I know that perhaps sounds selfish of me but after all that we've said to each other and all that we planned (he was desperate for me to bring my son and live with them) it seems like the least we could all do? If they now have to re-apply after cancelling, chances are their departure will be delayed anyway whilst the application process is restarted.

posted September 26, 2010 03:53 AM         

Did you meet this guy over the internet?
I hear so many of these stories that it makes me despair of anybody being able to hook up with anybody genuine.
It is so easy to be duplicitous online.
True relationships can only be conducted face to face.
Not on Facebook and by text messaging and yet I see so many people who "think" they are in a relationship with someone because they chat online and meet up once in a blue moon.

His unbelievable cowardice to block you from contacting him when you offered him a compromise is telling.
He at least owed you a phone call even if he wanted to break it off.
You must feel utterly betrayed by his sudden coldness but I suspect (as you said) there is a lot more to this than he is telling.

posted September 27, 2010 11:26 AM         

I think I can see his side - yknow I just was to meet her on a monday and it was just 5 days before when everything collapsed. Thing is she is completely (as in truly, madly, deeply) in love with me but I am not and so a li'l more was said by me - a li'l more words - than I ought to have said, to comfort her because she was under so much pain - that I didn't love her back.

(And you know what's funny is that I did tell her once that if I say a wierd word I may have to go fetch it across the world, become a sailor maybe - the words in the sms-poem read. Yea, we both kind'a write and it was one of those really awesome - star struck relationship.)

And had it not been for all that was said - we could have - ought to have! - developed the relationship Through Real Dating as normal ppl do - because that ways two ppl fall in love TOGETHER - the steps are taken together. But when that didn't happen - and when she made her feelings plain to me - thus not giving me an opportunity to fall in love with her, too - she just made the circle I had to come around, bigger. Yknow?

She began to think we are already there - at the point where we can start living together - but it was not so - not from my side at least.

I assume that he is not as deeply, or at least not truly-deeply-madly (as the saying goes) in love with you as you are with him, right? BUT he SAW that you very very much could be the one - and most probably are the one - and so was willing to invest emotions and time in you. And the sand-castle was made - with him laughing - only he had to go home to do his homework (the transits) - and (in my honest opinion) it could be that what he has to deal with is something he can't share with you - or there would not be any point to it, yknow - plus it is something that will take time? May be the thing is that he has to come around - to go the bigger circle.

That is just the way it is with me. I am quite sure there are issues he HAS to handle/take care of as a responsible person before he can start living with you.

A constant period of dating - whenever it can happen - however it can happen - is what can salvage the relationship. In your case that doesn't seem very probable. But somehow I am sure he will come around one day. In fact I can't believe he won't just like I know I will go back to her one day when I have sorted out my messed up life.

And I think what he would need - when he does come around - is you to be there - and give him time to fall deeply in love with you are as you are in love with him. Don't go rampaging him with I-love-you's because if he doesn't love you when he hears an I-love-you the feelings are of guilt for himself, some kindness, sympathy, and li'l affection for you. But it just doesn't register in the heart as it ought to UNLESS he loves you too. (I realize I am making a lot of assumptions here. And it will be quite pointless if you go on reading ahead – but if my assumptions are correct then do read..)

But if you spend time - go watch movies - crack jokes - have a sense of humour, laugh together - that might just do it. You can just tell him its ok if he's not as much in love with you as you are with him. That you just love being around him - am sure that's what he loves - being around you. And so if that is where you have to take back the game - to let him make progress - may be that is what you'll have to do. Of course, there is then the prospect of a possible heartbreak down the years, but do you really think you’ll not risk it?
Just play the game well – even if you love him more may be you can demonstrate it in other ways – such as being patient – waiting. You can make sand-castles with him – frolic in the waves and cry and laugh – but may be it will just take him time to know the meaning of the magical word of love – but if you are around – may be you can teach him one day – among those waves, and alongside those sand-castles that there is music in the stars. Could it be that a deep memory – now long back behind him – needs to be addressed before he can fall in love with you, could it be something similar… Just love him, and be there, and one day I am sure the little girl in you will teach the little boy in him how to love.