posted March 27, 2011 10:18 AM            

Best thing is to just let go and find out.

Relax and let things happen the way they are supposed to... right now you need to focus on your health, bud! You need to be doing things, too, that make you feel good!

Take care of yourself...

Let her do what she needs to do...

posted March 28, 2011 06:17 AM            

I don't feel that she deserves you or that she has the emotional depth and maturity to understand what you are going through.

posted March 28, 2011 07:02 AM            

My brother (Pisces/Aries cusp, I'm Aries/Taurus cusp) had 4th stage cancer. It was a long haul but it's been 14 years since & he's doing fine. Of course your situation is different but I do know the stress of dealing with a loved one who is ill and how I reacted to it.

She is pulling way back. For what reason, I do not know. If it's over for her she wouldn't tell you now because she obviously cares deeply about your welfare and wouldn't want to hurt you but it is because you sense it. OR she may be struggling with the lack of control over the situation. A major illness affecting a loved one makes us feel utterly powerless and we hate that! It brings up all kinds of fears that we never allow ourselves to think about. There's somewhat of a superhero fantasy mentality in an Aries.

I would go from crying all the time to being distant just for self-preservation. You have to understand how hard it is to see someone you love suffer. Still, I'd be on you like white on rice. I can't control what happened to you but I can do __ , whatever I can to help.

Did she request space after you got sick?
Some things she said does raise red flags like how she's fine if you find a job in another city. Sounds like not so subtle hints.
I'm also not sure of the time limit and her finding herself thing. Did she put a time on it?

I don't know exactly but I will not mince words or give false hope. This isn't feeling right to me.
All the Aries I've known love hard. There is rarely any fence sitting with us.
Also, I've never asked for distance or breaks...just never felt that need.
We're all up in your face whether you like it or not!

Please don't let this stress you out too much. I know it's hard but you need to think of your health & recovery.
If it's really driving you crazy, let her know it's ok if she wants to break up. You can handle the truth, it's better than wondering & worrying. One thing I learned through counseling at the Wellness Center is that underlying stresses are the worst kind.
If she loves you,it wouldn't push her away.

You'll find cancer changes you and the people around you in very profound ways. A lot of it is actually positive. My brother feels like he lives a much more authentic life after his experience. He met a wonderful woman (Aries) soon after and they are very happy together.

Please keep us posted.

Let me know if I can help in any way.

posted March 28, 2011 08:33 PM            

She has had chances to break it off, I have given them, and stated I needed a break.

So I do remain clueless. Ugh. She does tell me to just calm my heart and says she misses me.

posted March 29, 2011 04:53 PM            

i don't have anything useful to say, and our situations are very different, but i can feel so well of this, "going through a relationship worries during a very difficult time in life, when one needs support".

posted March 29, 2011 06:18 PM            

I am a scorpio sun, female. I understand where you are coming from. Your situation is hard because more often than not, if I and others were in your position, we would want support and care from our significant other instead of he/she pulling away.
Be strong.

I agree with Betty Boop, she does not deserve you and she lacks the maturity and understanding of what you are going through.
If she is an unevolved aries, it is all about her ego and her.
But you, as a scorpio, may have a hard time letting go and will cling to her. Best thing to do is to take care of yourself and go with the flow.