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Topic: Your Definition of Unconditional Love
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Starry~* Knowflake Posts: 159 From: New York, USA Registered: Nov 2011
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posted November 30, 2011 05:00 PM
Everyone has their own views on what's love and what is lust or just infatuation.In your own opinions/words, what is unconditional love? Have you ever loved someone unconditionally? Why do humans tend to put love in a box, label it, and go "there must be this, this, this, and this, if there isn't any of these, then it isn't love." IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways Knowflake Posts: 1123 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted November 30, 2011 08:37 PM
If he is unfortunately in an accident and you haven't even been married and he is a quad and bed ridden. He doesn't recognize you anymore. Would you take care of him completely for the rest of your life, never again having any sex or love relations?That's my standard. Most people would say F that. I'm not sure I can completely live up to that, but I'll try my best.
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heartstrings Knowflake Posts: 156 From: the pineapple under the sea Registered: Aug 2011
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posted December 01, 2011 03:06 AM
you will do anything to make him happy, even if that means staying away from him and letting him go. If it makes him happy that way, I'll do it. If he found someone better, I'll accept it.IP: Logged |
mintgirl123 Knowflake Posts: 1499 From: Registered: Nov 2009
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posted December 01, 2011 05:22 AM
I had unconditional love for one of my exes. I would have done anything for him, and I don't say that lightly (apart from harming my own family lol of course). Too bad he was not ready for commitment. I still don't hate him at all, despite all he did to me. I wish him true and utter happiness, and I mean every word.IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 14389 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 01, 2011 12:17 PM
What most parents have for a newborn baby. But as the child grows, conditions arise.------------------ "The stars which shone over Babylon and the stable in Bethlehem still shine as brightly over the Empire State Building and your front yard today. They perform their cycles with the same mathematical precision, and they will continue to affect each thing on earth, including man, as long as the earth exists." Linda Goodman IP: Logged |
hippichick Moderator Posts: 942 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted December 01, 2011 12:25 PM
Being able to let go...Randall, I like what you said...and it opens up a whole nother take... Issues do arise...certainly...and alot, no I mean ALOT of parents love, unfortuantely, conditionally..."do what I say or..." etc. They "love" but can they love their child enough to let her go, to find her own way, eventually? I have learned this with my obstinate 19 year old Aqua daughter...so many problems with her..everybody abandoned her, but mom..the one she assulted and got sent to jail for. But mom believed in her, mom loves her unconditionally, when everybody else wanted me to toss her to the wolves..I couldnt. Now she is doing quite beautifully...still does things she shouldnt, but she is learning. I think unconditional love is the only real love there is~ IP: Logged |
Tofu addict Knowflake Posts: 55 From: Registered: Aug 2011
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posted December 01, 2011 01:26 PM
Yourstrulyalways, I agree with you 100%.IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways Knowflake Posts: 1123 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted December 01, 2011 06:14 PM
quote: Originally posted by Tofu addict: Yourstrulyalways, I agree with you 100%.
Thank you. It's one of those concepts that sounds great on paper, but practical reality dictates challenges in execution. If she cheats on me, I'll probably not love her... If he goes out drinking with the guys every day... If she maxes out the credit cards... If he beats the kids... there goes that fantasy of unconditional love. IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 14389 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 01, 2011 06:49 PM
Very moving, hippichick.------------------ "The stars which shone over Babylon and the stable in Bethlehem still shine as brightly over the Empire State Building and your front yard today. They perform their cycles with the same mathematical precision, and they will continue to affect each thing on earth, including man, as long as the earth exists." Linda Goodman IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 3964 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted December 01, 2011 11:04 PM
Unconditional Love islooking out for their needs first being selfless Wanting that person to be happy, even if that doesnt include you.. (and really meaning it) that person is more important than you.. IP: Logged |
anongrl10 Knowflake Posts: 2914 From: won't_disclose Registered: Sep 2011
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posted December 02, 2011 04:20 AM
quote: Originally posted by hippichick:
I think unconditional love is the only real love there is~
I truly believe this. Many people think they love somebody but it's only a projection of themselves that they see. When you see the other person and love them as they are, that's unconditional love. The moment the ego gets in the way, it's anything but love although it might still feel like one... IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways Knowflake Posts: 1123 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted December 02, 2011 10:30 AM
Anyone walking into a relationship with hopes of drastically and permanently changing another person would be in for a rude awakening. IP: Logged |
Mysticknowflake Knowflake Posts: 653 From: PA Registered: Mar 2010
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posted December 02, 2011 10:33 AM
♥Unconditional love♥Simply put, love others the way we want to be loved. No walls,no floors, no ceilings, free to be ourselves "completely" and accepted for who we truly are, flaws and all. It is very difficult to love another unconditionally as most of us can't even love ourselves that way. The only way that you will ever know if it is possible is to give it a try. I believe that practice makes perfect. So, practice unconditional love until it becomes reality. :-)'s IP: Logged |
Sublime Newflake Posts: 17 From: Registered: Jul 2010
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posted December 04, 2011 08:39 AM
Another great topic!Unconditional Love is loving another regardless of their faults, loving without the expectation that the other will feel the same about you. The essence of unconditional love is pure. One must accept the other as they are and allow them to live their journey without any interference from you. If that means you must part, so be it. Unconditional love does not involve the ego or manipulation. In fact, you must kill the ego inorder to experience true unconditional love. It does not contemplate who is right or who is wrong...unconditional love just is. One must show unconditonal love to all, though this may be difficult...in difficult situations with those I meet whom I may not want to experience a deep connection with, I acknowledge their right to be who they are, and show love by accepting them and the lesson inherent in that experience, forgiving them, blessing them and releasing them. When one exhibits unconditional love, one must be prepared to experience pain. It is trial by fire...for if you can overcome the immense pain that unconditional love may bring to you, as well as the immense joy of the experience, you may be blessed to meet your Twin Soul. Peace and Blessings to All! IP: Logged |
Mysticknowflake Knowflake Posts: 653 From: PA Registered: Mar 2010
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posted December 04, 2011 08:46 PM
Beautifully put Sublime.... IP: Logged |
Mermaid Knowflake Posts: 70 From: From the deep blue seas Registered: Apr 2011
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posted December 05, 2011 03:45 AM
Unconditional love is best depicted in the Spanish movie 'The sea Inside' which is based on true life story of a sailor Ramón Sampedro who becomes a quadriplegic following an accident.IP: Logged |
AscTaurus Knowflake Posts: 306 From: Pretoria, Gauteng,South Africa Registered: May 2009
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posted December 08, 2011 09:28 AM
Unconditional love is loving somebody even though we may not agree with what/whom they are becoming. In fact, it is especially then.... IP: Logged |
amelia28 Knowflake Posts: 1475 From: dumont, CO Registered: Aug 2011
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posted December 09, 2011 04:13 PM
quote: Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways: If he is unfortunately in an accident and you haven't even been married and he is a quad and bed ridden. He doesn't recognize you anymore. Would you take care of him completely for the rest of your life, never again having any sex or love relations?That's my standard. Most people would say F that. I'm not sure I can completely live up to that, but I'll try my best.
Its interesting. I told my husband that If I ever get into an accident and become completely dependent on him for day to day things permanently that I wouldn't want him to take care of me. That he can put me in a home, poison me or take me to my parents but that I would want him to move on with his life and remarry and be happy. I also told him that if I died I wouldn't want him to become depress and be unhappy and that I expect him to move on, be happy and remarry. IP: Logged |
amelia28 Knowflake Posts: 1475 From: dumont, CO Registered: Aug 2011
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posted December 09, 2011 04:23 PM
quote: Originally posted by AscTaurus: Unconditional love is loving somebody even though we may not agree with what/whom they are becoming. In fact, it is especially then....
I agree . Especially then because that is when they feel the most alone and need someone to love them unconditionally the most so they can heal and have the courage find their voice and use their voice. That is when they need the most support bc society doesn't encourage people to be different or have a mind of their own and unconditional love will help them find a way to express their voice and retain their individuality but in a constructive way. IP: Logged |
amelia28 Knowflake Posts: 1475 From: dumont, CO Registered: Aug 2011
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posted December 09, 2011 04:28 PM
quote: Originally posted by Sublime: Another great topic!Unconditional Love is loving another regardless of their faults, loving without the expectation that the other will feel the same about you. The essence of unconditional love is pure. One must accept the other as they are and allow them to live their journey without any interference from you. If that means you must part, so be it. Unconditional love does not involve the ego or manipulation. In fact, you must kill the ego inorder to experience true unconditional love. It does not contemplate who is right or who is wrong...unconditional love just is. One must show unconditonal love to all, though this may be difficult...in difficult situations with those I meet whom I may not want to experience a deep connection with, I acknowledge their right to be who they are, and show love by accepting them and the lesson inherent in that experience, forgiving them, blessing them and releasing them. When one exhibits unconditional love, one must be prepared to experience pain. It is trial by fire...for if you can overcome the immense pain that unconditional love may bring to you, as well as the immense joy of the experience, you may be blessed to meet your Twin Soul. Peace and Blessings to All!
Beautiful description sublime! I think you really understand the meaning of unconditional love. IP: Logged |
Sublime Newflake Posts: 17 From: Registered: Jul 2010
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posted December 09, 2011 05:59 PM
Thanks Amelia.It saddens me though that more don't understand it, but hopefully that will change. Peace and Blessings. IP: Logged |
trillian Knowflake Posts: 30 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 21, 2011 09:46 AM
Unconditional = no conditions. It's not really loving someone/something despite his/her/its faults, it's loving no matter what. It means, for instance, not demanding fidelity in a relationship, because fidelity is a condition. I'm not sure we beautifully flawed humans are capable of sustaining it. IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 14389 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 22, 2011 12:45 PM
Humans put conditions on most everything.IP: Logged |
Got Gemini?? Knowflake Posts: 191 From: The Planet Mercury Registered: Oct 2010
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posted December 23, 2011 03:32 PM
Unconditional love to me is a love that won't go away no matter what. Even if you decide a person is no good for you, you may let them go but still be in love with them. That is unconditional love to me.------------------ Gemini Sun Libra Moon Gemini Mercury Cancer Venus Virgo Mars Virgo Asc And yes, I'm a guy! IP: Logged |
Cancer/Scorpio729 Moderator Posts: 1256 From: 6,000 feet above sea level Registered: Feb 2010
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posted December 24, 2011 03:51 AM
quote: Originally posted by Got Gemini??: Unconditional love to me is a love that won't go away no matter what. Even if you decide a person is no good for you, you may let them go but still be in love with them. That is unconditional love to me.
Said like a Gemini IP: Logged |