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Starry~*
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posted November 30, 2011 05:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Starry~*     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Everyone has their own views on what's love and what is lust or just infatuation.

In your own opinions/words, what is unconditional love?

Have you ever loved someone unconditionally?

Why do humans tend to put love in a box, label it, and go "there must be this, this, this, and this, if there isn't any of these, then it isn't love."

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted November 30, 2011 08:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If he is unfortunately in an accident and you haven't even been married and he is a quad and bed ridden. He doesn't recognize you anymore. Would you take care of him completely for the rest of your life, never again having any sex or love relations?

That's my standard.

Most people would say F that. I'm not sure I can completely live up to that, but I'll try my best.

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posted December 01, 2011 03:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for heartstrings     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
you will do anything to make him happy, even if that means staying away from him and letting him go. If it makes him happy that way, I'll do it. If he found someone better, I'll accept it.

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mintgirl123
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posted December 01, 2011 05:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mintgirl123     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I had unconditional love for one of my exes. I would have done anything for him, and I don't say that lightly (apart from harming my own family lol of course). Too bad he was not ready for commitment. I still don't hate him at all, despite all he did to me. I wish him true and utter happiness, and I mean every word.

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Randall
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posted December 01, 2011 12:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What most parents have for a newborn baby. But as the child grows, conditions arise.

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posted December 01, 2011 12:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Being able to let go...

Randall, I like what you said...and it opens up a whole nother take...

Issues do arise...certainly...and alot, no I mean ALOT of parents love, unfortuantely, conditionally..."do what I say or..." etc.

They "love" but can they love their child enough to let her go, to find her own way, eventually?

I have learned this with my obstinate 19 year old Aqua daughter...so many problems with her..everybody abandoned her, but mom..the one she assulted and got sent to jail for. But mom believed in her, mom loves her unconditionally, when everybody else wanted me to toss her to the wolves..I couldnt.

Now she is doing quite beautifully...still does things she shouldnt, but she is learning.

I think unconditional love is the only real love there is~

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posted December 01, 2011 01:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Tofu addict     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yourstrulyalways, I agree with you 100%.

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 01, 2011 06:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Tofu addict:
Yourstrulyalways, I agree with you 100%.

Thank you. It's one of those concepts that sounds great on paper, but practical reality dictates challenges in execution.

If she cheats on me, I'll probably not love her... If he goes out drinking with the guys every day... If she maxes out the credit cards... If he beats the kids... there goes that fantasy of unconditional love.

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Randall
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posted December 01, 2011 06:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Very moving, hippichick.

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posted December 01, 2011 11:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lioness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Unconditional Love is

looking out for their needs first
being selfless
Wanting that person to be happy, even if that doesnt include you..
(and really meaning it)
that person is more important than you..

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posted December 02, 2011 04:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for anongrl10     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by hippichick:

I think unconditional love is the only real love there is~

I truly believe this.
Many people think they love somebody but it's only a projection of themselves that they see. When you see the other person and love them as they are, that's unconditional love. The moment the ego gets in the way, it's anything but love although it might still feel like one...

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 02, 2011 10:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Anyone walking into a relationship with hopes of drastically and permanently changing another person would be in for a rude awakening.

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posted December 02, 2011 10:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mysticknowflake     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
♥Unconditional love♥

Simply put, love others the way we want to be loved. No walls,no floors, no ceilings, free to be ourselves "completely" and accepted for who we truly are, flaws and all. It is very difficult to love another unconditionally as most of us can't even love ourselves that way.

The only way that you will ever know if it is possible is to give it a try. I believe that practice makes perfect. So, practice unconditional love until it becomes reality. :-)'s

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posted December 04, 2011 08:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sublime     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Another great topic!

Unconditional Love is loving another regardless of their faults, loving without the expectation that the other will feel the same about you. The essence of unconditional love is pure. One must accept the other as they are and allow them to live their journey without any interference from you. If that means you must part, so be it.

Unconditional love does not involve the ego or manipulation. In fact, you must kill the ego inorder to experience true unconditional love. It does not contemplate who is right or who is wrong...unconditional love just is.

One must show unconditonal love to all, though this may be difficult...in difficult situations with those I meet whom I may not want to experience a deep connection with, I acknowledge their right to be who they are, and show love by accepting them and the lesson inherent in that experience, forgiving them, blessing them and releasing them.

When one exhibits unconditional love, one must be prepared to experience pain. It is trial by fire...for if you can overcome the immense pain that unconditional love may bring to you, as well as the immense joy of the experience, you may be blessed to meet your Twin Soul.

Peace and Blessings to All!

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Mysticknowflake
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posted December 04, 2011 08:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mysticknowflake     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Beautifully put Sublime....

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Mermaid
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posted December 05, 2011 03:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mermaid     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Unconditional love is best depicted in the Spanish movie 'The sea Inside' which is based on true life story of a sailor Ramón Sampedro who becomes a quadriplegic following an accident.

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AscTaurus
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posted December 08, 2011 09:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AscTaurus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Unconditional love is loving somebody even though we may not agree with what/whom they are becoming.

In fact, it is especially then....

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amelia28
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posted December 09, 2011 04:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for amelia28     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
If he is unfortunately in an accident and you haven't even been married and he is a quad and bed ridden. He doesn't recognize you anymore. Would you take care of him completely for the rest of your life, never again having any sex or love relations?

That's my standard.

Most people would say F that. I'm not sure I can completely live up to that, but I'll try my best.


Its interesting. I told my husband that If I ever get into an accident and become completely dependent on him for day to day things permanently that I wouldn't want him to take care of me. That he can put me in a home, poison me or take me to my parents but that I would want him to move on with his life and remarry and be happy.

I also told him that if I died I wouldn't want him to become depress and be unhappy and that I expect him to move on, be happy and remarry.

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amelia28
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posted December 09, 2011 04:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for amelia28     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by AscTaurus:
Unconditional love is loving somebody even though we may not agree with what/whom they are becoming.

In fact, it is especially then....


I agree .

Especially then because that is when they feel the most alone and need someone to love them unconditionally the most so they can heal and have the courage find their voice and use their voice. That is when they need the most support bc society doesn't encourage people to be different or have a mind of their own and unconditional love will help them find a way to express their voice and retain their individuality but in a constructive way.

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amelia28
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posted December 09, 2011 04:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for amelia28     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Sublime:
Another great topic!

Unconditional Love is loving another regardless of their faults, loving without the expectation that the other will feel the same about you. The essence of unconditional love is pure. One must accept the other as they are and allow them to live their journey without any interference from you. If that means you must part, so be it.

Unconditional love does not involve the ego or manipulation. In fact, you must kill the ego inorder to experience true unconditional love. It does not contemplate who is right or who is wrong...unconditional love just is.

One must show unconditonal love to all, though this may be difficult...in difficult situations with those I meet whom I may not want to experience a deep connection with, I acknowledge their right to be who they are, and show love by accepting them and the lesson inherent in that experience, forgiving them, blessing them and releasing them.

When one exhibits unconditional love, one must be prepared to experience pain. It is trial by fire...for if you can overcome the immense pain that unconditional love may bring to you, as well as the immense joy of the experience, you may be blessed to meet your Twin Soul.

Peace and Blessings to All!


Beautiful description sublime! I think you really understand the meaning of unconditional love.

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posted December 09, 2011 05:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sublime     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks Amelia.

It saddens me though that more don't understand it, but hopefully that will change.

Peace and Blessings.

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trillian
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posted December 21, 2011 09:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for trillian     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Unconditional = no conditions.

It's not really loving someone/something despite his/her/its faults, it's loving no matter what.

It means, for instance, not demanding fidelity in a relationship, because fidelity is a condition.

I'm not sure we beautifully flawed humans are capable of sustaining it.

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posted December 22, 2011 12:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Humans put conditions on most everything.

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posted December 23, 2011 03:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Got Gemini??     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Unconditional love to me is a love that won't go away no matter what. Even if you decide a person is no good for you, you may let them go but still be in love with them. That is unconditional love to me.

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Cancer/Scorpio729
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posted December 24, 2011 03:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cancer/Scorpio729     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Got Gemini??:
Unconditional love to me is a love that won't go away no matter what. Even if you decide a person is no good for you, you may let them go but still be in love with them. That is unconditional love to me.


Said like a Gemini

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