posted January 16, 2012 11:35 PM            

It's rare to meet someone who i feel i could trust and was mature enough to have a healthy relationship with.

posted January 17, 2012 12:47 AM            

I remember being really annoyed by the idea that my wedding day had been predetermined to be the happiest day of my life, just because I was a girl.

posted January 17, 2012 04:17 AM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
@bettyboop,i totally agree with what you are saying, my opinion is that everyone is too idealistic about love,they want the magical man or woman to contain a whole bunch of qualities that no real person can ever live up to so that person is forever unsatisfied in love,take my mom for example who is in her 50s and has complained for years about not feeling loved and not being able to find a man with a stable job or ambition,and a man who wants commitment,now such a man has found my mom,he is loving,caring,a family man,and has a good job,and loves mom and wants marriage and commitment,now she just told me lastnight she will probably leave him because he is too clingy and needy,and he isnt as fun as the other men she has dated,so she has now rejected what she says she has wanted in man,she wanted a commited loving relationship,but misses the emotionally unavailable guys who were fun and spontaneous, you cant have it all,no relationship is perfect,there are always going to be dissagreements and things you dont like about someone,but you can find someone who will love you for you,but they arent going to be perfect,you just have to figure out what is the most important thing you want out of a relationship

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well-said!

Personally, I myself would rather deal with someone who wasn't as spontaneous or "fun" but who was caring, loving, and stable rather than some bad boy (and yes, those types are boys, not mature men) who didn't care about me at all and who didn't respect me, or whom I could not trust.

posted January 17, 2012 04:31 AM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
It would be nice if there were more support for women in being single (if they want to be), rather than so much focus being put on the "poor dear" aspect of it, and "it will happen when you least expect it' (if that were true, I would have been snapped up years ago).

I remember being really annoyed by the idea that my wedding day had been predetermined to be the happiest day of my life, just because I was a girl.
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Seriously, BLESS YOU for that one!

I myself feel the same way.

I hate it that a person's worth, especially a woman's, is based on whether or not she gets married and has children.

A person's worth is based on their soul beauty, in my humble opinion. It's based on who that person is in terms of their individuality and the loveliness contained within him or her--NOT on marital status or family status.

I also agree with you regarding that the whole spiel about "it will happen when you least expect it". Frankly, it very much irritates me when people say it, because it's an outright lie and creates false hope (I have a Sag ASC, Saturn, and Uranus). Telling people that will only lead to their getting heartbroken if it never happens. To me, a much more honest and healthy approach would be to teach people to love and value themselves no matter what, rather than belittle or pity those who are single.

posted January 18, 2012 10:30 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
It would be nice if there were more support for women in being single (if they want to be), rather than so much focus being put on the "poor dear" aspect of it, and "it will happen when you least expect it' (if that were true, I would have been snapped up years ago).

I remember being really annoyed by the idea that my wedding day had been predetermined to be the happiest day of my life, just because I was a girl.

I've never had a great love, though (nothing strongly mutual, so it doesn't count to me). Just a small bunch of disappointments and head-scratchers. If anything, I grieve any wasted time, that either involved one of those guys, or me feeling inadequate/depressed/etc. Although it would at least have been nice to have that first great love. My life is weird.

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Any woman who tells me they want to be single...my reaction is like you go girl and Awesome! I completely feel you, been single is fun. But when a woman tells me that they want to be in a relationship but haven't had luck so are resigning on love then I don't think to myself "Awesome, she wants to be single!!!"

It depends on the reason why a person wants to be single...there are a lot of people that are single bc they like it and want to be and every time I meet someone like that I feel really happy for them and give them a high five but Iamloved is not saying she likes been single she is saying that she is giving up on love...There is a difference.

posted January 19, 2012 03:04 AM            

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Originally posted by IamLoved:
@Woah Cake

Yes... I feel your pain!!! OMG! I loved that man soooo much and he wasn't even that nice to me.... I have an overwelming amount of compassion for him... and he reminds me so much of myself.... him in a mascaline way and me in a feminine way...

But I totally understand where you are coming from

It's like you know they could treat you so much better but like a magnet we are drawn to them anyway. I think the women have it worse then the men....

I think us women are the ones who give of ourselves more and the guys hurt us and because we love them so much we still try to make it work... but they give us the cold shoulder.

That aspect in the composite chart is not to be taken lightly!

I know there are guys who are good too! And they go out of their way to help the woman they love, I just wish I had one of those men in my life! A GOOD MAN who loves me and goes out their way for me for a change.... it's always like I'm going out my way for the guys I like.... cooking, buying them things.... making them things.... etc... When will a man go out of his way for me?

I know alot of my friends have guys who will spoil them rotten... but they also had a father in their life that spoiled them rotten, so they have been used to such royal treatment since childhood

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i think that is the problem right there (the bold).. this aspect is SUCH a ..well, vortex! it feels so amazing and ideal that everything else feels irrelevant. thus we accept shizzy treatment and/or whatever else. i dunno if it also contributes to a sense of being taken care of as well but that was overwhelmingly the m.o. of my sun/moon composite cj man when we were first together; he acted like he was going to take-care-of-me which i had never felt before and was very alluring. and i'm an extremely independent woman who never before that even felt that i wanted that type of relationship. i am very nurturing myself but i somehow felt totally safe and that there was this sacred give and take element that exceeded expectation.

my guess is that you are feeling your saturn return approaching and that after it's done your optimism about love will return. i'm already starting to feel a lot better about the relationship and its significance in my life but it's HARD because you have to mentally extract yourself from that compelling sun cj moon aspect!

posted January 21, 2012 09:40 PM            

... I have Sun Trine moon at 0.21 degrees. That's bad isn't it :P Plus there are all these bullcrap aspects and planet placements that basically have me chasing love when (it looks like) I'll never find it. And in fact repel it. I've kind of given up too because it looks like if I date Anyone, chances are I'll choose the biggest idiots around. That's exactly what's happened, regardless of how picky I'm being. And I'm only 20. :P