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Topic: Soulmates are only our lessons.
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Lioness
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posted January 19, 2012 09:00 PM
  
I strongly believe in our soulmates, and our soul contracts... You come together with this person during a specific time for a specific lesson.. You feel so deeply touched by this person, this person is the best thing since sliced bread.. The attraction is undeniable. IT cuts inside you so very deeply.. You dont want to let go, or give it up.. It just feels so right, so perfect...
Then bam.. you realize its not.. There's some sort of block being together... Its a struggle, and you want so badly to fight for it...
You do... You become obsessed with the fight,and the struggle..
What do I do?? what do I do... Your first instinct is to be selfish.. Give me what I want... Its mine and Im not leaving with out it...
You stick it out for the long haul... But in reality.. deep down, you know its not right... Something is off... Do I ignore it, or do I get what I want..
Dont I deserve what I want?? I know I do.. I know I do..
So you stay even longer, and stick it out.. Hoping and praying the block will just be fixed.. Everything just works it's self out.. right???
NOPE....
The block remains.. Your inner self, goes crazy with what do I do.. It rings in your head over and over again... Your so stuck, you cant move...
It consumes your soul....
Your stuck between what you want and whats right...
You tell your self again... I deserve to be happy... But are you???
One day.. you see the light, and feel the block as pure pain.. The block is only making you miserable.
You know the only way to let go of the misery is to let go of this person..
But you know it will hurt to do that... Plus the guilt.. Consumes you.
Your still stuck.. What do I do?????
you know the answer, BUT you cant let it go... because of the pain.... You know either way you loose... Do you lose the person, or do you lose the misery?? One day it just hits you, like a ton of breaks falling on your head...
You KNOW you have to let it all go, to rid yourself of the misery...
Only you cant... What I discovered to be able to let go.. Find the lesson.. Figure it out... Why is the misery there...
What about it makes you feel bad... There is the lesson.... Deep down you know what the problem is...
Learn the lesson, and accept it... You will feel the difference... You will see the light....
Then you tell your soulmate... Im soo outta here! You walk and never look back....
Your head will be held high, and you walk with your dignity and self respect.. If you figured out the lesson... Thats my rant for the day  IP: Logged |
anongrl10
Knowflake Posts: 3605
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Registered: Sep 2011
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posted January 20, 2012 04:11 AM
Just be aware that sometimes the "block" is not in the other person or even in the relationship.
Sometimes the block is right there inside yourself.
Cutting off the soulmate doesn't solve the problem of the "block" in this case.  IP: Logged |
lechien
Knowflake Posts: 1969
From: in a giant room with 2 little furry friends
Registered: May 2009
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posted January 20, 2012 08:43 AM
it's not about releasing in order to solve the problem of the "block" though. when one is ready to accept all the fears, the release or the "cut" comes to you naturally (doesn't mean it will be an easy ride though). the problem of the block is there as the lesson to teach our release and acceptance, so it's not the central issue, only a tool.IP: Logged |
anongrl10
Knowflake Posts: 3605
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posted January 20, 2012 09:10 AM
I agree with lechien.
Even if you cut the person thinking it's associated to the "block", this won't solve your problem.
The lesson is accepting it that it is how it is and see where this acceptance leads you. As lechien says it's not easy but that's the only way to "prove" that you have learned the lesson at a soul level.
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Got Gemini??
Knowflake Posts: 208
From: The Planet Mercury
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted January 20, 2012 11:24 AM
Nice write up Lioness! I can relate to much of that! I also agree with lechien and anon as well. In my situation, I have just accepted that she and I may possibly never be together in this lifetime. My hopes is that someday we will when our children are grown, but who knows, thats almost 18 years from now. Also, i'm probably used to it because we have this thing between us where we go years without seeing or hearing from each other and then when we do see or hear from each other, and its as if no time at all has passed since our last seeing each other. This definitely helps ease the pain and misery of us not being together. I guess its best described as, there is no sense of urgency with us. ------------------
Gemini Sun
Libra Moon
Gemini Mercury
Cancer Venus
Virgo Mars
Virgo Asc And yes, I'm a guy! IP: Logged |
IndigoDirae
Knowflake Posts: 61
From: Venice, California, US
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted January 20, 2012 06:30 PM
I'm in a similar boat to you, Got Gemini. I'm with my companion because we both owe each other and had a lot to balance on top of being brought together by my stepdaughter. I knew that from the get-go. I was there really because of her. It's not that I don't love my husband. I do. But we kinda did this all wrong, and are now trying to understand how to proceed. We're accepting a lot. He realises, for example, my long-term cowriter who's only now after 7 years confessed to me his true identity (THAT's a whale of a tale) IS the one I would've been with, if all karmic debts had been paid. Instead, the project that brought us together is what we're supposed to share with the world. I'm grateful for this, even if some days ... it's so damned hard. But, hey. If you ever wanted to see TF's performing opposite each other, especially what they've written -- stay tuned. Pilot shoots in June and the series premieres in December. I think the best thing to do is be grateful and have some kind of faith it's all going as it should. Or you'll lapse into insurmountable depression and wallow in the despair. -AMP, Waxing Poetic in Hollyweird
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Lioness
Knowflake Posts: 4089
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Registered: Mar 2010
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posted January 20, 2012 07:55 PM
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Originally posted by anongrl10:
Just be aware that sometimes the "block" is not in the other person or even in the relationship.
Sometimes the block is right there inside yourself.
Cutting off the soulmate doesn't solve the problem of the "block" in this case.
True...very very true.... Figuring out, why you even "need" this lesson, is a whole another story... So yes first you have to learn, and accept and figure out "why" this has come to you, and accept again....
So you wont get into these same type of situations again... Good advice... Great answers everyone!! Excellent.. I love it.. @anongrl10 I know you think Im crazy and that Im afraid.. Thats not the case...
The time is not good for either of us, we just cant do this right now...
I really have to get over this... I see him everyday at work, so I have no doubts that we will talk again one day.. Maybe then things will be different...
But right now, he WONT give him self to me... He wants to do his own thing.. Which is fine... I can respect that..
I have to release him, and let him live.... If one day we come together than it was meant to be.. If we dont then it wasnt..
But at the same time, I cant sit and wait you know...
I have to move on... I know its for the best and he agreed... IP: Logged | |
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