posted February 11, 2012 02:09 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Never accept manipulative, controlling and possessive behavior. That's childish behavior. You so don't deserve that.

Havings aid that, I don't see how that is Capricorn behavior. I'm a heavy Capricorn myself and I absolutely detest that behavior.

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Ian speaks my mind.
Cappies are strong-willed but they won't ignore your wishes and feelings, not if they love you!
Since I'm simply repeating myself, I will refrain from posting any longer. You need to take care and let astrology aside on this. No matter what his sign is this is unacceptable behavior. You have tried to reason with him a few times. What else are you expecting? It's written in NEON light that he is a control freak. Do you want to be with him being a control freak or not? If not, change your numbers, stop meeting him, avoid him, ignore him, take him out of your life and forget about him. Show him in your behavior that when you say "I'm breaking up with you", you mean it!

posted February 11, 2012 10:42 PM            

Scorpio and Taurus are possessive and it can translate sometimes into controlling behavior....husband has mars in scorpio but he has venus square uranus so it balances out a bit.

Cancer also tends to feel insecure and is afraid of abandonment so this can translate to possessiveness and controlling behavior too.

posted February 13, 2012 04:43 AM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
So far he has yet to be physically aggressive towards me. He claims he would never put his hands on me or use his size against me. I believe him. Judging from how he is, and how he was raised I dont think he will do this. And besides he seems to really not like my father for the reason that my father was physically abusive with my mother.

What DOES alarm me.. I seriously just thought it was a Gemini thing.. I'm not sure if it is conscious or if it is a marker of something serious, but when he is told something, centered around rejection of any kind he will say he understands but... hours later he will go back to doing the opposite of what he is told. I don't know what that is about. I really don't. He's done this three times. Once when I met him - friendship, I asked to be friends. he really wanted more. he agreed and than acted like what I said didn't happen. he did the same thing when I tried to break up with him, he acted like it didn't happen he didn't understand why I was doing this, and said we were actually fine and asked me to think about it and make things worse.. the third time, I don't really remember but it's happened.

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That is a BIG red flag.

As for him not being physically abusive, I'm going to give it to you straight: it's only a matter of time. It's a matter of 'when', not 'if', should you choose to stay with him.

posted February 13, 2012 04:46 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Never accept manipulative, controlling and possessive behavior. That's childish behavior. You so don't deserve that.

Havings aid that, I don't see how that is Capricorn behavior. I'm a heavy Capricorn myself and I absolutely detest that behavior.

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I could see this behavior in an *unhealthy* Capricorn/Cap-influenced person, but not a healthy one.

Then again, I can see it in an unhealthy person of any sign. It kind of seems to happen in some signs more than others (or, come to think of it, maybe I simply hear about it from some signs more than others), but it is NEVER acceptable.

Just because someone has Cancer placements does NOT make it acceptable for them to be possessive or controlling or manipulative. Yes, that IS a dark side potential of Cancer, but frankly those of us with those placements (and my moon is in Cancer, so I'm one of them) have the choice to rise above that. He is not controlled by his stars. They are the material that he has to work with, but HE is the architect, not them.

posted February 23, 2012 05:18 PM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
What DOES alarm me.. I seriously just thought it was a Gemini thing.. I'm not sure if it is conscious or if it is a marker of something serious, but when he is told something, centered around rejection of any kind he will say he understands but... hours later he will go back to doing the opposite of what he is told. I don't know what that is about. I really don't. He's done this three times. Once when I met him - friendship, I asked to be friends. he really wanted more. he agreed and than acted like what I said didn't happen. he did the same thing when I tried to break up with him, he acted like it didn't happen he didn't understand why I was doing this, and said we were actually fine and asked me to think about it and make things worse.. the third time, I don't really remember but it's happened.

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You set a boundary, and he acts like it never happened. That demonstrates a lack of respect. You should get out and not look back, because the fact that he "refuses" to acknowledge the breakup is a big red flag. This is the type of mentality that leads men to do harmful things in order to get you back.