posted March 10, 2012 10:13 AM            

I wanted to get some feedback. I am a Scorp female (10/25/81) and I had been dating an Aquarius male 2/4/82) for about five months. We have a very STRONG connection and I care VERY MUCH for him.

Our relationship was going well. However, some personal things occurred in my life that were not related to him but it made me act slightly different. A little more insecure and unlike the strong and confident person I typically am.

To make a long story bearable, he told me that he had thought about it and thinks that it is not going to work out bc of our "differences". I asked what differences do we have. He said little quirks. What the heck?? We went back and forth about it for about 2 hours and I finally relented.

Do Aqua men ever come back? I have read some say that I should run for the hills. What can I do to reconnect and get back with my Aqua?

posted March 10, 2012 06:24 PM            

My moon is in Libra, Venus in Sag and Mars in Virgo.

posted March 11, 2012 01:09 PM            

One thing I don't see addressed very often is that Aquarius can be just as fixed as Scorpio. Aquas are perhaps less aggressive about controlling others, but sometimes it's like... if something doesn't happen on their terms, it doesn't exist. My sister has the same sun and moon placements as your guy, and there are some things I just can't even communicate with her about because she won't acknowledge there's something to talk about. (I actually do have a pretty good relationship with her overall)

posted March 11, 2012 02:05 PM            

Hmmm.... I am debating on how to proceed. How I am going to approach returning his call.

posted March 11, 2012 04:36 PM            

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Originally posted by Malena:
I think it can work, but this individual might be a case where Maya Angelou's words of wisdom comes into play... "The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them."

One thing I don't see addressed very often is that Aquarius can be just as fixed as Scorpio. Aquas are perhaps less aggressive about controlling others, but sometimes it's like... if something doesn't happen on their terms, it doesn't exist. My sister has the same sun and moon placements as your guy, and there are some things I just can't even communicate with her about because she won't acknowledge there's something to talk about. (I actually do have a pretty good relationship with her overall)

Good luck to you in dealing with this, however it goes.

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Malena,, this is beautiful~

EVERYBODY tells us exactly who they are all of the time, but as women, we often choose not to listen~

Scorpio and Aqua? Well, like others have said, all aspects, connections, energies will play a part.

And yes, they are both very fixed, have enough of each in my Pisces sun chart to know this, absolutely!

Scorpio is often too deep for Aqua, but depth intrigues Aqua. I attract Aqua guys like flies to sheeat...I am highly Aquarian, with a Scorp asc. I have often noticed that the Aqua male likes the witch persona..I have had more than one Aqua male tell me I am a "witch" but a nautural one.

posted March 11, 2012 05:48 PM            

That's probably half the problem. I DO love him so much and we had such a strong connection.

posted March 11, 2012 07:16 PM            

They have an uncanny 6th sense and just as they feeling you pull away...here they come..

posted March 11, 2012 07:32 PM            

Ive decided not to rush calling him back and to give it some time.

This is all incredibly hard! How easily do Aquas look at themselves in an introspective way? He really needs to look at pattern of RUNNING.

posted March 11, 2012 07:59 PM            

I suggest you be straight foward and honest when you call him. Ask him why he called and what he wants, considering it seemed as if he was "done" with the relationship. Tell him you're not in for games. If he has any doubts then it is what it is, and that it's too bad he doesn't see what "could've" been great. If he wants an open relationship, he can look elsewhere.

posted March 11, 2012 08:16 PM            

He was the one who chased me and spoke on the strong connection constantly. He even talked about it to our mutual friends. I do believe that he did. I also think that he has the ability to detach and that he has a pattern of running.

He grew up in a single family household, father cheated on his mom and the household found out about it on Christmas morning when he was 13 years old. Although him and his dad still speak, I know that he stills holds feelings of resentment towards his father.

He had a long term gf throughout high school and college. She lied and cheated a lot and he kept taking her back until finally he had enough and left her. From my understanding, he has not had a LONG TERM relationship since, and that was about 6-7 years ago. Hes 30 now.

I know he wants to settle down and have a family. He is not the type to cheat or date a bunch of women. He is very loving, at tentative, and compassionate. I can easily say that he was by far the best relationship I have ever been in.

posted March 11, 2012 08:18 PM            

I have a 20 yr old Aqua daughter who does pretty good at it, sometimes..only cause her mom is always doing it.

posted March 11, 2012 08:46 PM            

He dated her through college as well. So up until he was about 24. He is now 30. In the last 6 years, he has been in relationships, but not long term, lasting 2 years and beyond.

I do not think the issue has anything to do with trust. You're right. But I think it may have something to do with a subconscious fear (I use that for lack of a better word) of failing or getting hurt or being abandoned. So, he runs and detaches before he can get TOO attached and ultimately hurt if the relationship fails or the woman leaves him.

posted March 11, 2012 08:47 PM            

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Originally posted by hippichick:
Aquas do not retrospect?introspect, much less a male one.

I have a 20 yr old Aqua daughter who does pretty good at it, sometimes..only cause her mom is always doing it.

Let him fly, energetically, if you want him to come back, if not tell him you do not want him to come back and he will definately honor your request!

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posted March 11, 2012 08:58 PM            

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Originally posted by TrueTaurus:
Blessed39,
As always, it may just be that we women are over analyzing a simple situation. I'm not sure what's going on here...the only way is for you to ask him. Honest communication is so underrated nowadays. Of course, don't make yourself too available, but try to find out what he wants.
Let us know how it goes.

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Youre so right! Lol.

I plan to call him tomorrow evening and we will see what happens.

posted March 13, 2012 12:45 PM            

I never game play, just discovered one day, that whilst letting go of a once Aqua flame, truely letting him go, he came back like gang busters.

And asking him to leave once and for all, was not a game either, I asked and he did.

posted March 13, 2012 12:56 PM            

Aqua does not function on the level of true honesty. I birthed one, I was involved with one.

They can not emote so they would rather not. Honesty opens them up to possible emotions, and they would rather not go there.

Like I said, I am highly Aquarian, I get them...

I hate to use the term "lie" but it is what they do very well, just to protect themselves from the emotion thing.

Again I say to let go not as to play a game, but be prepared, when you finally do let go, they will come back, just an energy thing.

It is like this...

Aqua jumps on his starship...takes off, goes out to fight his dragons with his light saber. He stops off for fuel and a bite to eat. Then off again to slay more dragons..my he has so much to do and the universe is SO big.

Then he wizzes by a pretty thing, makes a round to fly back and check her out. On future trips he sees her again, finally he finds the time to stop, well atleast he can stop his starship, but he is ever in motion...she tweeks his interest and he swears he will be back (one day), but he has all of these things to do!

The next time he flys by, she tries to get him to stay a bit, he does, cause he likes her, but he is ever so itching to get back on his ship and slay more universal dragons.

He begins to become uncomfortable, so he flees.

But whilst out there flying his ship, he thinks about her again, where has she gone, what is she doing???

You must let them go to be who they will be or they will be nobody to you.

I have been through enough Aqua men to know this.

One told me, he likes it (and this was a 1962 Aqua, Aqua all over, I am a 1962 Pisces...), he liked to be blown off, makes him not take the gal for granted, rather to wonder what she is doing...makes him think about her.

posted March 13, 2012 01:16 PM            

And I will say this here, too, I would have an Aqua compared to others I have entertained.

I love the Aqua witt, the level of intelligence, the non clinginess...

posted March 14, 2012 10:25 AM            

I have Mars, Merc, Jupiter in close conj in Aqua (in the 3rd) opposed tightly to Uranus, himself, squared by my Bull Moon...(all of this aspects closely my asc as well)

Then there sits my little Pisces sun, all alone, next door in the 4th~

IF I am attracted, well I am getting pretty good at paying attention after all these years to energy, cause earth attracts me too, but IF I am attracted immediately to someone, if it is dazzling and lightning-like I know I am most likely dealing with an Aqua.

But to be in a relationship with one, was truely a learning experience for me. They are so aloof, so free, infurating sometimes.

My daughters friends get so mad at her for not calling them back in days, she says, Ill talk to them when I am ready (Aqua Sun,Moon, Merc in the 8th.)The rest of her chart lies in alot of Cap stuff in the 7th, and that and her Cancer asc, sweetens and grounds her a bit.

She loves animals, has huge empathy for the homeless, etc. but she can be the darnest selfish individual I have ever seen! And lie? ooo yea!

This guy I dated years ago, had Aqua sun, Gem moon and alot of PIsces, including Mars and Venus and Acs in PIsces, which sweetened him and even gave him a little warmth, but, still ever the cool Aqua.

Lie? Yep him too, didnt find out he was married, hid it very well, for a coupla years.

posted March 17, 2012 11:16 PM            

Oh my, Scorpio girl with Libra moon! You are a deep feeling beauty who needs love and appreciation and you are WORTH HAVING THAT because you have the love to give back.

I am a Libra, Pisces moon, Scorpio venus, and I can tell you that when you have the strong heart full of love and you CHOOSE to give it, then you must also take responsibility for what that will bring you. Remember, people come into our lives because 'you have drawn them there, but what you choose to do with them is up to you.'

There is nothing wrong with giving your heart if you love & feel the other is worthy based on his actions, as this Aqua has surely appeared to be. He is making his choices also, and the only thing you can do is NOT worry so much about doing the right thing, but being straightforward & genuine and then letting the chips fall where they may. As a very wise friend said to me, be yourself, put out the love that you want and deserve, and then STAND BACK and let good things come to you. And that may not be this man.

As an Aqua w/such Gemini influence, I don't see that he can emotionally honor your needs as you deserve. If you feel it is the right thing to do for you, tell him, face to face if possible, honestly and calmly how you feel about him and what you WANT for your relationship. Then let him choose (if he hasn't by his actions already) and honor that, but recognize if he is giving you up, than he has lost the privilege of your heart. There will be others that will have what you deserve.

Be yourself, be proud of you, know that it's Ok to let your heart love & risk and also to hurt, it's worth it as long as you are being true to who you are. Have no regrets!

posted March 20, 2012 08:50 PM            

He contacted me on several occasions last weekend. Calling me back to back. I did not pick up and waited a few days to return his call.

He told me that he loves and misses me. Realizes how silly and selfishly he acted and has been empty since we broke up. He told me that he wanted me back and would do whatever it takes to make it work. He said he had never experienced a love like ours and did not want to lose it.

I thanked him for being so open and honest with me. I told him that I was not expecting such a declaration and I appreciated him being so warm. I told him that I have to processes everything he has said as I was not expecting it.