posted July 16, 2012 06:47 AM            

I don't believe in "twin flames". Soulmates, yes, but not as they're usually defined here. For me, "soulmate" simply means "The One". As in, the one person who is your best match. And for me, astrology doesn't necessarily determine that.

For one thing, people can have very similar charts, but have them manifest completely differently, especially if their upbringing, life experiences, and culture are different. There are good and bad types of every sign and placement, too, and different degrees of evolution. You can have two people with the same chart and one could be a great person, and the other a monster. Factors outside of astrology have to be taken into consideration.

In addition, you can have great charts between you, and let things get boring and complacent, and not make an effort to constantly grow deeper and more intimate (by 'intimate', I'm not referring exclusively to sexuality, but to many kinds of intimacy). You can have more challenging charts, but make the decision to love, understand, and work together as a team.

I also don't believe in dumping a partner to whom you have made a commitment for someone flashy that comes along, in most cases, unless there are serious reasons for it (such as infidelity, abuse, irreconcilable differences on non-negotiable things, if you've genuinely tried your best to resolve issues but cannot, etc).

I believe that, when someone is committed to another and a new and exciting person comes along, that new person's role is not meant to be that of a new love, but rather is meant to help that person address other things in life. The new person is meant to help the person grow and to face challenges/things that had been avoided, repressed, or otherwise not acknowledged or dealt with before that must now be confronted.

I believe that problems in a relationship should be worked out within the relationship, and shouldn't be worked out by affairs.

posted July 16, 2012 02:35 PM            

I totally agree with this. Or at least I have believed this all my life until recently, when I started thinking about twinflames. I agree though, in the end it's all about the real commitment & love, not a label (twinflames&soulmates).

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Originally posted by violet7887:
Anchi, I will try my best to put my feelings into words.

My soulmate knows me very well, he knows perfectly how to take care of me, my likes my dislikes, what comforts me.

My Twin is a part of me.The part I need. He is the Question and all the answers, the why. I excel within my self and beyond with him.

My soulmate is another always standing by me to help me, guide me from his knowledge and heart.

My twin feels as if he is me, his thoughts are my thoughts, his actions are my actions, his soul is my soul.

When I met him, something deep in me opened . Him, his essence, his energy his actions his vibe, his mindset was like me in another body.

When I met my twin, I went through a transformation. I can say all i have been in my life before him was a setup to be prepared for him, to be prepared for the real me. That is what it feels like.

My soulmate is a perfect companion for life but the worth of this to me now is lacking as I feel this feeling of completing something which is unfinished.He gives me love and and understands what he must for "we' as a couple but does not understand "I" as a whole.

My twin feels like the other peice of my "I"

In regards to how will you know if another being is your twin?

you will know.you wont have been more sure of anything in your life. Your feelings for this person will be such you will find it impossible to explain or put into words. It will be a limitless love. Even if your mind tries to block what your soul is telling you EVERYTHING around you, inside you will tell you, show you. There will be signs everywhere, you might have dreams. You can physically feel the person very strongly once they exsist in your life. Your emotions are in sync with them always.

You might have always felt you were looking for something from a very young age,like you were missing something or you missed something very very badly but you did not know what and you [b]knew you would find it.I sometimes use to cry out no where for no absoulute reason when i was looking at certain things and especially when I was alone comtemplating. I use to get this strong feeling of missing someone and i would cry and cry. When i met him that overwhelming feeling came to me again. I would feel this heavy hurt and miss him and crry and cry. I realized it was him that I missed all this time. When you see them or meet this feeling reveals itself. You know you have found it.You will feel balanced, at peace. Like you were waiting for your purpose and evrything is limitless from now... I crave him.Twin soul also might come into your life very unexpectedly or when you are going through something emotionally significant.

If one crosses paths with their twin soul it will be crystal clear.All the mssing links will add up. Your world will be like a fast core-changing light and as still as infinity.

yes, I have questioned the concept of 'twin soul' many times but everytime I have something has always lead me to believe in it. Evrything I have seen so far has only made me believe it in my heart and soul.

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posted July 17, 2012 02:28 PM              

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Originally posted by Ceridwen:
But I really mean it, in the end, you need to find out whom you love and who loves you. And that is something no other person can do for you.

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You are correct.
After letting time pass..

I think the twinflame is a better person
The soulmate is stuck...

It's not only LOVE

it's
availability
history
situation

...and how much they are willing to work at the relationship and at growth.

posted July 17, 2012 02:30 PM              

Thanks for writing out your feelings so clearly! I can relate!

@ Regardes & Anchi!

Thanks for your inputs also! Good food for thought.

Ps: regardes, it's not an affair, it's not about sex! And there isn't committment yet. This was a hard decision but sometimes you gotta leave someone behind. My soulmate forced my growth thru a lot of pain!
My twin is pure love!

That's the difference. I am willing to let go my soulmate lovingly and keep them as a friend no matter.

posted July 18, 2012 02:14 PM              

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Originally posted by Fleurdelis:

You are correct.
After letting time pass..

I think the twinflame is a better person
The soulmate is stuck...

It's not only LOVE

it's
availability
history
situation

...and how much they are willing to work at the relationship and at growth.

At this point in time, my choice is clear. I choose the twinflame.. they are much more of an evolved person, and they are available.

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posted August 19, 2012 12:59 AM            

I currently feel this way towards an old friend and I updated my thread about it: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum10/HTML/003837.html

posted August 25, 2012 02:11 AM            

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Originally posted by Fleurdelis:
There's a question I need to ask.

Let us say you have been with your soulmate for a long time. Your soulmate is just like you in every way. You are very compatible..

But some time later, you actually meet your twinflame. The twinflame, is different.. they are your polar opposite, but extremely complementary to you in every way.

Here is the catch: Your twinflame, is the ONLY one in the universe made for you. They are the split half of your soul.

The soulmate, however, is and has been your partner for so long, and also in many incarations.

Who would you choose?

Note that you almost do NOT feel like you know your twinflame.. You actually FEEL closer to the soulmate since you have been with soulmate for so long. But twinflame, is yet still your DIVINE counterpart. There is only one.. "THE ONE"..

Would you 'betray' and leave your soulmate for your twinflame?

It is your call.. who would you choose?

Your twinflame is here with you for spiritual evolvement.. but you won't kno where it will take you. This also involves abandoning your soulmate, the one whom you have promised to love forever... into the dark abyss.. would you bear it?

How BIG is this dilemma.. anyone been through this, and any solutions?

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posted August 25, 2012 05:54 PM            

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Originally posted by Simunye:

Anybody not belonging to us belongs to somebody else. If we hold on to the wrong partner, we not only miss our own chance for completion and happiness but also mess up our partners chance to find their TWIN-SELF. By setting him/her free and wishing them to find their other half, we deserve what we wish them.
So if anybody is in a predicament to choose, ask God/the universe/your higher self for your partners TWIN-SELF to be send to him/her and then separate in peace. Ask and you shall receive!

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posted September 16, 2012 02:10 PM            

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Originally posted by Fleurdelis:
There's a question I need to ask.

Let us say you have been with your soulmate for a long time. Your soulmate is just like you in every way. You are very compatible..

But some time later, you actually meet your twinflame. The twinflame, is different.. they are your polar opposite, but extremely complementary to you in every way.

Here is the catch: Your twinflame, is the ONLY one in the universe made for you. They are the split half of your soul.

The soulmate, however, is and has been your partner for so long, and also in many incarations.

Who would you choose?

Note that you almost do NOT feel like you know your twinflame.. You actually FEEL closer to the soulmate since you have been with soulmate for so long. But twinflame, is yet still your DIVINE counterpart. There is only one.. "THE ONE"..

Would you 'betray' and leave your soulmate for your twinflame?

It is your call.. who would you choose?

Your twinflame is here with you for spiritual evolvement.. but you won't kno where it will take you. This also involves abandoning your soulmate, the one whom you have promised to love forever... into the dark abyss.. would you bear it?

How BIG is this dilemma.. anyone been through this, and any solutions?

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I think you've got them mixed up. All the sites I've ever read say that your twin soul is exactly like you. Which makes sense if you believe that your twin soul is basically the other part of you that was split off or whatever. They won't be the exact opposite of you.

Soulmates, can be very different from you, but there's still that pull towards them and a tie or a bond, only not as intense as with a twin soul.

Also, soulmates are about spiritual evolution - you meet up with them to learn things about yourself and life and grow as a soul. When you're done with all that, that's when you meet your TWIN soul. Soulmate experiences are growth experiences. Twinsoul ones are not.

posted September 20, 2012 10:56 PM            

But, based on your definition.. I have already lived this. I was with a partner off and on since I was 14. They were someone I shared everything with. But, one day we ran into an old friend of his. I was instantly attracted to this person. For months we merely became friends.. but the energy I felt toward this man was so strong. Eventually I felt bad in having feelings for someone else.. I ended the long-term relationship. And my partner now, the my ex's friend, wanted me. Imagine that!

posted October 15, 2012 09:34 PM            

Remember, treat a "twinflame" relationship like any other. They will test you. If you wouldn't put up with a regular person's crap then don't take theirs. It's a test of the soul. Let them go & if they're meant to be they will come back to you.

I've done so much research in this area to know, that a lot of people that leave their soulmates for a twinflame aren't always happy. So, make sure that you are judging everything with your heart. If they treat you bad (your twinflame) then leave them & let them be. Lead your life how you were. If they come back to you, then it's meant to be. Simple as that.

posted October 16, 2012 02:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Fleurdelis:
Does anyone know any instance where one would pick the soulmate instead of the twinflame?

For instance...

The soulmate, would never find anyone else after you..

While the twinsoul, they hardly know you, so the break would not be so bad? And they can also find their soulmate?

Wouldn't that be a happily ever after?

On what basis, should you friendzone your soulmate, who, didn't do anything wrong, just to pursue a twinsoul? Is it fair for the soulmate to be left behind like this?

any takers ?

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posted October 16, 2012 09:06 PM            

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Originally posted by Gabby:
I'm sorry but id chose my soulmate...ive felt alone my whole life, i need to finally be accepted a soft place to land, i dont need more growth, and if i do, i need to be loved in order to grow any more!

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posted October 29, 2012 07:44 AM            

Your twin flame is the other half of you. Once you meet that person you don't feel right in your own skin without them anymore...

Comparing a Twinflame connection to a Soulmate connection is like comparing a flashlight at 2am in the dead of winter to the light of day on a hot summer afternoon...there is no comparison. IMO, if you feel like you have a choice (because you have the option to be with either) between your SM and the person you think is your TF, it's not your Twin.

I've met my Twin and by his decision (he's terrified of "us" right now) we aren't together and it tears me apart every day. My bff once told me "If you don't love your fiance enough to forget about your feelings for CSH (my Twin), maybe you don't love him the way you need to to marry him." A more untrue statement could never be made. My fiance is one of my soulmates and I love him with all my heart. But CSH is my Twinflame and if/when he decides that he's done running and is ready to be "us" again I can't say for even half a second that I would deny him...