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Aquacheeka
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posted August 28, 2012 10:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aquacheeka     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Dreaming111:
I'd say that the pont of the argument is of no matter. You could tell him you don't like rainbow furniture and he should understand that. I mean, at the end of the day, what is more important the rainbow furniture or you being happy with him?

Sometimes we hang around old flames because we have this hope? That maybe we could get back together or make them come crying home.
Other times it's to make the new partner jealous. Or jsut to prevent from being lonely. Maybe he has been talking to them since breaking up and it's hard to jsut cut them off for you. I see a problem there if that's something you dislike.

I mean, if your guy would be your potential husband, I would think you would mean more to him then random exes. But if they mean as much to him....it's a sticky situation. He just might be too stubborn to sacrifice them for you.

He's being plain unfair and stupid. Sorry gotta say it like it is. You don't put anyone above the person you love. Either he's immature or just not that into you or he's hooking up behind your back....it might jsut be an emotional hook up. Who knows?



I actually think this is an extremely paranoid and unhealthy way of looking at it.

My ex is my best friend. To ask one's partner to give up their best friend because of your own insecurity is actually really selfish.

Gwen Stefani and Tony Kanal are best friends, exes and band mates and she wrote the song "Cool" about their relationship and continued friendship. She is now happily married to Gavin Rossdale.

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ariesdragon
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posted August 28, 2012 10:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ariesdragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That's a great song ^^

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cappy1277
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posted August 28, 2012 01:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cappy1277     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
it's not an issue of insecurity for me. It's knowing the MO of both females that upsets me. He says he has all the control but to keep entertaining them to keep them at bay is disrespectful. What they want to do is to create a divide, something they may well succeed in at this point, because to me, the best thing for him to is cut them off. Anything after that, let the chips falls where they may. I don't care much what happens after that as long as they stay respectful. But let me know that my feelings matter more than theirs. There is not much understanding on any woman's part to want to put up with that. For all I know, he's lying so why stay between something that I can't understand. I live in philadelphia but it is a small world here. Cliques run large here and eventually I am going to run into them...do you really think plutonian types are going to keep their composure when they see me? The cat is going to come out the bag if he is not on the up and up.

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cathy
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posted August 29, 2012 01:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cathy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Cappy, you are'nt being unreasonable. I don't think there's any reason to stay in contact with Exes.

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cappy1277
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posted August 29, 2012 03:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cappy1277     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks cathy...even with my Venus Aquarius you would think I could see some reasoning, I can't budge lol

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lilithpluto
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posted September 02, 2012 04:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lilithpluto     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I only keep in contact with one ex. That's because I know he does cares for me during and after the relationship. He shares his soul/thoughts with me within weeks of us knowing each other. He's the only one so far I know who is sincere, values me and not break my heart to pieces conveniently. Of course, circumstances does not allow us to be together and I dun love him that way anymore even if he still does.

The rest of the ex are mere strangers who I dun want to think of anymore because they wre careless with my heart..

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