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Lovex
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posted December 07, 2013 05:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lovex     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi,

I had a small nice relationship with a virgo guy but we are not on talking terms for almost two months.
I spoke to him about all the misunderstandings about ten days back and we are sort of doing hi hello to each other. It was all settled.
Lately, i realized that i really love this man but i don't know how to go about it as he does not show any emotion nor he speaks up. i have no clue what is going on his mind but i want him back.
He is currently single and likely to be for couple of months at least.
How should i approach him 'coz he does not seem to take any initiative to talk?
Should i keep bugging him like once a week or should i take a back step and wait for him to make a move?
Would being romantic work for him?
Letting him go is no option for me. I will try my best at least.

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Randall
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posted December 07, 2013 09:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Welcome!

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Swift Freeze
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posted December 09, 2013 07:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Swift Freeze     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello Lovex.

It sounds to me like you already know you don't want to let him go, since it's "not an option for me".
If you really love this man, do you want to let what you have end before you let him know?
Really, the only way to know what someone is thinking or feeling is if they tell you.
With that in mind, you could ask to talk to him, and just ask him to listen and tell him how you feel.
From my perspective, I would say be the initiator.

I don't know the situation between you two, so I don't really know what else to say, unless you feel comfortable talking a bit more about it. He may very well feel strongly about you as well.

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airfairy
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From: Austin, Texas, USA
Registered: Nov 2013

posted December 09, 2013 02:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for airfairy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi!

My best friend is a Virgo. Also, my current crush is a Virgo.

If you are getting at least a basic response, you are on the right path. As long as he is not outright ignoring your messages and texts, he at least doesn't dis-like you.

Virgoans move slow. He may still consider you a potential girl friend, but he is comfortable taking it VERY very slow, especially since you are the one making the advances in communication.

Some may say take a step back and see if he comes to you, but with Virgos, in my experience it is best to be genuine, caring, and straightforward. Unless you are seriously wanting to stop talking to him, don't play games. It will be just as easy for him to think, "well, that's that I guess." and continue doing the routine single life as it suits him.

You should set your intent. If it is to make him your man, go for it. Send him funny articles or videos, text him and ask him for a recommendation for a good restaurant. Make yourself a part of his daily life.

None of this matters unless you make yourself present physically as well. Think of an event that you'd like to do with him, then ask him if' he's free on Friday and if he wants to go! Voilá! A date in which you can show him how fun you are to be around. That, coupled with sweet interactions through email or whatever, and youre set.

Virgo wants to be sure, wants to wait until he trusts you, so you have to SHOW him that he's safe with you.

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sugarflapjacks
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From: southeasternseaboard
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posted December 12, 2013 07:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sugarflapjacks     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Welcome, Lovex.

Were you guys a couple or just friends?

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grayblue
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From: Orlando, FL, USA
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posted December 16, 2013 12:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for grayblue     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Funny, I am in the same exact situation.
I was with this Virgo guy for about a month. During this time he was more attentive, caring, loving than all the other man before him put together.
I mean he reached out, he cooked for me, he cared for me when I was sick, he even took me on a cruise!
Then, all of the sudden he asked to be alone because he had to deal with some issues. I'd sent brief messages asking if he was ok or whatever until one day I got him talking so I asked if "we" were ok.
The answer? We should just be friends. "At this point in the relationship I should be missing you more than I do"
So yes, I'm heartbroken and I want him back BADLY. I truly believe he is the man for me. Not only because of the things he did but because we got along and connected on every level.
I am lost and don't know what to do

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fushialove
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posted December 29, 2013 08:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fushialove     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by grayblue:
Funny, I am in the same exact situation.
I was with this Virgo guy for about a month. During this time he was more attentive, caring, loving than all the other man before him put together.
I mean he reached out, he cooked for me, he cared for me when I was sick, he even took me on a cruise!
Then, all of the sudden he asked to be alone because he had to deal with some issues. I'd sent brief messages asking if he was ok or whatever until one day I got him talking so I asked if "we" were ok.
The answer? We should just be friends. "At this point in the relationship I should be missing you more than I do"
So yes, I'm heartbroken and I want him back BADLY. I truly believe he is the man for me. Not only because of the things he did but because we got along and connected on every level.
I am lost and don't know what to do

Wow this is so much like my situation. But with our connection I can still sense his feelings and I know they havent changed. He just isnt talking to me. And hes a virgo as well. I am a taurus

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Icygrace
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From: Mumbai, Maharashtra, India
Registered: Jan 2013

posted January 01, 2014 11:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Icygrace     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by fushialove:
Wow this is so much like my situation. But with our connection I can still sense his feelings and I know they havent changed. He just isnt talking to me. And hes a virgo as well. I am a taurus

I'm a Virgo. I think I can understand his actions. There maybe something in your manner of speaking or behaving, which might have made him believe that you don't care for him pretty much even when you do.
I suspect this might have been going on for a while, at the beginning of the relationship itself! This is the downside of being a Virgo. We think too much, we over-analyze a single gesture or a statement. This creates a seed of doubt in our brains which only gets strenghtened with time if left unchecked. And these sorts of things aren't spelled out by us, we rather deal with it ourselves.

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