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posted March 21, 2014 02:47 PM            

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The Aries man.

I cannot get him out of my head!

What is the matter with me???

I'm actually sitting at work, knowing he's just on the floor below me...and I'm stir crazy.

I think I'm losing my mind. =/

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posted March 21, 2014 08:00 PM            

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Are you by any chance a Libra?

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posted March 22, 2014 01:27 PM            

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It will get better.

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posted March 22, 2014 03:45 PM            

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It's understandable. Us Aries are fab.

Ahh don't beat yourself up about it. So he's hot and he's on your mind. Might as well have him in front of you for coffee. He might appreciate you taking initiative.

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posted March 23, 2014 02:31 PM            

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Have you spoken to him lately?

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posted March 25, 2014 08:22 AM            

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I'm actually a Sagittarius...

And I did send him an email last week with a video and song for his birthday which was this past Sunday...he did reply and thank me for it but that's about it. That was the first communication since the 11th of Feb.

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posted March 25, 2014 11:07 AM            

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Well, you have 3 options:

1. Do nothing and continue to feel like this
2. Forget about him (somehow!), go out clubbing, partying etc
3. Ask him to lunch.

Sometimes we attach all sorts of expectations to our gestures and the receiving person might be caught up in something else and not get the message. How are you gonna know unless you ask? If he's not into you (his loss btw), at least you'll know how you stand, you'll get closure (very important) and you'll move on to someone else. Someone better.

See, simple!

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posted March 25, 2014 12:38 PM            

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Thank you Dancing...it's a bit more complicated than just asking him to lunch tho..I wish it were not..but it is...and it's not complicated as in, we are both married, because we aren't..and neither one of us is in a relationship...we were beginning one, but some things happened and alas...here I am...sitting and wondering... LOL! The ponderer...classic SAG! LOL

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posted March 25, 2014 12:39 PM            

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Here's the whole sad story Dancing..
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum10/HTML/004823.html

ps I really hope this link works!

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posted March 26, 2014 12:33 PM            

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We are talking again...SQUEALS!

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posted March 26, 2014 02:17 PM            

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Ok, so I read the thread and I have slightly changed my opinion. As I was reading I wondered if he might have a Mars/Saturn hard aspect because he really acted like one. Aries23Degrees fortunately listed his placements and aspects so he has the opposition and also a square to Pluto. If you're interested, there are 1-2 topics in Astro 2.0 about that aspect. I have it too, and I also have Saturn in Scorpio and Mars/Pluto hard aspect.
To me it sounds like he was initially very interested (you don't text 300 times/day to someone you're indifferent to), but was probably put off by something you did or said that made him think you're not such a good match. Before you take this personally, you might like to know us Mars/Saturn people carry a lot of baggage that can be triggered randomly by people we come in contact with and we react as if we were reliving the initial trauma, but project it onto the person in the present who triggered it. It could really be anything, not necessarily something bad that you did or said, so don't go feeling guilty. When that happens to me, I retreat. I shut down. I stop contacting people. Sometimes it lasts a little bit too.
I am glad you guys are speaking again, however do become informed about Mars opp Saturn and Mars square Pluto before you get more attached to this man than you already are. You've been through enough heartache, you don't need another one. Also please make sure you're not going through some Neptune transit that might make you offer yourself as the sacrificial lamb to save him with your love - it does not work like that. I am sure he has a lot of qualities, but please put yourself first. He gave you a few red flags already, don't assume he will just change. You will relive this scenario over and over whenever his issues get triggered. Is that how you want your life to be?

Also, don't freak out. He is not the last man on earth. Don't lose hope on finding the right one.

((( hugs )))

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posted March 27, 2014 08:07 AM            

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Oh Dancing..you are so precious and I appreciate so much you taking the time to read and respond to this. And it's tuned me into a lot of things I had not thought about that makes PERFECT sense...especially to how he reacted before. Especially based upon some things he shared with me about past experiences...

So that said, I'm playing this by ear I suppose...he blew my phone up again yesterday which I was not really expecting LOL! But he texted me from about 2pmish I guess until after 11pm last night! I was a bit exhausted to be quite honest LOL! And I couldn't keep up with him LOL...

So...we'll see what happens...I've had an interest in him since I first started working at the same place as him, which was October of 2012...I've patiently waited and maybe it will pay off. Maybe not. Only time can tell. As much as I want to predict and see the future not much will reveal itself to me. Divine intervention possibly...but I never considered myself to be a patient person, I've proven myself wrong in that aspect.

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posted March 28, 2014 12:36 PM            

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Good luck, Amanda! I wish the best for you!

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posted March 28, 2014 01:35 PM            

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Thank you Dancing! You are so sweet...

I'm not holding my breath on this, but I've just decided to go with the flow and see what happens this time...we have chatted about maybe seeing each other tomorrow night so...crosses fingers! He is SOOOO hesitant to even commit to a date. It actually makes me laugh. Because my intuition on this is screaming in my ear that he is hesitant because he's afraid of repeats of his past relationships, which I don't believe are that many from things I've gathered. And I understand that fear as I don't want to be hurt either. I'm afraid too..but I am willing to stick my toe in the water..just a toe. LOL

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posted March 28, 2014 02:17 PM            

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I followed your original thread and see I posted my opinion too. lol

So you haven't spoken for over a month and now he's texting you as much as before all of a sudden? Personally I'd put my foot down, it's a bit presumptious of him that he assumes you will give up your whole evening to text him just because he feels like communicating with you again. I'd put someone straight on that.

Just a thought though - maybe the fact you work together has put a halt on him actually pursuing anything romantic with you. That could be potentially dangerous for him, especially if he's in a position of seniority in the company.

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posted March 28, 2014 03:55 PM            

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Hi Jo! Yes, you sure did!! And you know, I agree with a lot of what you said...especially about calling the shots...but you know...I'm a lovable (actually my name does mean worthy of love), sweet, caring person however if someone just keeps poking me like a dog and stick, eventually I'm going to bite. And then I will prance away wagging my tail in the wind...

They don't call us Sags fire signs for nuttin! LOL!

But on a serious note, I am just sitting back being curious but holding the heart tightly this time. And if it goes well, great and if not, HIS loss.

And yes, our positions are very different at work, which is something we have come to an agreement on, this is personal and has no business on the job. Which isn't a problem for ME because I need my job too much for that crap.

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