posted May 25, 2014 09:17 PM            

Still love each other!
Still living and working together
Still happy
Still having hot sex/sex acts every day ALMOST. Maybe there is a day when we work too hard and don't get around to it, but for the most part, yes!

BIG SIGH well we've had a few lousy rows. But never violent, and no screaming at each other. I'm impressed with his ability to forgive me so quickly. He likes to forget that arguments happen, too. I'm a little slower to come around, surprisingly. But he can be cruel with his words, and he can be extremely controlling and domineering. However he likes to bring me flowers and make love to me to get me to warm up to him and be sweet again.

The funny part is, he thinks I AM trying to dominate HIM sometimes. And he has accused me of being "dishonest" when I "think" that he's being an a**hole but I don't tell him. HE tells ME when he doesn't like some part of my behavior, so shouldn't I return the favor? I don't always, because I know he's sensitive and then if I make a statement, he'll get into an exhausting, drilling questionnaire about the hows and whys.

I have a tendency to correct him when I think he's incorrect about some sweeping statement. He's very judgmental and opinionated. Not like I am never; but I tend to try to maintain objectivity. I'm sure he'd say a lot to defend himself, so I won't write too much more about his "faults." Since we had a blowout where I informed him that he has been somewhat mean to me off and on in our relationship, and he was surprised that I hid my opinion about that from him, he has actually tried to be nicer on a day to day basis! What a sweetheart. Now and then, since our bad row, he will ask me "Am I being nice enough?" I found it rather cute. He's wonderful and I adore him. Still SO SO romantic and affectionate. But yeah! WHen he gets totalitarian on a matter in our lives, usually work-related, I have to concede or we will get into a kind of "Mexican Stand-off" of wills that is romance-killing and usually has him accusing me of...

Get this!

"acting like a MAN"!!!!

If you'll recall, I'm a Leo Sun, Aqua Moon, Sag Rising and he's Scorpio x 6 planets. I have a Mars in Scorp just like him, so my will is strong, too. Sometimes I feel like I am more unyielding and stubborn that he is! I'm not bragging. I feel sort of unbalanced and less zen, lately, and I can tell he notices and wants me to be happier and more like I was when we first got together. So we joined the gym up where we moved (in the country in Northern California) and worked out together and it felt great, so we're going to keep that up.

I'm struggling more and more with my personal freedom. "They say" being in a romantic relationship with a Scorpio can feel like being held hostage. I concur, but I know that would **** him off and make him disagree. He hates "being misunderstood" and he doesn't view his romantic personality in the same way as I view him. Still, there are so many boons to being with him. He wants me around constantly and makes me the center of his world. What woman would complain about that?? He's very sexual and makes me feel desired and beautiful. He won't hesitate to tell me if he thinks I look pretty, even if I am makeup-less and tired. And he shows absolutely no interest in any other woman. My ex boyfriend, the double Gemini, never hesitated to cheat and lie to me, so this is a very nice change. He is so emotionally attentive, that it actually makes me WANT to please him in all ways possible; for example, I will satisfy him sexually, make him coffee and a healthy breakfast, serve him, do the dishes immediately and do our laundry all before 10am (on a good day). He loves it. To his credit, he will actually cook and clean for me too! Just not as often as I do. But he's a good cook, and it is nice to relax and have him say "I'll cook dinner, Honey," and be served, myself, about once a week.

There was only one really weird and uncomfortable thing that happened between us about three weeks ago that is embarrassing to mention. I'll try to keep it simple and blunt. I was in a bad mood and he was getting on my nerves. My bad mood affected him and we became argumentative. We had a little row, and then he calmed us down by reminded me that we love each other, etc. I became more docile, and when we cuddled he looked down at me in a soul-searching way. I felt sheepish, and then made the mistake of joking, "I should be punished." Well, he agreed and became rather masterful, and what started as consensual became an extremely painful experience that felt...well like sexual abuse. I didn't tell him no, and I didn't ask him to stop, but he hurt me so badly that I cried for a brief moment. Afterwards he apologized a few times even though during the thing he did to me, he was silent and cruel. I came out of it NOT hating him, and I didn't really feel psychologically damaged or anything. He didn't physically injure me, I found, or leave any (lasting) marks. I found that I wasn't angry with him about it, and my feelings weren't REALLY hurt. So although it was weird, I forgave him and he hasn't done anything like it, since. I suppose it was just one of those things...We talked about it more, later, and I told him that I didn't like it and he said he wouldn't do it again. Ok that was difficult to write, but even so, I don't fear him and I've moved on.

All in all, I love him very much and am dedicated to making it work. 90% of the time it's effortless and pleasant. He tries, he really does. Recently he was very adamant about me covering up when we went to go swimming in the pond on our property; he didn't want his male workers to see me in a bathing suit. But later he said he felt stupid and needs to get over it, even though I was like "Ok fine" and put a T-shirt on over myself. The guys were busy and couldn't even see me swimming anyway! I didn't tease him or argue then, because I just accept the fact that he's possessive sometimes and it's not a big deal to me. Dealing with a Scorpio isn't nearly as bad as astrology descriptions make it out to be. I knew what I was getting into!!

posted May 28, 2014 08:14 PM            

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Originally posted by Watercolordaydream:
I am also a Lioness that's very much in like with my Scorpio man. We are currently doing this endless back and forth dance for almost 2 years now because of his deep seeded trust issues. He drives me crazy, but I cannot seem to let him go. He has 5 planets in Scorpio and boy, this man is a hard shell to crack, but I am learning to love him more each time he opens up. This things we have is definitely not for the faint of heart and I am learning to be more patient. Thanks for posting- it gives me a little bit more hope

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Hmm well here are the pros to Leo female/Scorpio male in my humble opinion:

#1 We're both fixed and therefore capable of lasting love.

I'm a Leo II and I read our problem in love is letting go of a ****** relationship. Apparently we hang on. Being a Dog (1982) makes it worse. But I think that a Scorpio would find this comforting. I have paid close attention to my Love's stories about previous girlfriends, and it seems like he easily dumped the girls with whom he was not really in love, or with whom he found sub-par, but the ones he actually loved he portrays as "crazy" and seems to hate, probably because they actually got away. This is a guess. It's also partially based on logic and experience because, when we argue, and I try to step away for that famous fire sign "cooling off time" where I can curse out loud without hurting feelings, he STOPS ME. And convinces me to come back. It's bad: I need to communicate with him that letting me go away when I'm angry is actually a good thing! because I'm going to say something mean. And I DON'T like hurting him, it makes me sad. But I NEED to get away to cool off. He doesn't understand. So I'm working on either a. not every getting so frustrated that I'm heated or b. making him agree to a "safeword" or some sh*t so I can have my space to cool. But back to the point: He hangs on even MORE tightly than I. We have never split up. We have yelled at each other that we would, but then he backtracks when I try to get away for a cooling off period. He already knows about my past relationship and how I hung on to a cheater/liar because said cheater/liar would apologize and tell me he loved me to get me back. I know he plays on that sometimes, but he doesn't stick to his bluff and always (gently thank goodness) grabs my arm or blocks me to prevent me from fleeing. I understand that looks bad and I will work on how we can manage to cool off without that happening. It has happened about 3 times. BUT surprisingly he forgives and forgets faster than any man I've ever been with. Does that mean he's crazy? I don't know. He could be highly evolved. That also wold explain it. Either way he acts like he is going to marry me and love me "forever" and I want the same...for sure. I just want to be sweet enough not to let my RAGE take over when he offends to to that point. Because I don't really think he means to.

#2 We're both high maintenance and crave luxury.

My Scorpio darling was a winner his whole life. He excelled at everything. EVERYTHING: sports, school, girls...everywhere he went he was The Best. Relatively speaking. He's a privileged Upper Middle Class East Coast boy. I consider myself pretty humble but I have achievements up the yin-yang. Also got nominated (but didn't win and didn't care) for Homecoming Queen in high school. Graduated from a University with a 3.94 GPA and only because I got 3 A-s and my 5 A+s didn't cancel them out. Blah blah blah the point is, when I was 21 I received a large sum of money due to inheritance (RIP Dad) and went from poor to New Money. It eventually tapered away and then I started dating up the ladder on accident and became a little spoiled. NOT even Upper class, but def above poverty/working class level (which is where I grew up). When I met my Honey, I straight told him I am spoiled and used to not working a desk job and doing pretty much whatever I want most days. Well, he LIKED it. Crazy, yes? When i met him I was in a relationship with his business partner. He didn't care and wanted me anyways. He liked that I was pretty and desirable to other men, and he liked that I was wanted enough to the point that even my cheating boyfriend tried to MARRY me to get me back. I didn't understand it but I suppose it had something to do with my confidence. Because even though my ex treated me badly, I had this attitude like "F*ck him" and that I was going to be happy, regardless. And regal. Well, my bf told me he never wanted anything so badly in his life. I was extremely flattered! But HE was SO HOT, so smart, so funny and so clever that I even assumed he was out of my league. Imagine my surprise when he was practically mauling me, telling me he wanted me so badly? Now that we're together, we use our disposable income on beautifying our environment and looking like "Bo$$eS." Typical Leo/Scorpio. Our tastes suit each other. And he is a firm believer in "letting" people think they have the Veto on the little matters (color of paint for the house etc) but maintaining the "important" decision-making. That drives me up the wall even though I enjoy it every time he says "OK" to my small requests in how things should be. But I am trying to learn that he's The Man and I am in a partnership of which I respect, and therefore I have to tell him he has the ultimate Veto. I feel like he will be more generous if I concede more obviously, more often. You know, "behave" like a feminine creature, a creature that he desires and respects for being the feminine counterpart to his masculinity. We will see!

#3 SEX is very, very important.

Leo rules the 5th House of many things, but one is "sexy affairs." Scorpio rules the 8th House of many things, but one of them is "deep sex." A good sex life makes both Leo and Scorpio thrive and even stay in a a dramatic and rocky relationship. Interestingly enough, when both Leo and Scorpio are offended and feel distant from their lover, they may go frigid. However, this seems to happen more often with OTHER signs...NOT the Leo/Scorpio mix. I...have had several Scorpio lovers and I am ashamed to admit I "let" these men (I am straight) overpower me in a sense. I acquiesced "before my time" sexually a FEW times. I've made love to men from almost every Sun sign with the exception of Aquarius and Pisces, but none of them were as aggressive and insistent as the Scorpio ones. Actually...honestly, I felt in control of the situation in regards to sex with every lover EXCEPT Taurus and Scorpio. Perhaps it's that squared-combo(?) But I must say, only Scorpio has gone from zero to ten in a flash in regards to sexual petting. I have been in a few situations sitting opposite a Scorpio man who...seemed HARMLESS. Just sitting there and engaging in good conversation and not "flirting" at all in any discernible way. Then all of a sudden I was being furiously dry-humped by a man in a TRANCE and more times than not, have submitted and allowed myself to be ravaged. There is no less dramatic way of putting it, I'm afraid. This was Clue #1. Then when I actually dated a Scorpio, and then another one, I believed the online descriptions of this squared-relationship when they said: "Sex is all-important to both Leo and Scorpio." I adore every aspect of lovemaking from a Scorpio man because he puts his EVERYTHING into it. Being passionate and dramatic, myself, I NEED that to feel desired. AND I give it back! When my darling is loving me, I do everything to please him and gently caress, kiss, and nibble parts of him that I can reach, always trying to stay energetic and open to whatever he dishes out. The only problem is when he gets carried away and hurts me. This is rare but it happens nonetheless and it's frightening. But I know he almost never means it, and even so I take it without complaining. It's just another expression of passion, and it's the con that goes with the pro of him never losing interest. Two Scorpio boyfriends to date, and neither one has ever become frigid. LOL.