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Leolady82
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posted March 24, 2014 03:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Leolady82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
He is the sweetest man I've ever met, but he's only really sweet to me. He makes me his whole world, and fairly demands the same from me. If I was younger (I'm 31), I probably would let him down but fortunately for us, we met each other in the right stages of our lives. It's easy for me to devote myself to him and as we work together, we get to spend most of our time alone. And the majority of that time is spent kissing, hugging and cuddling, with lots of good conversation and laughs.

There is nothing quite like seeing a Scorpio man (with a Scorp rising and 5 other planets in Scorpio) actually RELAX, guard FULLY down, smiling brightly and EXUDING pure JOY. Aura ALMOST like a Leo's! And it's because of your love! I'm very proud to say I invoke that state in him. And that is NOT his natural state. My Scorpio wakes early, and cannot sit still. A workaholic, he one time in front of me, said to his business associate, "LAID BACK is NOT a word to describe me," and laughed ruefully. He worries and freaks out when the slightest thing goes awry in regards to his business. It's unsettling to me because I operate on sheer faith that Everything Will Work Out Fine. However, his mind works quickly, solving the problem, and I admire how he fixes everything, doing math impressively in his head, manages his sales captains, and relaxes (slightly) and moves on. He usually does it all pacing back and forth on the phone, which also unsettles me a bit, but he's in a crucial time in his life (he's 39) when so much is at stake. So I understand the urgency with which he operates. As a Leo woman, I'm very impressed and proud about how successful he is and how much money he's making, but I'm even more impressed with the fact that he does it all while being romantic, tender and sweet to ME. It's very touching that he ha said that I'M more important than his entire business and that our love is the most precious thing to him. Awww!

Is he moody? Emotional? Intense? Demanding? Jealous? Yes x 5! Do I mind? NOPE! He is The Man. There's no doubt in my mind, although I hate to say it, but in regards to SOME things, I am more brave and fearless. He has "lost everything" before many times, failed, been robbed, had guns to his head, had an ex hell-bent on destroying him, been forced to leave a state, and had to humble himself to work as a server and ride a bicycle to start over before. So yeah, he can be wary and pessimistic. He's told me before he thinks he's cursed. I smile inwardly because it's that 8th house of Regeneration at work. He's the Phoenix and he needs to accept that! My own life hasn't been THAT easy, but only in regards to heartbreak. I often end up in situations where I get breaks, gifts, assistance, love and admiration. I get pampered and treated like royalty, and consider myself extremely lucky. So to say we have different perspectives on our lives is an understatement. I work hard! But I EXPECT the universe to just provide everything I need, whereas he anticipates failure and setbacks. I'm slowly showing him Life can be a lot easier with a sunny outlook. He's skeptical, of course, but I can tell he's attracted to the idea.

What's it like living with and spending all day with a Scorpio man? WELL, it's very interesting, to say the least. Very rewarding. At 31, I have experienced a lot about men, as I have lived with several, and I've gotten to know myself quite well. I've lived alone and been celibate, working on myself and staying physically fit. I believe strongly in organic food, and have become quite balanced in my life, although I definitely have made many mistakes!!! This balance has stabilized my moods and if I am in a (short-lived) funk, I know exactly what I need to remedy it. THIS PROVES QUITE USEFUL in dealing with my Love. For example, one morning I left him to go to my gym and meet with my personal trainer (who is a good looking man and I employed BEFORE I met my boyfriend) for a workout session. I texted him to meet me for breakfast. He arrived and was in a bad mood. He said some things about my personal trainer (whom he's never met) that indicated he's not particularly pleased I have one that is a male. He went on to criticize how much beer we've been drinking over the weekend. He expressed worry over his business and one of his sales captains. I just listened to him. I didn't react negatively, even to his criticisms because a) he was right and I kind of agreed with him and b) he was in a bad mood, but he WASN'T being a d-ck about it (I have a moon in Aquarius and am a different kind of Leo). Towards the end of breakfast he changed it up and apologized for criticizing me. He THANKED me for "not taking advantage of" his bad mood by "not starting a fight." (Not sure where that came from, perhaps his ex girlfriends did that?) Then he shocked me by ACTUALLY SAYING, "You shine SO brightly and are so full of light. Sometimes I wonder what you even see in me." It broke my heart! I stood up and went over to hug him and kiss him and assured him of how wonderful he was. On the walk home from breakfast, guess who was smiling?? Yep, he was!

Yes, it is a huge surprise to me about how insecure he can act at times. He's very open with his emotions, thoughts, and inner turmoil so he always talks them through to me. Then he'll apologize for acting "so insecure." He may be a super Scorpio, but he's also human. I honestly seldom feel insecure myself. If anything I'm over-confident. He doesn't seem very resentful of that quality; in fact, I think it attracts him to me. This makes me feel proud. Don't get me wrong! He can be VERY confident, prideful, like a rooster, and he even kind of struts when he walks. I prefer when he is in that state. He's tall and slim with a great frame, extremely handsome and has beautiful green eyes. He's dated models/aspiring actresses and had women throw themselves at him since he was 14 (probably before but that's when he became sexually active). Yet I've never heard him say anything remotely sexist, and NEVER seen him display any superficiality. It's been obvious to me since I met him that he seeks people with hearts of gold and depths of character. He is aloof, even cold to women in my presence and even told me once, "If I had known I would have met you, I wouldn't have even bothered to date all those other b-tches." LOL! He sure knows how to make me feel special!! Just last night he told me I was the most beautiful girl he knows, and "it shows in everything you do and say and are." Awww! I, in turn, constantly shower him in love, affection and compliments that are genuine. He basks in it. We're DISGUSTING in private; all over each other and saying sweet nothings to each other all day and all night. Every morning when we wake up we immediately roll over and kiss each other, morning breath and all. AND the sex...

Our sex life is so graphic I can't even write about it here, but it HAS to be mentioned in some ways, I suppose, because it's a huge part of our lives. THIS man is SEXY. He is the sexiest man alive to me, hotter than any man I've ever seen on the cover of People magazine. He's got a rock star quality (indeed he was a lead singer in several bands for almost a decade) and innate swagger that makes me melt and turns me on. He even flashes a sexy smile and winks occasionally and pulls it off without seeming cheesy at all. I can't even describe it, but if you know anything about astrology, you can believe it as he has his Sun, Moon, rising, Mercury, Venus and Mars ALL in Scorpio. Sex appeal just RADIATES off of him and to say he's experienced in the sack is a sad understatement. I don't like to think about his past lovers and how he got to be so skilled, but I definitely appreciate the degree of his skill. He KNOWS how to please me and he's very original, spontaneous, creative, and downright raunchy at times. He is NOT squeamish AT ALL. Nothing crude or lewd I can say will offend him. He has an immense sense of humor in regards to sex, which I find very amusing and refreshing. I have my Sun, Venus and Mercury in the 8th House so I'm not very squeamish myself. When we make love, we both put our whole selves into it. What separates him from past lovers (except my ex Scorpio lovers I suppose) is that he is totally present the entire time. I have read many accounts online of Scorpio men. One account says "In one respect, sex with a Scorpio man who’s in love can be a sappy affair." This is true. Sometimes he is slow, sweet, and kisses a lot, focused entirely on my pleasure. Another account says, "When everything is quiet and romantic, he will grab you and drag you violently into bed." This is also true! At times he can get carried away and it's a little bit scary and a little bit painful. But it's never in a malicious manner, and I only find it exciting and fun. He is very in-tune to my reaction, and sometimes asks me how I'm doing and makes sure that he's not, in fact, hurting me that badly. He's very generous sexually; multiple and several-minute-long orgasms, me screaming his name and freaking out about how good he is...and on and on, are all common parts of my day. I also am generous, sexually submissive, and eager to do whatever he wants so I suppose it's easy for him to please me. I never tell him "no," because even if I'm not particularly in the mood, this man KNOWS FOREPLAY. A few minutes of making out and being touched softly and erotically and I'm ready to go! OK enough.

It's important to mention that a) we have the same values and morals; b) we share similar love natures; c) we are both very liberal politically and Bill Maher and Jon Stewart are our heroes; d) we both have BAs from Universities; e) we're very similar in our religious views; and d) family is important to us, even though he feels estranged and like the black sheep and it bothers him, whereas I am like the precious star in my family. Either way, this helps us get along despite the fact that the Leo-Scorpio relationship is supposed to be strained. In Chinese Astrology, he is a Tiger and I am a Dog, and that is a very good combo. We may both have big egos and like to be the Bo$$, but we BOTH admire that in each other. Of course he doesn't like me to "micro-manage" him, as he calls it, and of course, I don't like him to determine what I'm doing for the day all the time. Yes, I've given up my casual-party-social life to be with him most of the time. It doesn't bother me. With him, I save and MAKE money and am more responsible. He's making me grow up. I make him relax and have fun. We compliment each other very well and all my friends and family notice that and like him a lot.

When he gets overly drunk, he can be an ******* . Otherwise he's perfectly sweet to me. He isn't inclined to drink all that much, so it's only happened twice in 4 months. If I am feeling hormonal and irritable, I can be bitchy a bit. Guess what? He is just sweet and lets it go. I know, I can't believe it either. There have been times when I snapped at him and felt immediately bad about it and HE just apologized for being obtuse and moved on. I was stunned. HOWEVER, when I am just talking out my ass and say something I consider harmless, sometimes he will grow suspicious and bring it up later, accusing me of one thing or another. That is when I have to explain I was just in the world of ideas and it didn't mean anything. For example, I read an article about the importance of human touch, even if it's not from your significant other. I gave him an objective synopsis about the article. That was all. The next morning he brought it up and said he was confused because he thought I was hinting I wanted an open relationship. FAR FROM IT! I had to reassure him he misunderstood me. Oh boy, yeah he is SO jealous and even said, "I hate that about myself." If I am even friendly to a male stranger in public he will accuse me RIGHT THERE of acting "giddy." I wait until we are alone to reassure him and sometimes he gets embarrassed because he says he trusts me. We are very good about talking things out. Our communication is top notch. I like that he is so in tune and honest with his feelings, no matter how intense they are--and I tell him that! Funny, he NEVER EVER NOT ONCE tried to flirt with another woman to get revenge at me. He is SO loyal and faithful. I never worry about him on any level. From what I have read, and how he acts, he is WHIPPED. So am I! We're so in love.

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RunAroundScreaming
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posted March 27, 2014 02:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for RunAroundScreaming     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Made me smile

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posted March 27, 2014 03:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AscTaurus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh my goodness! A Leo lady in love. Full force!!!

Venus in Leo I presume?

Stand back, she's gonna blow!

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Leolady82
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posted March 28, 2014 04:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Leolady82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Haha! No, Venus in Cancer in the 8th House

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posted March 28, 2014 05:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jo B     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Made me smile

Made ME wonder where my sex life has gone! lol

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posted March 29, 2014 01:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RunAroundScreaming     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by AscTaurus:
Oh my goodness! A Leo lady in love. Full force!!!

Venus in Leo I presume?

Stand back, she's gonna blow!



hahaha

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posted April 02, 2014 02:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Scorpiocat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It sounds as though you've met your soul mate. As a Scorpio he can't help being possessive. I like your positive attitude, I hope it works out for you long term.

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posted April 03, 2014 09:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Leolady82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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It sounds as though you've met your soul mate. As a Scorpio he can't help being possessive. I like your positive attitude, I hope it works out for you long term.

Thank you very much. I have high hopes it will!

I know that my honey is right for me. Life with him is EASY and we spend most of our time together. Three hours in the car alone, shopping trips, AND working on building a greenhouse together and every minute is easy and pleasant. Yeah, sure, he pretty much tells me what to do and how. But he's sweet about it, and nothing is unreasonable or idiotic. Therefore, it's easy just to please him, as I recognize it's for the greater good and I knew he needs to be in control when I first read his natal chart! He's the only man I've dated who has taken care of MY needs IN FULL. So, of course, the reward is even greater than the work. :-)

He has told me I'm the only woman with whom he's ever told that he wants to have a baby. At dinner a week ago, he told me he wants to grow old with me, and his eyes welled up with tears right in the restaurant! But he managed not to cry. He tears up sometimes; I'm used to it by now. The first time it happened my Aquarius Moon kind of panicked. Haha! Now I just smile at him.

He always knows when something is wrong with me and I can never lie to him. This actually makes me feel relaxed, because it relieves me of the burden of having to hide myself in any way. No hormonal funk, bad mood, or trouble in mind of mine scares him. He's like a great protector. Sometimes when we're cuddling, he strokes my hair and head and back like...I don't know, like a FATHER would. It feels wonderful. My own dad was only 20 when I was born, and absentee. So maybe it's a sensation on which I missed out and didn't know. Before him, my long-term relationships were with an Aries and a couple Geminis so I was used to "boys" in some respect. My Scorpio is all Man. He actually sort of acts like the symbolic middle-aged man that Astrology dictates the stage of life of which Scorpio represents. I'm a Leo, the "teenager," and yes sometimes he makes me feel shy during foreplay like I'm inexperienced and being seduced by an older man! Granted, he treats me with respect and there isn't any Daddy Complex in our normal lives. When he kisses me, I melt and simultaneously feel swept off my feet. I tell him that, too, and he loves it. In fact, ANY praise or compliment I have (they're all genuine, of course) he enjoys hearing. He calls me his beautiful Princess, Love of My Life, and Gorgeous on a daily basis. He doesn't give a rat's ass about public displays of affection like I hear most Scorpios can't stand, and will make out with me on the streets. He says "You're the perfect girlfriend for me," and "no one has ever loved me like you do." I feel the same!

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posted April 03, 2014 09:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Leolady82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, he's not perfect. For those of you wondering how a person with so much Scorpio in his chart has such a shining review... (I only say that because it seems like a lot of people talk smack about Scorpios)

He has a self-declared "short temper." Is it explosive? Yes. Surprisingly he doesn't take it out on me, but then again I don't give him a reason to be mad. The good news is usually within 20-45 minutes he calms down almost entirely and apologizes for his tantrum. Some people say that Scorpio men don't ever say they're sorry. Mine does every day! For something! I read this about Scorpio men: "In the Scorpio’s defense, he knows life with him isn’t easy, and he almost has to fight the urge to apologize to his partner upon waking each day in advance of the difficulty she may have to face." This made me laugh and laugh and it's totally and completely true. He doesn't seem to give a f-ck what people think about him, but he acts obsessed with how I think about him. I understand; I also care deeply about his opinion of me. But day-to-day, I only apologize if I feel it is warranted, and usually there's nothing to apologize for.

His jealousy is a little bit harder to deal with. Recently and after I wrote my first post, he popped an odd conversation on me. He will randomly accuse me of this or that behavior when I talk to other men around him that is unreasonable and incorrect. For example, he has accused me of leaving him out of the conversation. Going back in time, there was no way I could have avoided that, and I WASN'T being rude. He doesn't accuse me of being rude. In fact, he has very little empirical evidence of me doing anything "wrong" at all. Yet his statements of "ganging up against him" sound chilling to me. THAT'S the LAST thing I want to do! I have cut pretty much all of my straight male friends out of my life to focus on him, and I don't go out and have fun without him much. For one thing, I'm "tame" at this point, for another, he means a lot to me and I get this uneasy feeling (and all of Astrology descriptions of Scorpios say this) that he'd feel betrayed if I even enjoyed myself much without him. The THOUGHT of him knowing I had even hung out with another man and done nothing but chat in a friendly manner makes me shudder. I'm hoping that with time, he'll trust me more and relax. "They say" men don't change, but it's said that Scorpio people will evolve for the person they truly love. He's intelligent, so I think someday I won't have to worry. But when he springs up imaginary mutinies on me it's unsettling, blood-curdling, and disorienting. Fortunately, when I disagree and explain how I believe the events of social interaction really went down, he lets it go. I think he knows he is wrong sometimes, even though he doesn't admit it very often.

Our only huge fight happened in the beginning of our relationship when we first started living together, and he was very drunk. He tried to call me "B-tch," and to tell me "F-ck you." I calmly got up on my soapbox and explained that that was unacceptable and hurt my feelings, and I would NOT be disrespected like that. I also stated that I had no desire to talk to HIM like that. He then argued that I listen to rap music, and they say all sorts of horrible things about women, so what's the difference? I explained that rappers aren't HIM and they aren't addressing ME personally, so it wasn't the same thing at all. He went on to describe growing up with some British ambassadors' family members who regularly told each other to "f-ck off," and "f-ck you" isn't even that insulting. I found his argument weak and pointed out the obvious that I wasn't British. We argued into the night, and I became exhausted. Neither of us backed down and began repeating ourselves. We butted heads/locked horns/etc. At one point he irrationally accused ME of "trying to wear the pants." As if??!! The next morning he apologized, but wasn't exactly sure for what. He wouldn't admit he was wrong, and he wouldn't say he wouldn't say things like that to me again, but he hasn't, since. He also said he wasn't prepared for me to stand up for myself like that. He seemed to respect me more after that night. And I told him the only time he may call me "B-tch" is when we're having sex, in a kinky manner. ;-) A few weeks after that he said in a dangerous voice, while he was banging me from behind, "Do you like that, B-tch?" I merely said, "yes" because it was what we agreed upon! So I didn't have any problem with it.

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posted April 04, 2014 10:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jo B     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It sounds like you're both really into each other. It's good you acknowledge the difficulties as well as the wonderful bits. Shows you're not painting it as perfect, just passionate.

My Scorpio (much) younger man love interest who I've known since September last night suddenly told me he could see us as a couple although he needs to put relationships on the back burner until he's sorted his career out. (His family are fairly traditional with high expectations of him.) He doesn't care about the age gap. It's quite flattering really because he gets a TON of attention from other women and is just not interested. I'm still trying to adopt the nurturing role, he knows I'm his biggest fan and I so want him to succeed and be happy in life whether that's with me in it or with another woman. Quite honestly I see him with a younger woman eventually as I cannot have kids anymore and he's the kind of person who will have everything in life. Deep down I have such pure love and respect for him it's quite special for me, but I strongly believe what will be will be with us. Already he's filled a gap in my life and for that I'm grateful.

Our friendship is mostly calm, deep and loving, hardly any conflict. I'm Virgo sun, he has Virgo moon. It contrasts to a "thing" I'm having with another guy who is Libra sun and we are constantly disagreeing, but in a much more sparky, even spunky way. It's like he pulls me up on things I need pulling up on! lol. The sexual attraction is raw and high there, but lacks the emotional depth and calm I feel with Scorpio man.

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posted April 04, 2014 11:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Leolady82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That is so cool about your deep feelings for your Scorpio. I don't know, would you be willing to just be his romantic companion as he builds up his little empire? Does he know about your Libra love interest or mind?

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I haven't "consummated" my sexual interest with either of them, Leolady, they are quite different and I think good for me in different ways. At the moment these guys are just friends, with potential for more. But my deep longing goes for Scorpio guy romantically, it just feels very strong and spiritual with him, like something I can't pull myself away from, even if I wanted to. I've tried, but there's an emptiness afterwards that only someone like him can fill.

I also like that he's aware of the effect he has on other people yet doesn't take advantage of it, even hates it sometimes. Good moral character I suppose. And yes I'm quite happy to see him work hard towards success and "us" to stay on the backburner for a while, I have stuff to do as well lol. What's nice is he said if there were hundreds of girls approaching him until then (which is likely, he has this "je ne sais quois" that some people have), he wouldn't be interested in anyone else.

Anyway, this is your thread. It's nice to read someone's experience.

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posted April 05, 2014 11:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Leolady82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted April 05, 2014 02:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Leolady82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This site wasn't letting me post on my thread for some reason! Hope this works...

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I also like that he's aware of the effect he has on other people yet doesn't take advantage of it, even hates it sometimes. Good moral character I suppose. And yes I'm quite happy to see him work hard towards success and "us" to stay on the backburner for a while, I have stuff to do as well lol.

He sounds like a great friend, a friend for life, if nothing romantic every comes to fruition. And I like this; my Scorpio man is similar. Because he's tall, thin, wiry with a good frame, hot, sexy...i could go on and on! Oh, also with a sensual, velvety voice...because of all this, women fall all over him and he has taken a defense mechanism of being aloof and "cold" to women. He's claimed that if he's nice and shows them attention, they fall in love. It sounded arrogant to me and I initially balked, but I didn't judge him, that was just a gut reaction. In a split second I could see that happening and knew he was telling the truth.

I don't think that extremely good-looking Scorpios with a ton of Scorpio in their charts appreciate being over-sexualized by entranced others. I know I don't personally appreciate it when a man comes on like a freight train. I don't NEED that kind of attention at this point in my life, as I'm secure and comfortable with myself. Especially not now that all my romantic and emotional (AND sexual and on and on) needs are being met by my Love. :-) No doubt your Scorpio soulmate/friend is looking for something larger than animal attraction...

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posted April 05, 2014 03:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Leolady82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I haven't "consummated" my sexual interest with either of them, Leolady, they are quite different and I think good for me in different ways. At the moment these guys are just friends, with potential for more.

Ah, I was going to add: perhaps you two are meant to be close friends for life. I think that if you "consummated," MAYBE with the two of you being who you are, you could easily remain close and not let sex complicate things. if you choose not to, I can understand and I might say that could be a good call. I have "lost" male "friends" before by allowing sexual interaction (not necessarily intercourse but that, too) to make things awkward when one person wanted more of it and the other backed off. Usually it was the GUY who wanted more, but a couple of cases I wanted to have more sex and my lover ended it. Therefore, I am wary.

Being so in love with my Scorpio, all that is over! However, before we got together, I was contemplating acquiescing to an Aries-Sun Pisces-Moon guy friend's flirtations, but not seriously, for a few reasons.

Aries guy is 6'4", half Indian half white, a hip-hop artist and music producer from Chicago, and very funny, witty, knowledgeable about music (very important in my life), with a beautiful baby face that's also quite handsome. BUT!!! We've been friends for almost 4 years and most of that time, one of us had a significant other and we never flirted unless we both fell single. Well, that only happened for a few weeks two times in those years. About two years ago we flirted and went on ONE date. He doesn't drink alcohol and at the time, I did, and I drank while on the date and he didn't say anything, but I think it turned him off. I learned a few months ago that yes, he won't date a drinker. We enjoyed each other's company that evening but we didn't kiss. After that he seemed to lose interest in persuing me but was still friendly and answered me if I emailed or texted. My self esteem was OK, actually: I decided sure, I was being rejected, but ACTUALLY I valued his friendship and my gut said: if I got "butthurt" and rude, or threw myself at him, I'd lose him as a friend. So I backed off.

I got back with my ex at the time, and we continued being casual friends. When I fell single again, he knew I had quit drinking and he flirted again. I was already interested in my current boyfriend, but even if I wasn't I would have told him the same thing: "We're just FRIENDS, right?" That cooled him off. When I see him, he seems to be physically attracted to me and kind of acts nervous and looks at my body when he thinks I'm not looking. But he's respectful and doesn't flirt anymore, and when we hug he does NOT hold on in a sensual manner. He is a FRIEND. And we don't hang out often. Since I became serious with my Scorpio, I don't make efforts to even hang out but I will text occasionally (we both deactivated our FB accounts in December) and he always answers, but it's short and polite and never more than a few in a 24 hour period. Basically, we're legit. I value his friendship and no matter what happens, I won't ever lay a finger on him even if something happened to my boyfriend and me (it won't.)

He SURE is cute, though :-)

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posted April 05, 2014 03:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jo B     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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He sounds like a great friend, a friend for life, if nothing romantic every comes to fruition. And I like this; my Scorpio man is similar. Because he's tall, thin, wiry with a good frame, hot, sexy...i could go on and on! Oh, also with a sensual, velvety voice...because of all this, women fall all over him and he has taken a defense mechanism of being aloof and "cold" to women. He's claimed that if he's nice and shows them attention, they fall in love. It sounded arrogant to me and I initially balked, but I didn't judge him, that was just a gut reaction. In a split second I could see that happening and knew he was telling the truth.

I don't think that extremely good-looking Scorpios with a ton of Scorpio in their charts appreciate being over-sexualized by entranced others. I know I don't personally appreciate it when a man comes on like a freight train. I don't NEED that kind of attention at this point in my life, as I'm secure and comfortable with myself. Especially not now that all my romantic and emotional (AND sexual and on and on) needs are being met by my Love. :-) No doubt your Scorpio soulmate/friend is looking for something larger than animal attraction...


Wow, you're so right. He is definitely wanting more than animal attraction. He often just likes to hide away from the attention he gets! lol. I think it's quite
endearing really. He has this quiet, Bruce Lee-type confidence which draws people to him. I'm also flattered that he considers me cool enough to be girlfriend material for the future (I'm in no rush either really, got my own life to sort out!). I'm not bothered by the attention he gets, I actually encourage him to take advantage of it in terms of career options. He's already being head-hunted and I think good luck to him. He works (and plays!) hard and deserves every success.

It's good that you are comfortable with your boyfriend getting attention from other women. Many woman would be threatened by that or feel insecure. I think guys like yours would appreciate a partner who doesn't get jealous about that. You have your own life and that's attractive to them.

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posted April 05, 2014 05:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Leolady82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hehe! I ONLY get threatened when my man obviously seems like he will stray...OR if a girl aggressively acts like she will try to take him away. Everything else I consider inconsequential. Even if I feel that slight jealous "ping," I'll reason it away. Air-sign Moon at work?

My Love actively and regularly tells me things, genuine things, to make me feel like I am the best and only female that keeps his attention. He also often stresses that I'm the only woman he'll EVER want again. So...how am I going to get insecure?? LOL

"They say" a Scorpio truly in love will obsessively only want the object of his affections, and want her all the time, every day, and intensely unless he wants Alone Time. This is true for mine compounded by 6. Except he never wants time alone. I think one of the best compliments he told me recently was, "Being with you is like being alone, but in a good way." He meant I don't annoy him. Pretty romantic, huh?

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posted April 05, 2014 05:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jo B     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Aww that’s really nice, he sounds lovely. You may have mentioned it already somewhere else, but what’s your moon sign, Venus and Asc?
I think that’s true about Scorpios would only need Alone Time in addition to time with their partner. My (potential!) Scorpio bf is the same. I can appreciate that because as I do like alone time myself, but when we talk it’s like we just get straight to the heart of the matter or feelings and are very honest with each other, no games or pretence. With fire or air sign boyfriends I’m more flirtatious and playful, but somehow don’t feel so true to myself. I like the underlying passion and strength of this guy. He feels loyal. And I am drawn to men who have charisma and inner confidence, it makes me feel more secure because although I give off the appearance of being confident and in control, I do have a few underlying security issues, probably stemming from a cloudy relationship with my own father (mixed feelings of love and hate, feelings of self-worth and low self esteem based on his opinion of me as his daughter). Anyway…. That’s another matter. Lol.

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posted April 05, 2014 05:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Leolady82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Wow, you're so right. He is definitely wanting more than animal attraction. He often just likes to hide away from the attention he gets! lol. I think it's quite
endearing really. He has this quiet, Bruce Lee-type confidence which draws people to him. I'm also flattered that he considers me cool enough to be girlfriend material for the future (I'm in no rush either really, got my own life to sort out!). I'm not bothered by the attention he gets, I actually encourage him to take advantage of it in terms of career options. He's already being head-hunted and I think good luck to him. He works (and plays!) hard and deserves every success.

It's good that you are comfortable with your boyfriend getting attention from other women. Many woman would be threatened by that or feel insecure. I think guys like yours would appreciate a partner who doesn't get jealous about that. You have your own life and that's attractive to them.


I wanted to mention, your guy seems like a great person and he obviously appreciates your shining virtues. I definitely wish both of you happiness and success. :-)

And on the topic of attractiveness and my general character...when I met my boyfriend, I was instantly attracted BUT I thought it would never happen because a) I had a boyfriend and they were business partners and b) I truly thought he was out of my league. He was just so gorgeous, successful and sexy, seemed like he could have any woman he wanted. So guess what I did when we talked? I was just totally myself. I had NO tension from "wanting" him or needing him to want me. I was very sweet, but knew he couldn't ever be mine. Therefore I had no need to disassemble or flirt.

Well, this caused him to fall for me. The whole story is long and scandalous, but it was the best move of our lives and we're so lucky :-)

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posted April 05, 2014 05:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Leolady82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow, totally!! Yes, Scorpios are LOYAL when they're serious about you and know they can trust you, too!!

I'm a Leo Sun Aquarius Moon Sag Rising, Venus in Cancer Mars and Jupiter in Scorpio. 8/4/82 4:44pm Port Angeles, WA USA. He's 11/14/74 6am Washington D.C. USA

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posted April 05, 2014 05:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jo B     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Well, this caused him to fall for me. The whole story is long and scandalous, but it was the best move of our lives and we're so lucky :-)

Maybe (to other people, not me, I'm pretty open-minded), but in matters of love it's very difficult to control ones feelings or actions. All is fair in love and war as they say! Good luck to you. If you're both happy and it's not hurting anyone else then who is anyone else to judge?

Did you see my post before yours, btw, asking what your moon, venus and asc signs are?

[edit - oops, we seem to be posting simultaneously!]

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posted April 05, 2014 10:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Leolady82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Tonight, at dinner, at the bar (we ate at the bar), in front of the server and the guy sitting around us, my sweetie said with no reservations, "Baby, I love you so much. I hit the jackpot with you."

I appreciate him so much!! What a doll! And the (older, overweight, but nice) female bartender was like totally enthralled with him and he was so cute and nice to her. Seriously though, I could tell she thought he was hot as hell. He is!! Daaaamn...

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posted April 06, 2014 05:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jo B     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
lol. But you must feel like the cat who got the cream.

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posted April 11, 2014 09:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SunMoonStars     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Why did you feel the need to say the female bartender was "older, overweight but nice"?

And that he was so cute and nice to her...? (did you mean: despite her being older and overweight?)

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